Is America's biggest problem loneliness?

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http://www.vox.com/2015/10/28/9622920/housing-adult-friendship

I doubt many of NT will actually read it, but I think it tells the core problem of America (and increasingly other places in the world).

Cliffs:
1. We've lost our "tribe" (only have nuclear families, and that is if we are lucky).
2. Our housing structure prevents random bump ins = no repeated opportunities to build that sense of community.

Thoughts? Solutions?
 
I believe it. Constant reinforcement of "me first" mentality doesn't help either.

I use tribe a lot when describing my loved ones :smokin
 
I believe all this

when I broke up with my girl last summer who I thought I would marry, it sucked and people are there but they aren't really there. It took a lot of strong will, alcohol and time to move on especially when no one is really there.

They will always be my friends and family but 6-7 years ago it would have been a lot different, people become consumed with a "me" mentality
 
Loneliness does suck, but it's not our biggest problem.

Our biggest problem is division and xenophobia.

Haven't read the article yet though so I'll give my feedback again once I do.
 
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America's biggest problem is Drug addiction. This epidemic is getting worse and worse [emoji]128560[/emoji]
 
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A lot of mass shooter don't get yambs, Sexual frustration of young men does add fuel to the fire.

But white supremacy is America's biggest problem imo. It is like a cancer inflecting and destroying so many things.

The irony of the situation is that the system of white supremacy hurts many poor white people, since it is now entangled with neoliberalism. Yet that demographic are the biggest supporters of both
 
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Panasonic G20 said:
I'm not American but have always suffered from boredom and loneliness. I'm far smarter academically than the average person I meet but I've Always struggled with long term unemployment, and getting a girlfriend longer than a few weeks at a time. unless I've had a drink I struggle socially and I always have that sense that unsettle people when I talk, which then makes me frustrated at the person who is becoming unsettled.

the fact that I'm mixed race has always meant I've felt excluded socially and have no community of my own to integrate into. And none of my friend groups over the years have been suitable. I've had nothing in common with any friend or female I've ever met, which has ultimately made me lonely.

I've been to the Doctors over the last 3 years to get depression treatment and I've finally got some very strong pills which don't solve my problems or make me happier but make me feel less bothered by things.

I was fairly popular in my early 20s but never really managed to get a proper girlfriend, proper set of friends or find an interest I enjoy to try as a career. Also being black there's not the opportunity anyway, as well as the fact black men aren't popular with English women there's a stigma on it. so ultimately there wasn't much I could do. I have been to see a few Doctors and several therapists, but being honest, I've never actually admitted I'm lonely to anybody in real life. it's too embarrassing. j always just blame everything on anxiety. and really, bar utilising mind control, I don't see how anyone magically become popular.

After resisting it for years I signed up to a few of those dating apps this year but, even though I would rate my dress sense as about 9/10 and looks about 7.5, and the fact people/girls have generally complimented my looks down the years, which is nice, I've only had 1 match so far and a few bots, which makes me realistically think I'm not quite as decent as I thought. This has been a bit depressing frankly as you hear how easy it is to pull on these apps and people getting hundreds of matches every month. I've even tried this app where you only get a choice of women you've been close in proximity to so there choices are far less. and I haven't had any matches on that either. nobody is clicking heart on me. so clearly I have no hope. fair enough at the end of the day. nothing I can do to chance their mind. I've accepted this as my plight, and most of the time I try not to think about it. but I won't lie it is upsetting and very dispiriting.
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Go to strip club. Go smoke tree. Go do stupid ****. Go live man....you gona let life pass cause u feel all wierd around people? Cause you cant find broads on a dating app? Na fam thats just dumb.

I mean it really isnt hard to be social, it shouldnt be


PS. If it makes u feel any better, i never smashed off any social media or dating apps.
 
Panasonic G20 said:
I'm not American but have always suffered from boredom and loneliness.
I'm far smarter academically than the average person I meet but I've Always struggled with long term unemployment, and getting a girlfriend longer than a few weeks at a time. unless I've had a drink I struggle socially and I always have that sense that unsettle people when I talk, which then makes me frustrated at the person who is becoming unsettled.

the fact that I'm mixed race has always meant I've felt excluded socially and have no community of my own to integrate into. And none of my friend groups over the years have been suitable. I've had nothing in common with any friend or female I've ever met, which has ultimately made me lonely.

I've been to the Doctors over the last 3 years to get depression treatment and I've finally got some very strong pills which don't solve my problems or make me happier but make me feel less bothered by things.

I was fairly popular in my early 20s but never really managed to get a proper girlfriend, proper set of friends or find an interest I enjoy to try as a career. Also being black there's not the opportunity anyway, as well as the fact black men aren't popular with English women there's a stigma on it. so ultimately there wasn't much I could do. I have been to see a few Doctors and several therapists, but being honest, I've never actually admitted I'm lonely to anybody in real life. it's too embarrassing. j always just blame everything on anxiety. and really, bar utilising mind control, I don't see how anyone magically become popular.

After resisting it for years I signed up to a few of those dating apps this year but, even though I would rate my dress sense as about 9/10 and looks about 7.5, and the fact people/girls have generally complimented my looks down the years, which is nice, I've only had 1 match so far and a few bots, which makes me realistically think I'm not quite as decent as I thought. This has been a bit depressing frankly as you hear how easy it is to pull on these apps and people getting hundreds of matches every month. I've even tried this app where you only get a choice of women you've been close in proximity to so there choices are far less. and I haven't had any matches on that either. nobody is clicking heart on me. so clearly I have no hope. fair enough at the end of the day. nothing I can do to chance their mind. I've accepted this as my plight, and most of the time I try not to think about it. but I won't lie it is upsetting and very dispiriting.
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Is prostitution legal where you at? If you can afford it, maybe this is a route you could take.

Straight up, 99% of my yamb intake this year has been from pros. Eff having dates/social media/whatever.

So much easier :lol:
 
I think loneliness is a problem, but not the biggest problem.

What's the best way to overcome it? Socialize? Dating apps? Talk to family/professional help?
 
Family structure. People in the same household don't even interact anymore. Parents can't tell you what's going on with their own kids.
 
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