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Dating Advice: When is it acceptable for your girl to give out her number?
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OP you wrong on this one. If you never claimed shorty and did her dirty before how you gonna feel bad about what she doing when she was with you? Idk seems like you being insecure about this whole thing
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There's a lot of middle ground between exchanging numbers for a dog date and spending the night at his crib
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Respect is earned not given. This just came back in full circle for you.
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Crazy thing is that dude saw you and still exchanged numbers with your girl. I mean that's not his problem, he playing the game.
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10 dates weren't 10 dinners and 10 movies, i meant 10 occasions of hanging out, which included nights where it was strictly smashing.
I'm trying to make sense of this. Homie shelling out bread on shorty. 10 dates in a month ????????????? If you're going that Hard OP, why not just claim her ?
Will have the update tonight.
1) When I did her "dirty" that was one month in we weren't serious at that point. Just called that out to show that she understanding and rationale in that situation.
2) I haven't claimed her but she pushing me towards commit or non commit lately (work events, weddings, etc.)
I can't grasp the concept of limiting temptations. If your girl is attractive temptations will exist, period. That's out of your control. And if you think you can control temptations then you will be controlling her, which isn't healthy period. IMO, you gotta accept that dudes gonna be thirsty regardless, and just be confident that she wants to be with you. Now in the case of this situation, this was an act of blatant disrespect and violation of my boundaries, and possibly red flag indicator of things to come. Like, if you have the audacity to give your number to another guy in front of me, how do I know you aren't going to disrespect me in front of my mother, it's a respect thing more than a trust thing.
I would say that we have moved towards a mutual level of exclusivity as of late. She has introduced me as her "boyfriend" to her friends and family. Been going raw.
This. It caught me off guard too. She's white if that helps provide context.
True. I don't have a black and white rule against exchanging numbers with the opposite sex. That's perfectly normal as a functioning human in society. You are going to have to network and connect with men and women through life. What I had an issue with is the fact that she gave her number to a complete stranger, with no context other than animals, which is careless and can put you in dangerous situations. Plus doing it right in front of me, I'm not comfortable with that and I see it as disrespectful. I'm going to let her know that's where I stand and those are my boundaries.
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I definitely wanna see an update on how you handle it. It is weird that a girl right in front of you would give her number to another man for a "doggy play date"
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I don't see how giving her personally number away to a stranger is disrespectful to you?...It's her number and if you don't consider her your GF and she knows that, then how is it disrespectful?
Anyway. It seems like you don't want a girlfriend so just break it off OP and keep it moving. Simple
Anyway. It seems like you don't want a girlfriend so just break it off OP and keep it moving. Simple
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I don't have an ounce of hate towards this dude at all. It's a situation that strictly needs to be addressed with the lady.
Dude didn't acknowledge me. Girl wasn't cheesing. No homo but I wouldn't describe the guy as "attractive" but that's beside the point. I have no intention of going to a doggy play date
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White people, like duh dude!!
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So limiting temptations is
I agree with all that.
I guess what I mean is, yes if she gone do dirt she gone do dirt, I'm just not gonna help you.
It seems like a lot of yall just say ok to everything.
Nah some **** just aint.
I agree with all that.
I guess what I mean is, yes if she gone do dirt she gone do dirt, I'm just not gonna help you.
It seems like a lot of yall just say ok to everything.
Nah some **** just aint.
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OP did she introduce you to the guy as her "BF"??
Actually this is a great question.
Did she even acknowledge you during this exchange, I'm gonna assume not, since you said he didn't acknowledge you.
You already stated she's been introducing you to her friends as her Boyfriend.
You lost B, she belongs to him now.
They gonna live a happy life together with their 2 dogs walking the beach pier, eating ice cream at night under the stars.
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"This. It caught me off guard too. She's white if that helps provide context."
Doggy, the only appropriate way to provide context is to provide a pic said girl and mutt. It'll decides who stays and who had to go.
Doggy, the only appropriate way to provide context is to provide a pic said girl and mutt. It'll decides who stays and who had to go.
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I think ol girl and dude are playin fetch wit eachother
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You're wild.
I don't feel threatened by any other dude at all tbh. Not arrogant or cocky, but I'm a relatively good looking dude, good friends, good family, good job, kind and sociable, and been laying pipe at a high level.
I have no sort of ill will specifically towards that dude or any other dude for that matter. Why? Because I know I can replace her. Instantly. I can have a new girl in my bed this weekend, so it's not about ego or being alpha or beta relative to another dude lol. I know who I am and what I can get. I know my value...and I will never measure my value based on one vagina lol.
It's more so a respect thing for me. If you are wild enough to give your number out to another dude in front of me, whether it be to get a rise out of me, accelerate my desire to want to commit or just cause you felt like it and were inconsiderate....how do I know you won't step out of bounds and do some wild **** in any other scenario? Like, let's remove the insecurity of other men from the equation, how can I be comfortable that I introduce you to my mother and you do something wild disrespectful in front of me and my mom? If you give no dambs then I can't tolerate that. That's my point.
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I don't have an ounce of hate towards this dude at all. It's a situation that strictly needs to be addressed with the lady.
Dude didn't acknowledge me. Girl wasn't cheesing. No homo but I wouldn't describe the guy as "attractive" but that's beside the point. I have no intention of going to a doggy play date. My stance that I will tell her is I wasn't comfortable with that and if you see differently, or if you feel the right to go to this doggy play date, then this aint gonna work. If she thinks I'm overeacting and going forward things like this shouldn't be an issue, then I'm ending it. I'm gonna make it clear where I stand based on what my personal boundaries are.
I don't think you should break it off just don't give your all like that, don't waste a lot of money and go all out like she's your main chick.
Keep her on the team and keep smashing until she doesn't let you anymore.
Gotta treat em like a job don't quit one unless you have another lined up and a better one too.
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Pot, meet Kettle
Real talk, unless yall had a conversation after you did your dirt then she did nothing wrong. If yall are just dating, then it is what it is just be glad she did it in front of you. If you guys haven't established that you are in a committed relationship then you have no reason to be upset other than hurt pride.
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Lmao this is a loss all around. Take the L and do better next time
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I'd advice you to go to North Carolina.
You just got ****ed in front of of those dogs
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what if that wasn't even his dog
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To be fair though a lot of folks that have been single for a while don't know proper relationship ethic. Sometimes it just takes putting that ego and selfishness you've known for so long and chatting it out. I remember when me and an ex first started dating and weren't anything she took an hour long call from her ex at my crib. Wasn't anything fishy since I could hear the call, just light arguing, but the fact she took that time away to focus on another dude, in my own ******* crib had me heated. Had me doing the weebay for an hour straight in different directions. I let her know the deal and sent her *** home after that. She even tried the "but we aren't..." logic, but that's not the point. When we spoke again she was apologetic and understood how it would be disrespectful.
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even if there is no dog there she gone walk away after catching some Dog
