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Maybe u can get a part time gig at those airline call centers PT. Tempe has 3-4 major airline spots out there. Homie works graveyard for one of em and clocks 3hrs a week just for free flying benefits
Bruhs with kids in a different state. I need some testimonials. Come on in.
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Do you really want your girls educated in az?
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Salute to you for remaining involved in your daughter's lives, they lucky to have you. As for moving to Phx, you'll enjoy it man.
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I'm not in that situation, but my inclination is to say go for it.
Couple main points of conflict would be:
Is it more pay and lower costs or just lower costs? Exactly whats the expected difference.. minus travel back and forth?
Is there a set length of time til you move back or til the girls come to you?
Do you rent or own your place in SD?
Why is the GF so stuck on cali.. could she be persuaded otherwise?
Lastly how permanent/ secure is the opportunity?
If you currently rent your place in SD and your GF doesn't live with you, I say go.
If you already live with your GF and she doesn't contribute to bills go. maybe drag her with
If you can afford to buy a home to your liking in AZ after 1 year go.
If you can save the money for a home in SD in around 2.5 years go
Most scenarios in my head just play out better with less costs and saved money.... especially if you can purchase a home to pass down to your daughters. that's how wealth accumulates in a family.
Arizona has some FINE women too so if GF is not down for the ride she can step aside
Couple main points of conflict would be:
Is it more pay and lower costs or just lower costs? Exactly whats the expected difference.. minus travel back and forth?
Is there a set length of time til you move back or til the girls come to you?
Do you rent or own your place in SD?
Why is the GF so stuck on cali.. could she be persuaded otherwise?
Lastly how permanent/ secure is the opportunity?
If you currently rent your place in SD and your GF doesn't live with you, I say go.
If you already live with your GF and she doesn't contribute to bills go. maybe drag her with
If you can afford to buy a home to your liking in AZ after 1 year go.
If you can save the money for a home in SD in around 2.5 years go
Most scenarios in my head just play out better with less costs and saved money.... especially if you can purchase a home to pass down to your daughters. that's how wealth accumulates in a family.
Arizona has some FINE women too so if GF is not down for the ride she can step aside
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You don't want to be in the same situation your in now 5 years from now regretting not taking the leap.
Trust me it will haunt you.
Worst case scenario you can always move back to SD.
You have to gamble to win.
Best of luck either way.
Trust me it will haunt you.
Worst case scenario you can always move back to SD.
You have to gamble to win.
Best of luck either way.
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I am a father on an 11 year old daughter.
After going through some recent health scares(cancer), the moments I cherish in life the most are the quality times we spend together.
I wouldn't trade those moments for any financial security.
Just my two cents.
After going through some recent health scares(cancer), the moments I cherish in life the most are the quality times we spend together.
I wouldn't trade those moments for any financial security.
Just my two cents.
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I'm in the military. I'm stationed in VA, my daughter has been living in TX for most of her 9 years. She lives with me during the summers unless I'm on deployment like this past summer. It's hard especially on the kid as they get accustomed to seeing you and spending time as you both grow and build that parent/child relationship.
My daughter jokes all the time that I should get out the military and come live with her, even offered me her room, lol.
There are certain things you must go through in order to get to where you and your family needs to be. You have to support your child, even though many say the "financial" aspect doesn't matter, well how will you be able to support your kid with no viable income?
Communication is key, so make sure you've talked with her mom on the situation and if you can get paperwork drafted to CYOA as far as visitation and things go.
Forgive me I'm all over the place as this is something I can relate to...plus it's like 6am here and I'm DEAD.
My daughter jokes all the time that I should get out the military and come live with her, even offered me her room, lol.
There are certain things you must go through in order to get to where you and your family needs to be. You have to support your child, even though many say the "financial" aspect doesn't matter, well how will you be able to support your kid with no viable income?
Communication is key, so make sure you've talked with her mom on the situation and if you can get paperwork drafted to CYOA as far as visitation and things go.
Forgive me I'm all over the place as this is something I can relate to...plus it's like 6am here and I'm DEAD.
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I already have a gig lined up. The company I work for now purchased a large building in AZ and they're moving 10% of a few departments there as leaders to set the tone for employees they hire from AZ.
My thinking is the company may eventually leave California because it's cheaper to operate in AZ. When that happens, I'm in a great position as someone that not only moved, but moved up through the ranks in AZ. They only chose a select few to go and I'm one of them. I've been with this company and have moved up already, so I trust them.
My girls go to a great school in San Diego. My oldest is a GATE (gifted) student and my youngest is right on her heels. I'm not going to attempt to move them to AZ.
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Thanks. I answered some of your questions in the response above. The pay is the same and my expenses will be lowered. I plan on staying long term.
As far as passing down wealth, I agree. I feel like black families need to start passing down wealth instead of debts and that is something I'm trying to do.
This type of thinking has me leaning toward the move. I'm not young and the last thing I wanna do is turn down a good opportunity and be stuck in the same spot when my girls are getting ready for college.
Someone that I consider my brother did that and his daughter is getting ready to go to college and he's miserable... stuck where he was 5 years ago and he had the opportunity to change things at that point.
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I mean I think it comes down to how much more money is this move gonna net you in the long run. Are you making remotely reasonable money where you are at now? Are you struggling now? For me, it would take a massive monetary increase for me to think about it.
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I would be 350 miles and less than 6 hours away. So really, I could make the drive every other weekend without it getting tiresome. I'm hoping the fact that I've spent 10 years in San Diego building our relationship softens the blow. We spend half the week of every week together currently.
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Not sure if you grew up in SD or not but leaving your comfort zone really keeps you motivated to succeed.
Everyone I know who's took that leap and left their hometown for opportunity has flourished.
It's a big step but I think it'll pay off.
I'm on the verge of jumping to DC with my brother and I have a daughter here in Cincinnati.
I'll wait for your update before I make my decision
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With what I currently make in SD I'm not struggling at all. I choose to live in a nicer neighborhood/condo so I could definitely decrease my cost of living here, but I'd be downgrading in lifestyle and I'm not cool with moving backward. SD is in the top 10 of most expensive US cities and was ranked the least affordable by realtor.com based on average income.
I would make the same pay in AZ so I can have the same quality of life there at a lower price. That will allow me to put more money away and do more for my daughters and myself.
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Not sure if you grew up in SD or not but leaving your comfort zone really keeps you motivated to succeed.
Everyone I know who's took that leap and left their hometown for opportunity has flourished.
It's a big step but I think it'll pay off.
I'm on the verge of jumping to DC with my brother and I have a daughter here in Cincinnati.
I'll wait for your update before I make my decision
Damn. Why do I have to be the guinea pig? Joking.
I didn't grow up here, but have been here for 15 years and I agree with leaving my comfort zone to level up.
Oh, then idk dude. I thought that it was a job raise or increase. If your making the same and the only difference is cost of living I'd personally just try to make up the difference in a way closer to where I am but that's me personally. Like I could move to Alabama and live like a king and save tons for the future but I don't think thatd be worth it to be away from my loved ones
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AZ isn't Bama though. I hear you. It's not a cross country move. I've been to Phoenix, Tempe, Scottsdale, Tucson, etc. They're not that different than San Diego. I have a family member that did something similar after Katrina and has had a lot of success and opportunities he wouldn't have had otherwise if he stayed in New Orleans. My family in SD will also help with my girls.
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Oh you're good then fam. I think you mentioned this idea before too. Good luck my G.
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My brother no amount of money or security can match the time you spend with your seeds. I respect you for making a tough decision for the advancement of their future, but both of you will miss the time spent. Either way blessings regardless of your decision.
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I'm moving and spending the same number of days per year with them. I think they'll be fine.
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If you leave, your BM and daughters will end up in TJ on weekends making money. Dont do it
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Nah.
My ex ain't that damn grimey. I know what she's capable of because I've seen it. That's not in her repetoire.
