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What would you do NT? Vol. Celibacy
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My wife and I were celibate for two years before we were married. It's very tough, but worth it. I have a beautiful daughter now, wouldn't change one aspect about the way our relationship developed.
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No sex for 2 years? Were you locked up?
No sex for 2 years? Were you locked up?
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U at least get dome?
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To answer a few questions: no, I wasn't locked up and to the dome question, let's just say we did things. Trust me, 4/5 years ago I'd be asking the same questions in a post like this.
If someone would've told me that the night I left my place that I would meet my future wife, that would give me a child, help to get certain things in my life lined up and have inlaws that are awesome, but I would have to trade that for no sex for two years...i would probably say have said, "nah, I need my yams " lol.
I think it all has to do with where you're at in life, I told my wife numerous times that if i would have met her a few months prior we wouldn't have worked out.
If someone would've told me that the night I left my place that I would meet my future wife, that would give me a child, help to get certain things in my life lined up and have inlaws that are awesome, but I would have to trade that for no sex for two years...i would probably say have said, "nah, I need my yams " lol.
I think it all has to do with where you're at in life, I told my wife numerous times that if i would have met her a few months prior we wouldn't have worked out.
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sex is an important factor when looking at budding relationship from a holistic standpoint....
No doubt, if the sex isnt wild good then I don't see how a long term relationship would work out. It's human nature, if your partner can't provide great sex then it would be natural to seek it elsewhere at some point. Never could comprehend how these religious folks wait until marriage. Just seems like you need all information possible to know you're making a good decision that could last for the rest of your life.
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So you never been in a relationship where your sexual partner wasnt so great but then got gradually better after telling them what you like.....
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Dudes concerned about the wrong thing
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I see your point and I agree to an extent. I don't think that changes how the female approaches sex, feels comfortable in her own skin, and open or close minded, etc. its all part of sexual chemistry, that's tough to manufacture.
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One year ago, my answer on this would be totally different.
I'm around OP's age, a few years older. All my past relationships, sex was very important. Actually most of my relationships had sex as the foundation of it.
I do have a different outlook now and it does have a part to do with my faith. I've realized that chasing sex and having it as a top priority in my relationships has led me to making bad decisions and blinded me on other issues that existed in the relationship.
I'm down for celibacy, I think it builds a solid foundation in the relationship and you get to you know your girl on whole new level because you are not swayed by sexual desires. You like the girl for who she really is, not what she can do in bed. That's just icing on the cake...
That's just my 2 cents.
OP, if you think the girl is worth it and you can envision a future with her, I would say go for it! You don't want to look back and let a good one slip away because sex took a backseat for a bit. As men, of course its not easy but also gives you control of your desires.
Some of the best rewards require great sacrifice. Good luck OP!
I'm around OP's age, a few years older. All my past relationships, sex was very important. Actually most of my relationships had sex as the foundation of it.
I do have a different outlook now and it does have a part to do with my faith. I've realized that chasing sex and having it as a top priority in my relationships has led me to making bad decisions and blinded me on other issues that existed in the relationship.
I'm down for celibacy, I think it builds a solid foundation in the relationship and you get to you know your girl on whole new level because you are not swayed by sexual desires. You like the girl for who she really is, not what she can do in bed. That's just icing on the cake...
That's just my 2 cents.
OP, if you think the girl is worth it and you can envision a future with her, I would say go for it! You don't want to look back and let a good one slip away because sex took a backseat for a bit. As men, of course its not easy but also gives you control of your desires.
Some of the best rewards require great sacrifice. Good luck OP!
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Tell her to grow up. She is too damn old to talking celibacy. And think about it. What if you wait for a long *** time and when you finally slide in and its terrible. The yambs went bad or the yambs were never good to begin with. If it was for religious purposes I would respect that. But if she's trying to hold that carrot up at 30 she going to be disappointed. Unless she is a dime like Megan Good. But people have and always will have sex if its a option.
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There is no such thing as sexual chemistry if she looks good and I'm attracted to her and she wants to learn.....
I don't know how much times I have to teach a girl and honestly I've had to be taught myself
Sex is very important in a relationship but there will be times where sex has to be put on the back burner illness, children, distance etc. So when those times come will you be able to stand your girl. Or will everything she does annoy you. I don't know about celibacy for years but I'm ok with some months.
I don't know how much times I have to teach a girl and honestly I've had to be taught myself
Sex is very important in a relationship but there will be times where sex has to be put on the back burner illness, children, distance etc. So when those times come will you be able to stand your girl. Or will everything she does annoy you. I don't know about celibacy for years but I'm ok with some months.
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Why is this even a question. You two are on different wave-lengths, move on. If you want a future with her, wait it out. Maybe she cave, maybe not, but it sounds as if she has made her expectations clear, the ball is in your court.
And if she caves, she will experience cognitive dissonance, which will be a crappy state to be in.
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dont agree with that. ive had a few ltr and tho they can learn / do different things some girls just "feel" better then others.
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Sex is the glue that holds a serious relationship together. Can't have wack sex or be sexually incompatible and expect to flourish. Next thing you no she's gonna say she doesnt do oral. What you gonna then OP?
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For the right chick, I'd definitely wait it out.
But she'd have to be head and shoulders more attractive than anything else I could pull.
I ain't dealing with celibate chick that's on par with the non-celibate chicks that I could gat at.
But she'd have to be head and shoulders more attractive than anything else I could pull.
I ain't dealing with celibate chick that's on par with the non-celibate chicks that I could gat at.
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So much lame advice in here 
She's obviously been heardbroken with those previous long term relationships. Shes 29. She's in her 4th quarter, and knows it. Thats why shes telling you about this celibacy thing OP. It'll weed out the scrubs who just want sex, and the real men who are on the same page as her. Men who want a real commitment.
Sex is a important part of a relationship as you said OP. But def not that important for y'all. You guys only been together for 2 months. Sex is an important part of a serious relationship, which y'all arent even in. You two haven't even hit the tip of the iceberg in terms of knowing eachother.
If you're really feeling her OP throw sex out the window for a min. Because it def does complicate a early relationship sometimes. Tell her that. That'll put cause her to put her guard down. You shouldnt have told her sex is important. Makes you seem like you just want in her pants even if you dont.
Play it her way, and trust me you'll be in before you know it.
I've been there OP. Trust me on this.
She's obviously been heardbroken with those previous long term relationships. Shes 29. She's in her 4th quarter, and knows it. Thats why shes telling you about this celibacy thing OP. It'll weed out the scrubs who just want sex, and the real men who are on the same page as her. Men who want a real commitment.
Sex is a important part of a relationship as you said OP. But def not that important for y'all. You guys only been together for 2 months
. Sex is an important part of a serious relationship, which y'all arent even in. You two haven't even hit the tip of the iceberg in terms of knowing eachother. If you're really feeling her OP throw sex out the window for a min. Because it def does complicate a early relationship sometimes. Tell her that. That'll put cause her to put her guard down. You shouldnt have told her sex is important. Makes you seem like you just want in her pants even if you dont.
Play it her way, and trust me you'll be in before you know it.
I've been there OP. Trust me on this.
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did you sleep with other women?
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Sex isn't the deciding factor on whether you're going to marry a girl or not
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