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Looking for advice of people who have been in this situation before or have been in committed relationships for a while that probably led to marriage...
Facts:
- Met someone about a year ago, been dating for about that time now
- We been going through the ringer lately because we just can't get on the same page but we love each other a lot but we can't make a good compromise
- Girl I met has positives and negatives
Positives:
- can cook, clean, take care of kid's (she's a nanny in manhattan)
- down to earth attitude, not prissy or any of that
- modest, traditional in the sense of wanting to have kids, build a future, live and be merry
- creative, girl does some really artsy cakes, and crafts. Sells her cakes for $100+ each
- never have to spend a lot of money on her, she's fine with what she has
- pays for ya boy when we go out sometimes.
Negatives:
- doesn't have a good education, started college (1 semester) never finished
- is illegal....although she has been in the U.S. for 15 years now...never applied for citizenship (although getting married for papers isn't her thing and I do trust her on that tip)
- has admitted to wanting to be a housewife and take care of kids, felt she was always meant to raise kids
- emotional, not crazy emo, but emotional over the fact that I choose to keep somethings about my life private (she feels people in a relationship should tell each other everything), and emotional that I currently have limited time to spend with her
- wants to get married within the next 2 years
- can get clingy
I gotta admit some of the problems we going through can be mine....it's been a year and I never met her parents (not really my thing) and she wants me too, sometimes I need space from everything and I just throw my phone down and don't call anyone for a day or two (I have a crazy hectic work/family life), kept some private things about myself private and she feels i'm keeping big secrets from her...
Those with experience being in relationships for a while and possibly led to marriage....is this one worth saving?
I mean I love this girl but I'm a guy that needs my space to recharge and I hate being clinged on too tight...but she has a lot of solid characteristics.
Can the brah's help me gain some perspective on this situation?
Appreciated!
Facts:
- Met someone about a year ago, been dating for about that time now
- We been going through the ringer lately because we just can't get on the same page but we love each other a lot but we can't make a good compromise
- Girl I met has positives and negatives
Positives:
- can cook, clean, take care of kid's (she's a nanny in manhattan)
- down to earth attitude, not prissy or any of that
- modest, traditional in the sense of wanting to have kids, build a future, live and be merry
- creative, girl does some really artsy cakes, and crafts. Sells her cakes for $100+ each
- never have to spend a lot of money on her, she's fine with what she has
- pays for ya boy when we go out sometimes.
Negatives:
- doesn't have a good education, started college (1 semester) never finished
- is illegal....although she has been in the U.S. for 15 years now...never applied for citizenship (although getting married for papers isn't her thing and I do trust her on that tip)
- has admitted to wanting to be a housewife and take care of kids, felt she was always meant to raise kids
- emotional, not crazy emo, but emotional over the fact that I choose to keep somethings about my life private (she feels people in a relationship should tell each other everything), and emotional that I currently have limited time to spend with her
- wants to get married within the next 2 years
- can get clingy
I gotta admit some of the problems we going through can be mine....it's been a year and I never met her parents (not really my thing) and she wants me too, sometimes I need space from everything and I just throw my phone down and don't call anyone for a day or two (I have a crazy hectic work/family life), kept some private things about myself private and she feels i'm keeping big secrets from her...
Those with experience being in relationships for a while and possibly led to marriage....is this one worth saving?
I mean I love this girl but I'm a guy that needs my space to recharge and I hate being clinged on too tight...but she has a lot of solid characteristics.
Can the brah's help me gain some perspective on this situation?
Appreciated!
