ReIationship Standards VoI. The $$$

kingkoopa · Nov 14, 2016

SeRveJaYs4JaYs said:
In my opinion. If the man is serious about the woman, the man pays for absolutely everything for at least the first 6 months. if not longer.. I feel like it's the man's job to assure the woman that he can maintain a certain level of reliability. As well as establish leadership and gain respect. I feel this is important if you plan on wearing the pants in the relationship. Establish dominance if you will(money,power,respect).. Allow her to see that you're all in. And that you've invested not only time, but money.. Now at this point she should be comfortable enough to know that you are serious about her, and that you are able to give her and maintain a sense of security on your end.. Now after this time period of 6 months is over and you've put in that work physically, financially and emotionally. it's about time to see what she's talking about as far as her financially reliability goes. Is she capable of having your back on a rainy day or even matching you step for step.. Throughout this entire time you guys have been dating she should have already displayed the want to pick up bills and pay for things while you guys are out and about. Although you've never let her.. She should have great recognition of how you never let her pay for anything and she should be waiting for her chance to take you out and give back what you've given to her.. That's when you finally let her take you out.. At that point you should have no problem splinting everything 50/50 from there on out. That's exactly how it went with me and my wife and it's the best decision I ever made(she has so much more money than me). Our daughter is 11 and I wish some dirty dog would try to make my babygirl pay for a dang thing when she gets older. just my humble opinion and personal experience..

We just built different man :lol:

Thats actually some sociopathic logic to be honest.

$tacy · Nov 14, 2016

I just don't believe in taking care of a healthy adult. I don't need u to stay home and take care of the kids, we got school/childcare for that. If I make enough to support the household, imagine how we could live if u bring in a check. She could be taking online classes while at home watching the view doing nothing. It's 75/25 in my crib and that's because she makes like $13 less an hour and in school at the same time. But when everything is in motion and she's making more than me and we jump into a mortage, it's 50/50 and we gonna try to make other moves financially.

Teknoman · Nov 14, 2016

newfangled112 said:
I can tell your life sucks.

It's not. You basically got your chick used to a lifestyle you can't afford.

Depleting your saving so your chick can chill at home? You wilding man.

$tacy · Nov 14, 2016

KingKoopa said:
We just built different man

Thats actually some sociopathic logic to be honest.

man. What happened to sitting at the round table and having an old fashion conversation. I ain't gotta pay for every little thing for 6 months to prove to the queen I'm worthy :lol:

. We can sit here, discuss these finances like adults and see what best fits our situation where we are the most comfortable. Rather that's me taking 100%, u taking 100% or splitting it however we decide to split it.

lamekilla · Nov 14, 2016

It all depends on the type of woman you have and if you cherish her. I don't mind paying for the dinners and outings most of the time if not all the time. But like another NT'er stated it's about how much she brings to the table. I'm not expecting to be doing tons of dinner outings if shorty can cook so the times we do go out, I'm footing the bill to show my appreciation for when I'm on the couch playing street fighter while you're in the kitchen with grease popping in your face. Also we need to already be intimate and I'm talking about it needs to be automatic.

My ex chick reminds me of this topic. She took care of me honestly. She was washing clothes, cooking and LITERALLY feeding me sometimes, randomly buying cologne cause she came to my spot and noticed I was running low. Shorty even bought me Black Cement 3's and picked up a pair for herself and surprised me randomly during christmas years back. And when I tell you this chick was ready to give me box at that snap of a finger :smh:

I made sure I looked out for her. Kept her gas tank full, surprised her with gifts and was just supportive in anything she did. That's when a relationship gets rid of all the tally marks and you're just enamored with each other

Of course she left me cause I wouldn't propose though :rolleyes

halftime · Nov 14, 2016

I'm real frugal, so I'm always finding way to cut bill costs while also being comfortable, so I would never mind paying 100% of bills, cause there would barely be any in the first place

People paying 250 for a phone bill and 150 for cable

She can pay for **** like clothing, groceries, etc.

$tacy · Nov 14, 2016

Also gender roles are dead man. Y'all lazy ****** need to start cleaning and cooking sometimes too. I have 0 problems cleaning my place. Cut some ignant trap music on the Bluetooth speaker and get the cleaning. My culinary skills are very limited but I can whip up a dish or 3 if not I'll buy some good ****.

gentrification · Nov 14, 2016

Every chick I've been with its 50/50. These broads wanna be feminist and strong. Well **** take care of daddy den [emoji]128526[/emoji]

kingkoopa · Nov 14, 2016

lamekilla said:
That's when a relationship gets rid of all the tally marks and you're just enamored with each other

IMO your relationship is already doomed if tally marks are ever involved.

Dudes will all these calculations and time limits on things are light weight crazy.

It's really simple as doing your part.

Not rocket science.

kingkoopa · Nov 14, 2016

ForerunnerADL said:
It's not. You basically got your chick used to a lifestyle you can't afford.

Depleting your saving so your chick can chill at home? You wilding man.

She ran through his savings then got back to what she was already doing and he think he won.

wavy daddy · Nov 14, 2016

Its says a lot about the chick if she accpets to be a grown *** babie.

*** you better work for yours, ima take care of you but i aint fittna give you all my money.

First stages of datin yeah i was spendin my money at first, thenshe would pay prolly every other time.

But now, she just give me her debit card or some cash on the weekends, like my **** got an allowance or some ****.

lamekilla · Nov 14, 2016

Willchamberlain said:
Also gender roles are dead man. Y'all lazy ****** need to start cleaning and cooking sometimes too. I have 0 problems cleaning my place. Cut some ignant trap music on the Bluetooth speaker and get the cleaning. My culinary skills are very limited but I can whip up a dish or 3 if not I'll buy some good ****.

I don't mind cleaning either to be honest but every chick I've been with has been OCD clean and just takes up the mantle. Always filled with glee when shorty wants to clean my room or clean the kitchen for me.

KingKoopa said:
IMO your relationship is already doomed if tally marks are ever involved.

Dudes will all these calculations and time limits on things are light weight crazy.

It's really simple as doing your part.

Not rocket science.

But it's human nature with relationships. If you're a 100% into a relationship and you notice shorty is not reciprocating your same level of interest you're gonna start thinking about the things you've done and things she's done...

kingkoopa · Nov 14, 2016

Just saw the poll OP reminded me of this negotiation

rare · Nov 14, 2016

It's 50/50 for us, sometimes 60/50 but that's when I'm feeling generous and really want a good time.

slighted · Nov 14, 2016

Wavy Daddy said:
Its says a lot about the chick if she accpets to be a grown *** babie.

*** you better work for yours, ima take care of you but i aint fittna give you all my money.

First stages of datin yeah i was spendin my money at first, thenshe would pay prolly every other time.

But now, she just give me her debit card or some cash on the weekends, like my **** got an allowance or some ****.

Some of these ladies are just mature teenagers.

adobecs4 · Nov 14, 2016

Rare said:
It's 50/50 for us, sometimes 60/50 but that's when I'm feeling generous and really want a good time.

Tony $now · Nov 14, 2016

My wife doesn't work. We have 2 kids. My son is in 2nd grade and my daughter starts next year. We both agreed to not do daycare. She stayed at home and I continue to work. It's a sacrifice for both of us. Teamwork. When my daughter goes to school, wife goes back to work. She hasn't worked in about 7 years. She was about her bread before kids, and will be once she gets back in the workforce.

Women build with you, Birds look for a handout. Like Roy Lee says "stop saving these &@")

Like will said, us men should clean, and cook too. I not that talented in the kitchen, but I'm a fool on the grill. :smokin

halftime · Nov 14, 2016

lilyo06 said:
My wife doesn't work. We have 2 kids. My son is in 2nd grade and my daughter starts next year. We made an agreement when we had them that we both agreed to not do daycare. She stayed at home and I continue to work. It's a sacrifice for both of us. Teamwork. Ehen my daughter goes to school, wife goes back to work. She hasn't worked in about 7 years. She was about her bread before kids, and will be once she gets back in the workforce.

Women build with you, Birds look for a handout. Like Roy Lee says "stop saving these &@")

Respect

Stepped up and did what you had to do instead of paying for someone else to take care of your child.

$tacy · Nov 14, 2016

lilyo06 said:
My wife doesn't work. We have 2 kids. My son is in 2nd grade and my daughter starts next year. We both agreed to not do daycare. She stayed at home and I continue to work. It's a sacrifice for both of us. Teamwork. When my daughter goes to school, wife goes back to work. She hasn't worked in about 7 years. She was about her bread before kids, and will be once she gets back in the workforce.

Women build with you, Birds look for a handout. Like Roy Lee says "stop saving these &@")

Like will said, us men should clean, and cook too. I not that talented in the kitchen, but I'm a fool on the grill.

What them ribs like tho?

dathbgboy · Nov 14, 2016

Exactly, women build w/ u. My wife and I have had the same relationship as most where the load switches based on the time and circumstances. When I was strapped for cash and couldn't find decent work, she took care of most of the things, when she wanted to stay home w/ our son for the first year, I took care of things. Difference is we're married so it's not my money and her money even though we put some aside for our own person things.

Tony $now · Nov 14, 2016

Willchamberlain said:
What them ribs like tho?

They getting better each go round, but them steaks :smokin

My brisket game still trash. My pops laugh at me all the time

antbanks81 · Nov 14, 2016

I've always felt it was on me to pay for the first date, maybe two. After we get comfortable with one another, there is nothing wrong with both sides picking up the tab for whatever. I've never gone for it with chicks thinking I'm paying for it all. Hell, I can count on one hand how many drinks I've bought while on the prowl.

kingkoopa · Nov 14, 2016

lilyo06 said:
My wife doesn't work. We have 2 kids. My son is in 2nd grade and my daughter starts next year. We both agreed to not do daycare. She stayed at home and I continue to work. It's a sacrifice for both of us. Teamwork. When my daughter goes to school, wife goes back to work. She hasn't worked in about 7 years. She was about her bread before kids, and will be once she gets back in the workforce.

Women build with you, Birds look for a handout. Like Roy Lee says "stop saving these &@")

Like will said, us men should clean, and cook too. I not that talented in the kitchen, but I'm a fool on the grill.

Respect.

Took care of my BM for a while after we had our daughter.

Nothing wrong with doing it longer.

youngthundercat · Nov 14, 2016

Halftime said:
lilyo06 said:

My wife doesn't work. We have 2 kids. My son is in 2nd grade and my daughter starts next year. We made an agreement when we had them that we both agreed to not do daycare. She stayed at home and I continue to work. It's a sacrifice for both of us. Teamwork. Ehen my daughter goes to school, wife goes back to work. She hasn't worked in about 7 years. She was about her bread before kids, and will be once she gets back in the workforce.

Women build with you, Birds look for a handout. Like Roy Lee says "stop saving these &@")

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Respect

Stepped up and did what you had to do instead of paying for someone else to take care of your child.

Who mans is this?

$tacy · Nov 14, 2016

My bbq game trash as hell. Next summer imma hop on youtube and practice and step my game up. U might get dogs and some DC burgers leaving me on the grill.

ReIationship Standards VoI. The $$$

does 50/50 work for you?

yeah, but sometimes 60/40

if you got it, fIaunt it

spending money? IoI

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