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I've always paid the one time I went Dutch my mom found out made me take her, the girl, and my sister out to eat on my tab.
Differing financial situations: Who pays on the first couple dates
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Only time I'll go Dutch is when my brother and I go out with my parents. With two adult children my parents shouldn't be paying for dinners. I'll gladly pay for it all too.
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Yes. A man doesn't let his girl pay for dinner
That would be embarrassing.
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Whoever invites pays and tips.
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As nice as going dutch would be I just don't see how realistic that is...
I've always paid for everything. drinks, movie, dinner...
in a relationship SHE might cover like 1/15 dates... but that's all.
dead *** my pass girlfriend must have saved so much money...
I've always paid for everything. drinks, movie, dinner...
in a relationship SHE might cover like 1/15 dates... but that's all.
dead *** my pass girlfriend must have saved so much money...
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If you're married, just get a joint account for dates. Both contribute funds to it evenly. You can give the waiter the card yourself to play the role if you like.
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I've had two woman say things along the lines of if they go Dutch on a date then they aren't interested in the man or that the man should be paying for the date which turned me off to both of them. I've tried to get two woman with jobs to split a date with me and they both said they have no money. Turned off as well.
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I paid for the first several dates with my girl. I still do for the most part.
We split rent and other expenses right down the middle though.
We split rent and other expenses right down the middle though.
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I've encountered all spectrums of this, funny enough though my babies mom paid on our first date, and I had a few who paid all the damn time. Flip side of that I've got out when some who never pay so it just person to person.
Like with my babies mom she straight offered and insisted to pay so I what ima say no?
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I'm a southern boy that grew up with only sisters. I take pride in assuming the helm of a courtship and that entails paying for dates. I similarly take my friends out all the time and cover the tab. For me, it's just a love and respect thing. Obviously, if the relationship progresses and shorty and I see each other often, eventually she will offer to pay and I don't resist her contribution efforts. Part of being a man is taking care of those you care about. The money only becomes an issue when it becomes an expectation. That's the only time I ever refuse to cover a tab. I felt this way when I was broke and I continue to feel this way now that I got a couple of dollars. If I can't pay for a date, I refuse to ask a woman out. I'm not comfortable with that dynamic. I also don't go on a ton of dates. I only take a chick out on a proper date if I'm genuinely interested in her beyond physical desires. I believe gender roles help the sexes compliment one another. When I make her feel like a lady by being the conductor of the courtship, she will reciprocate by making me feel like a man through non-financial related tasks. It balances out in the long run. Money isn't the only thing that an individual can take care of to add value.
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Facts.
If you aren't able to take care of those around you then it just doesn't feel right. Respect money, but understand it is a mean to an end. If you are stacking your chips in this petty way you should reconsider. My cousins flew in from out of town to visit our family - I paid for 8 movie tickets. It's either in your nature or not I guess. If they want to stop by the snack bar they'll use their own funds. This is a simple understanding among well mannered people.
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Man it's a ******, depressing feeling when you're not able to take care of those around you. I spoil my fam now just off not being able to in the past.
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I completely understand this.
Now that I'm making decent $, I'm more than happy to return the favor. In a way, I feel like I'm overcompensating now though because in the past, I was flat broke and absolutely despised going out.
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That might be the funniest reason to get a joint account that I have ever heard.
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Most guys could get a woman to pay for dates and even pay your bills but what kind of man does that make you ? Living off of a woman is sad. That's why pimps are looked down on.
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Don't worry Frank. You're gonna own that place one day.
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I think that's dope if a chick is willing to pay for the date. Doesn't make you less of a man. Hell, if a chick usually waits 6 month before sleeping with a guy and you got her on the first date, that means your THAT guy. What you gonna call him a misogynist because she found him dope enough to break her morals?
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She says she usually waits 6 months to sleep with a guy but she sleeps with you the first night. Our lie detector determined that was a lie.
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Nah I got morals.
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First 2 dates the guy pays, third date she atleast pays for the tip.
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What are said non financial related tasks when initially going out with a girl though?
