Stories of Ghosting?

kellyrep · Jul 25, 2015

Ghosting is breaking up a relationship through disappearing rather than leaving an explanation . Would like to hear if you've ever done it or had it done to you You can also share your thoughts on it.

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aepps20 · Jul 25, 2015

I personally think it's cowardly and weak. I think you owe people a definitive statement (in person, over the phone, via text) that you're not interested in pursuing a relationship any longer. People don't realize the emotional damage that is done to a person when you just cut off all communication without a statement that the relationship is over. I haven't done this or had it done to me, but I know people that have had it done to them and it is bush league.

nazdrowie · Jul 25, 2015

i like to tell women I'm first meeting that something like this happened and I'm feeling vulnerable, women eat that **** up...

it hasnt worked yet, but I'm a half glass full kind of person...

1c3m4m · Jul 25, 2015

^ lol it will work soon, keep hope alive

AEA18 · Jul 25, 2015

Read the title and thought this was going to be a thread about late night ghost visits like in Ghostbusters

D.Josey · Jul 25, 2015

This speaks to people's social ineptitudes more than anything. Either that or people just don't give a **** anymore.

Comparison Ford · Jul 25, 2015

All in favor to change this to a ghost stories thread say "aye."

John Wick · Jul 25, 2015

flyeed · Jul 25, 2015

Thought this was gunna be about ghost riding the whip

kellyrep · Jul 25, 2015

Comparison Ford said:
All in favor to change this to a ghost stories thread say "aye."

LOL.

DCAllAfrican · Jul 25, 2015

Kelly why do you think so many men leave you without explanation?

You have a good job

kingkoopa · Jul 25, 2015

Plenty of times

It wasn't like I was seriously in love with any of them.

We'd play for a few months then on to the next.

I don't owe you no damn explanation.

I thought that's how everyone cut off they chicks.

kellyrep · Jul 25, 2015

aepps20 said:
I personally think it's cowardly and weak. I think you owe people a definitive statement (in person, over the phone, via text) to the person that you're not interested in pursuing a relationship any longer. People don't realize the emotional damage that is done to a person when you just cut off all communication without a statement that the relationship is over. I haven't done this or had it done to me, but I know people that have had it done to them and it is bush league.

One of my uncles had it done to him. He went on a business trip, came back home to an empty house. His wife had moved all of her stuff out.

Had it done to me a while ago and the man legitimately did it to hurt me because I told him the first time we met that it was one of my biggest fears. And it's true, that you can actually think that something happened to the other person. It took some reflecting but I realized that I dodged a bullet . He showed how immature and vindictive he could be and that situation played out to my advantage in the end.

When I was in HS, I went to use my brother's cell and saw all these messages from a girl he stopped responding to after sleeping with her. There was message after message saying, " Are you really doing this to me?" Felt so bad for the girl I almost confronted him. I didn't and to this day have never brought it up but it did change how innocent I thought he was.

Thought that there would be more stories.

kellyrep · Jul 25, 2015

DCAllAmerican said:
Kelly why do you think so many men leave you without explanation?

You have a good job

I brought up one person. I'm secure enough to admit to it but he was being vindictive. It just hurt that I'd spent time, energy, and invested feelings into him.

Oh well....found somebody else.

DCAllAfrican · Jul 25, 2015

Sometimes you just have to let God handle the unseen. If dude left you that is his mistake. God has better plans but you have to trust the process and not ask questions

oidreez · Jul 25, 2015

I've done it when taking girls out on first or second dates and I've had it done to me as well. Yea it sucks having it done to you but I can't complain if I've done it to others

panaricanretro · Jul 25, 2015

I've done it once or twice but never to anyone I was in a serious relationship with. Did it once with a girl I went on a couple of dates with but we hadn't smashed yet or anything. **** just started turning into the Maury show. Ex boyfriend that came home from jail was answering her phone and making little sideways comments, she kept saying she wanted me to meet her kids, etc. It's been 2 dates and you want me to meet your kids? If you were my baby moms I'd lose my **** if you kept introducing all your dates to my kids.

Just stopped calling her. Felt kind of bad but I was young and immature and didn't have a polite way to just say "you've got waaaay too much baggage"

slighted · Jul 25, 2015

DCAllAmerican said:
Kelly why do you think so many men leave you without explanation?

You have a good job

DCAllAmerican said:
Sometimes you just have to let God handle the unseen. If dude left you that is his mistake. God has better plans but you have to trust the process and not ask questions

Master level trolling.

superblytrife · Jul 25, 2015

I did this once back in college. Looking back, it was a ***** move. She was getting too clingy and I didn't know how to let it be known without being a douche. Apparently I thought being an even bigger douche was the answer. :smh:

Oddly enough though, the chick and I remained friends after linking back up after a few months worth of silence from me. We kicked it often as we had several mutual friends.

dakingii · Jul 25, 2015

KingKoopa said:
Plenty of times

It wasn't like I was seriously in love with any of them.

We'd play for a few months then on to the next.

I don't owe you no damn explanation.

I thought that's how everyone cut off they chicks.

Same here. I wont go completely silent at first, ill just talk to you less and less then go silent. Never for any chicks ive been in a relationship with though only temporary flings.

kingfoamnyc · Jul 25, 2015

Happens to me all the time.

airedweezy · Jul 25, 2015

They have done it to me and next time I run into them they act like nothing ever happened and ask me how I've been :lol:

.......... :frown:

ksteezy · Jul 25, 2015

I thought this was gonna be about when you poop and look down and there is no logs in the toilet :nerd:

Mark Antony · Jul 25, 2015

**** happens, i've done it, had it done to me. It wasn't serious so it wasn't bad. Only time it bugged me was when I was trying to reconcile with an ex and she hit me with it. But still not so bad, it was actually expected in that situation.

cubanref · Jul 25, 2015

My boy used to do this all the time...he would tell me he was gonna get his Patrick Swayze on

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