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life sucks
give the kids a trophy who cares
give the kids a trophy who cares
NT Parents, Participation Trophies?
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I mean, your saying two different things with no explanation.
Why are you cool with it now and when and why will you decide not to be cool with?
You start of by saying your cool with it then say this...
But you get bronze and silver for not winning right?
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U do know the cognitive abilit of a 3 year old is a wee bit different than a 9/10 year old right? Which (i think) are the ages of harrison's boys.
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i got 2 kids... a 13 year old daughter and a 9 year old son.. some of you guys are taking this trophy thing a little too far and dont even have kids.... look teaching your kids about life and how to earn, learn from things doesnt start and end with a stupid participation trophy... that trophy isnt gonna be the reason they're gonna be a crappy waitress...
I was joking lol.
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True there’s a million ways to teach your kids good values and ethics, sports being one of them. So if my kid(s) is/are playing I’m going to teach them to strive to be the best. To be at the top and be the best player they can possibly be. Work hard, discipline yourself to learn the game, practice and play hard.
I think when people, especially parents, think about this they have added negative connotations to it. They think of “pushing your kids” as being a bad thing like it automatically means being the overbearing parent screaming from the sidelines, yelling at their kid on the car ride home, berating them for every wrong. It’s not a bad thing to want to teach your kids to always strive for the top.
Everything isn’t for everybody. Just because a kid plays sports doesn’t mean they’re going to go pro. That’s fine. But as long as they’re playing they’re going to bust their butts trying to get to the top. Failure and losing is part of life no matter how successful you are. Even the most successful and experienced still fail today, but overcoming these things and learning from them is the real lesson, but kids will never learn that if they’re being coddled and told losing is perfectly acceptable, here’s your trophy.
I think when people, especially parents, think about this they have added negative connotations to it. They think of “pushing your kids” as being a bad thing like it automatically means being the overbearing parent screaming from the sidelines, yelling at their kid on the car ride home, berating them for every wrong. It’s not a bad thing to want to teach your kids to always strive for the top.
Everything isn’t for everybody. Just because a kid plays sports doesn’t mean they’re going to go pro. That’s fine. But as long as they’re playing they’re going to bust their butts trying to get to the top. Failure and losing is part of life no matter how successful you are. Even the most successful and experienced still fail today, but overcoming these things and learning from them is the real lesson, but kids will never learn that if they’re being coddled and told losing is perfectly acceptable, here’s your trophy.
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lmao
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Nah, I don't want my kids to have them but I'm not going to take them away from them. I let my daughter know that she has to work hard to succeed and win. When she would lose to my wife's friends on the Wii, she'd get mad, throw a tantrum, etc. I get it, she's only 7 but I tell her, you want to win, work harder. I'm not gon pat her on the back if she loses and say "you tried sweetheart, good job" The world isn't a consoling place, gotta get her ready.
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I think we all agree on the same principles.
My issue is, in no way do I see a participation award as a "congratulations, your a winner" award.
It is what it is, a participation award!
Your out here, you tried, you gave it your all and I'm recognizing that.
Is that not all you can ask as a parent?
My issue is, in no way do I see a participation award as a "congratulations, your a winner" award.
It is what it is, a participation award!
Your out here, you tried, you gave it your all and I'm recognizing that.
Is that not all you can ask as a parent?
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You play to win the game! So work for it and have discipline to get there. Otherwise no trophy for you. What is the point of a participation trophy?
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Herm?
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Ok, I can type a little more on it since I'm not on my phone.
Right now, my daughter is 3. We're trying to expose her to as much as possible at this age. She's in swimming, gymnastics, and soccer. At this age, participation awards is all you can pretty much give at the end of a season or session. I have NO problems with that, and as a parent I love seeing the look on her face when she does get a certificate (which is the case with soccer). In swimming, she get recognized for PASSING a level. Not just for being there...but for actually displaying a certain skill (no Taken) which is required to move up in a class.
Again...she's 3.
As she gets older, I want her to value competition. Strive to be the best, whether it's in school, sports, etc. I also want her to experience failure, because as I mentioned, it build character and helps prepare for the real world.
Older kids, I don't think should be rewarded for just showing up. There HAS to be an emphasis on winning/losing because they'll have a harsh reality as they go through life if they feel as though they are entitled to get something just for showing up. It's coddling, IMO.
Right now, my daughter is 3. We're trying to expose her to as much as possible at this age. She's in swimming, gymnastics, and soccer. At this age, participation awards is all you can pretty much give at the end of a season or session. I have NO problems with that, and as a parent I love seeing the look on her face when she does get a certificate (which is the case with soccer). In swimming, she get recognized for PASSING a level. Not just for being there...but for actually displaying a certain skill (no Taken) which is required to move up in a class.
Again...she's 3.
As she gets older, I want her to value competition. Strive to be the best, whether it's in school, sports, etc. I also want her to experience failure, because as I mentioned, it build character and helps prepare for the real world.
Older kids, I don't think should be rewarded for just showing up. There HAS to be an emphasis on winning/losing because they'll have a harsh reality as they go through life if they feel as though they are entitled to get something just for showing up. It's coddling, IMO.
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**** what you talkin about!
I'm jelly!
They won't let my baby in until she's in kindergarten around here
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