Is avoiding confrontation/fighting some one cowardly or more mature?

julesbeats

julesbeats

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Going thru a lil internal conflict with myself at the moment...
Long story short, I was riding my bike and in the distance I saw some dude who stold about 150 from me like 8 months ago.

Part of me was telling myself to go approach him and get it popping, but second nature made me keep heading home and keep it moving cuz it wasn't worth it. Now I feel like a ***** for not doing nothing, smh but it wasn't like I was gonna get my $ back anyway. What are yalls thoughts?
 
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Getting angry is easy but staying cool and peaceful is not some passive thing it takes concentrated mental energy. Its harder.

Somebody would have 2 hit me first but your situation got sum variables op like how much moneys we talkin.
 
Case by case. For the most part, avoid any bs. Only brokebois wanna fight, a lot of suckas out there. That being said I get into confrontations a lot, that I don't even look for. 
 
$150 isn't worth the potential consequences of handing out a potential shoulder clap(unless you bout that life). Take the L and move on.
 
JulesBeats said:
Going thru a lil internal conflict with myself at the moment...
Long story short, I was riding my bike and in the distance I saw some dude who stold about 150 from me like 8 months ago.

Part of me was telling myself to go approach him and get it popping, but second nature made me keep heading home and keep it moving cuz it wasn't worth it. Now I feel like a ***** for not doing nothing, smh but it wasn't like I was gonna get my $ back anyway. What are yalls thoughts?
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Only you can truly answer that. But given that you've been thinking about it enough to make a thread, I'm assuming you felt like a bit of a punk.

It all depends on the circumstances and where you're at in life. In my opinion, I don't think you acted as a coward. You simply weighed the options and felt $150 isn't worth you, him or both of y'all ending up in a hospital and then jail. That's just a wise decision. Now if the boy had stepped to you, or you somehow ran into each other and you made no mention of your money, then that's a cowardly act.

And what do you mean, stole? He jacked you? Or you loaned him the money and ducked you ever since? Now if he jacked you, then yeah, you should've hit `em up.
 
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 A lot of people step to me, unprovoked. In any city I inhabit, no shame in my game. However, I'm not one to take that lightly especially when I'm minding my own business. That's just what it is. Fighting is never cool, its lame as hell. But I've been in situations where I had no choice. This will continue. 
 
Not as bad as some of these dudes who'd let a man piss on em.

Still pretty bad tho.

Too old to go looking for trouble but I'm not letting disrespect or in your case theft just slide.

Gotta stand up for yourself.
 
End of the day you're the only person you gotta answer to; there's no simple right or wrong answer; do what you feel is right.
 
$150 is something worth getting pissed off over.  You could consider the Sonny from Bronx Tale approach and view it as paying $150 to have a problem out of your life for good at the same time as well though.

But the older you get, what Gentrification said is spot on about broke bois wanting to fight. Especially if you show growth as a person both maturity wise and career wise. I've noticed that at certain bars and hangout spots I would frequent regularly that something would almost always pop off. I started to look at it as dudes who really don't have much going for them and have nothing to lose, so their quick to turn the most minimal things into a physical confrontation. 

But in regards to avoiding confrontation, if you got a wife and kids, good job, decent life, or some combination of those things, who cares about proving yourself to some loser on their tough guy stuff, who cares about being considered a punk to some idiot who got nothing to lose. Obviously if they try to put hands on you, you gotta defend yourself and hopefully press charges against the aggressor after you defend yourself, but its just best to be the bigger person and walk away from these situations most the time. Especially in a day and age where fair ones don't exist most the time, dudes will be quick to pull a knife or gun out because their pride got hurt. Its more so realizing what you got going for yourself and not letting some idiot potentially mess that up. 
 
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Only you can truly answer that. But given that you've been thinking about it enough to make a thread, I'm assuming you felt like a bit of a punk.

It all depends on the circumstances and where you're at in life. In my opinion, I don't think you acted as a coward. You simply weighed the options and felt $150 isn't worth you, him or both of y'all ending up in a hospital and then jail. That's just a wise decision. Now if the boy had stepped to you, or you somehow ran into each other and you made no mention of your money, then that's a cowardly act.

And what do you mean, stole? He jacked you? Or you loaned him the money and ducked you ever since? Now if he jacked you, then yeah, you should've hit `em up.
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Had him hold on to something for me cuz I got into a crash and had to skate from the cops, he never returned it, it was a pretty messed up situation I put myself in but nonetheless I, MYSELF was responsible for getting in the crash which initiated a whole terrible domino effect, just another reason I should just keep it movin
 
Colombia said:
No grown man should be fighting dudes. Angry caveman behavior should be left in highschool.
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this

theres just too much to lose these days. i got a wife kids and a mortgage to worry bout. not tryin to get caught up in some knuckleheaded child's play and risk any of that. the only reason i would fight is if i was trapped in a corner and that was the only out, or if someone tried to press on my wife or kids. if it just involves me, chevrolegs is my first line of defense. i got no shame in that. if you really want to fight me that bad, come to my gym, sign a waiver, and we can get it crackin there.
 
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