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NT Older crew 25+ up and/or Married...need some advice...
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I know someone like this and he ended up cheating on his wife and they split up. She refused to go to work and just wanted to sit at home dilly dallying and she didn't do any house work. No cooking, no cleaning, no laundry nada. Just post on instagram and facebook. Dude started cheating and she found out and by then, dude didn't care. They ended up divorcing and it was an entire mess. She wanted to work things out, but it was too little too late and homie moved in with the new woman. I personally could not deal with the foolishness. You better go work or find something that interests you that can help better yourself as well as others. I'm not with the *****. Want housewife duties and then when time comes for it, you can't or refuse to do either.Gotdamn
I ment to say having a housewife is scary especially supporting her and the kids in NYC.
I know a couple guys at work who feel stuck bc their ladies were housewives but now the kids are finishing high school and the wife now refuses to go to work.
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Not sure about this OP.
Doesn't sound like she has alot of ambition and wants to continue her 'easy' life. Not saying being a Nanny is easy, but still.
If I was in your position, I think I would move on.
Doesn't sound like she has alot of ambition and wants to continue her 'easy' life. Not saying being a Nanny is easy, but still.
If I was in your position, I think I would move on.
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am I the only one NOT turned off by a girl saying she wanted to be a house wife?
I guess my expectations of a house wife may differ from others....
but to me, that's a full time job in itself.... i'm damn near expecting a servant lol
i want my clothes washed and neatly folded ... the house to always be in tip top shape.... meals prep'd and cooked... all bills and domestic matters taken care of ... all domestic errands ran
hell... i could rattle off so much **** i'm too lazy and/or exhausted to do by the time I come home from work
problem is tho... some of these so called house wives some lazy ******* too..... i will not allow you to sit at home and not do **** .... occasionally mopping aint cutting it boo
I guess my expectations of a house wife may differ from others....
but to me, that's a full time job in itself.... i'm damn near expecting a servant lol
i want my clothes washed and neatly folded ... the house to always be in tip top shape.... meals prep'd and cooked... all bills and domestic matters taken care of ... all domestic errands ran
hell... i could rattle off so much **** i'm too lazy and/or exhausted to do by the time I come home from work
problem is tho... some of these so called house wives some lazy ******* too..... i will not allow you to sit at home and not do **** .... occasionally mopping aint cutting it boo
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Compatibility is a hugely important thing. From the sound of it, your background and her background as far as life decisions (school) and outlook decisions (housewife) may not line up, especially in the current economy. At the same time, you not meeting her parents would be a red flag to her or someone looking from the outside that maybe you either A) aren't that serious about her or B) need more time in the relationship so you can know for sure. I know for me personally, after a year of being with my girlfriend, I had things pretty much figured out whether she was the one I wanted to marry or not. Different strokes for different folks. Good luck. Lots factors to think about in your situation.
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Right. I feel like it's appropriate if they have to stay home (medical, raise kids or husband says they don't have to work) but willingly say they want to be a housewife. Nah.
Like you said, you better becoming home to your wife catering to your need if she stays home.
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Read over those cons and say to yourself "Would I marry a person with these qualities?"
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Its interesting that you listed 6 pros and then 6 cons about her. Here is my suggestion, write every single pro until you can't think of anymore and do the same with the cons and then tally them up and see which comes out ahead. You'll have you're definitive answer yourself. Don't make things more complicated than it already is. Sometimes simplicity is the best approach to what you are looking for.
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Nah man unless i was a millionaire id have a problem wit my girl wantin to be a housewife.
Da hell she gona do all day besides clean, take care of kids, and cook?
Shes gona get bored- wich leads to dumb decision making, and if im not caked up, she wont have much to do besides watch tv and think like a atlanta houswife broad.
Da hell she gona do all day besides clean, take care of kids, and cook?
Shes gona get bored- wich leads to dumb decision making, and if im not caked up, she wont have much to do besides watch tv and think like a atlanta houswife broad.
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you say BESIDES, as if doing all of the above is a breeze
do you have kids and your own place?
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My mom has graduated college, smart as a whip and was a homemaker for a family of 6.
I would like to ask op his age and the girls age. IMO, a person really doesnt know what they want out of life until their early 30s some 40s.
I would like to ask op his age and the girls age. IMO, a person really doesnt know what they want out of life until their early 30s some 40s.
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1. Glad NT has a relationship thread miss that all these end up in TAY now a days.
2. OP your situation is very very similar to my own so let me know what you decide to do
I am going to try to keep it 100. You think there is an outside shot you can do better. You don't want to lose the down chick because she will love you forever through good and bad. And that means A LOT. In the grand scheme of life that will pay off over and over again because you know you got a partner. So my question is what drives you. She wants kids and you want kids right? So you get married (if you need to religion wise) have kids and live. If you find something better post having kids...well you go take it. But if you want kids and you are afraid you won't have a chance to have them with a girl that you at least like a lot and know she will raise them right with great morals and love them...then you may want to see it out with this girl. Its tough to live for the future of "well what if in 30 years" you kind of deal with that when it happens.
It sounds harsh and messed up but if your ultimate goal is to have kids....you seem to know she will be a great mother to them. That is special.
People say older generations now have sky high divorce rates and its bad and blah blah blah...but like it happened... they did get married younger they did have kids they did get divorced you did get born grew up everything is fine. Some times this "soul mate" stuff is way too much. Sometimes its life partner to raise a child and have a true understanding that you are a unit to make a great home for your kids.
all that being said if you don't really care if you have kids....take your time take 3-4-5 years to commit forever. If she doesn't understand that then she will leave and it is what it is then
2. OP your situation is very very similar to my own so let me know what you decide to do
I am going to try to keep it 100. You think there is an outside shot you can do better. You don't want to lose the down chick because she will love you forever through good and bad. And that means A LOT. In the grand scheme of life that will pay off over and over again because you know you got a partner. So my question is what drives you. She wants kids and you want kids right? So you get married (if you need to religion wise) have kids and live. If you find something better post having kids...well you go take it. But if you want kids and you are afraid you won't have a chance to have them with a girl that you at least like a lot and know she will raise them right with great morals and love them...then you may want to see it out with this girl. Its tough to live for the future of "well what if in 30 years" you kind of deal with that when it happens.
It sounds harsh and messed up but if your ultimate goal is to have kids....you seem to know she will be a great mother to them. That is special.
People say older generations now have sky high divorce rates and its bad and blah blah blah...but like it happened... they did get married younger they did have kids they did get divorced you did get born grew up everything is fine. Some times this "soul mate" stuff is way too much. Sometimes its life partner to raise a child and have a true understanding that you are a unit to make a great home for your kids.
all that being said if you don't really care if you have kids....take your time take 3-4-5 years to commit forever. If she doesn't understand that then she will leave and it is what it is then
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Im not sayin its a breeze, what im trying to say is that **** will get old real quick for her you feel me? Then what? Where she gona be at mentally after a year of bein laid up in the crib all day doing chores?
Wich is why i said it wouldnt be a bad idea to let my chick not work, if i was already caked up to where she can enjoy things as well.
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You've been dating this girl and ******* her for a year but refuse to meet her parents. She should have left your *** a while ago
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When's the ideal time to meet the parents?
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A couple weeks to a couple months
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Really? After just a few weeks of dating?
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I know this couple that been together 6 yrs. And she barley introduced him to her mom late last year. And doesnt want him to meet the dad.
Chick is definitely hidin somethin.
But nah, depending on how serious yall are, and what pace yall move, 3-4 months will be ideal.
Chick is definitely hidin somethin.
But nah, depending on how serious yall are, and what pace yall move, 3-4 months will be ideal.
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It could be any time frame. When she starts dropping hints and straight up inviting you to meet her family/parents that's when you know that she is serious about you. At this point, you meet the parents and commit to her, or you don't meet them and she will see it as rejection and start to move on soon after. Been in this situation many times and it's a true subconscious barometer of your feelings towards the girl.
OP if you really wanted to be with her you'd put your reservations aside and meet her parents, even if you were only doing it for her.
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Yo, you guys are killing me softly right now
Decisions, decisions. I'm gonna update this thread when i get out of work with some more details.
I appreciate all the viewpoints
Decisions, decisions. I'm gonna update this thread when i get out of work with some more details.
I appreciate all the viewpoints
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Why not. I met my wife's 2 weeks in and been that way with all my serious girls. I'm confident with who I am. No reason to be scared
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She wants to be a housewife, don't do it She'll have no desire or ambition to get yall where yall need to be and expect you to do it all.
She'll have no desire or ambition to get yall where yall need to be and expect you to do it all.
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Sounds like you yourself aren't ready. To me sounds like you have commitment issues to be honest. If I were you I'd work on myself first. also you two only been together a year papi the relationship is too young
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word?
it took me 9 months to meet my own damn parents and i hate to put an artificial clock on anything but i know shawty aint meeting them in a couple of weeks to a couple of months.
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