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Yeah is not as expected, but it is a nice gesture.
Giving a Wedding gift?
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Yeah is not as expected, but it is a nice gesture.
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Unless the person BBQing specifically says "don't bring anything," you're gonna look like a lame showing up empty handed.
More food for the grill, liquor/beer, SOMETHING.
More food for the grill, liquor/beer, SOMETHING.
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Even if they say don't bring anything, I still at least bring some Dr Pepper or a side dish
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I dont know about some of yall man, no matter how big or small the function, i ALWAYS come with something. A $14.99 case of corona is not gonna make me homeless. Its just common courtesy man, no one likes that 1 dude who rolls up empty handed and consumes all your ****.
I had to cut off a childhood friend who would always pull this ****. Last straw was when he got invited to my cousins wedding. Ate all the lobster, drank all the henn, and dipped without leaving an envelope or saying a word to anyone.
I had to cut off a childhood friend who would always pull this ****. Last straw was when he got invited to my cousins wedding. Ate all the lobster, drank all the henn, and dipped without leaving an envelope or saying a word to anyone.
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They should be honor he was there to celebrate! How dare you be upset about that! If the bride and groom expected decency from him, they shouldn't had invited him!
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Lol
If that was the norm, im sure most weddings would be held in backyards with a byob policy. $5 Friday cupcakes from safeway anyone?
If that was the norm, im sure most weddings would be held in backyards with a byob policy. $5 Friday cupcakes from safeway anyone?
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For bbqs At minimum my people's will bring some soda & bags of chips, even if "we don't need anything"
If your peoples are having a kick back and you can't think to at least bring that, you're a clown.
And more bottles/beer if you a real one
If your peoples are having a kick back and you can't think to at least bring that, you're a clown.
And more bottles/beer if you a real one
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And people will talk **** talmbout what type of wedding is this!?
Dudes killing me in here trying so hard to take the high road, shaming the bride and groom for expecting some decency from their guests...lol
As I said earlier the only time is acceptable to show up empty handed is at a destination wedding, because as is, this is already a huge expense on the guests....oh and if you are in the bridal party, you get a pass too
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I think some of you just need new friends. 
The worst was when I was in college and one of us would put a meal on our card and everyone else would pay cash.... And there's always those one or two kids who don't put tip OR tax. And of course they're using money their wealthy parents gave them.
The worst was when I was in college and one of us would put a meal on our card and everyone else would pay cash.... And there's always those one or two kids who don't put tip OR tax. And of course they're using money their wealthy parents gave them.
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And people will talk **** talmbout what type of wedding is this!?
Dudes killing me in here trying so hard to take the high road, shaming the bride and groom for expecting some decency from their guests...lol
As I said earlier the only time is acceptable to show up empty handed is at a destination wedding, because as is, this is already a huge expense on the guests....oh and if you are in the bridal party, you get a pass too
No one is shaming anyone, if you go back and read dudes post he was expecting to be compensated. If you read the whole thread no one even disagrees with the fact that not bringing a gift is bad etiquette. matter of fact, most of you dudes was shaming @DCAllAmerican for bringing anything other than a envelope.
the simple reality is not everyone understands that you should be giving a gift, it's also just as bad for the bride and groom to expect money back because they invited you. those are both examples of poor taste.
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Is not compensation, is proper ettiquete what's expected.
And please tell me you are smarter than to fall for the DC troll game, he said that just to get a reaction out of people, that's what he always does, he's been to Two wedding and I will bet money he didn't dare bring them a boxed gift or show up empty handed...lol
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Regardless of etiquette It's childish to feel some sort of way if the guests you invite show up empty handed. Would I do it? Of course not but thats not the point.
If I'm inviting you to my wedding it's because I want you to be there and because I can afford to have you there.
Raising eyebrows because you spent a certain amount of money per person and don't get a return on your investment is petty.
If I'm inviting you to my wedding it's because I want you to be there and because I can afford to have you there.
Raising eyebrows because you spent a certain amount of money per person and don't get a return on your investment is petty.
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Ya doing too much, if you understand is the right etiquette then what's the issue here? Is ettiquette because it has become the norm, what's EXPECTED...showing up empty handed is unacceptable, will you get called out on? More than likely not, doesn't negate the fact that doing so is lame and it doesn't reflect at all on the bride and groom how they decide to feel about it, needless to say, is not as easy as saying if I can't afford to invite you, I simply won't, because those of us that have been through t know, that not everyone you paid for to attend is someone you nessesarily wanted there, you got +1's you may not know, you got friends of siblings and parents that you invite for your parents, not everyone has 60k lounging around to throw into a wedding, but bride and grooms sacrifice, not just for themselves, but so that everyone attending is happy....expecting a gift isn't unethical or lame on their part....this shouldn't even be a discussion.
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uhh, when you continually mention the monetary value then yes it's compensation.
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Call it what ya want
Ya rather look at a bride and groom funny for expecting a gift than judging a cheap guest that decided it was cool to show up empty handed feeling entitled
Let's just agree to disagree, just like tipping threads, this isn't gonna go anywhere
Ya rather look at a bride and groom funny for expecting a gift than judging a cheap guest that decided it was cool to show up empty handed feeling entitled
Let's just agree to disagree, just like tipping threads, this isn't gonna go anywhere
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nah, we looking at everyone involved funny. not sure how many times we have to say it.
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It's not even about expecting a gift. But it's just rude and and frowned upon to go empty handed to a wedding. It's like you don't respect the groom and bride to bring anything to the party. They want you to be there on that special day but just realize how much money is spent like on food, alcohol, venue and everything the least you can do is give them something nothing too extravagant. Even 50 bucks should be decent but to give nothing is uncalled for. The groom and bride are not expecting a return for the party because if you came empty handed they won't call you out on it or not be your friend but it would look lame on you
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Like i said it's, petty, childish, and not a good look if you feel offended that a guest didn't give you a return on investment.
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I personally didn't feel offended, I felt a little disappointed, but mostly me and the wife legit laughed about the lack of social ettiquete of those that pulled the empty handed stunt, we never called them out on it, but we def had a different view of them after that....so once again the only ones looking funny is the guest, bride and groom, will laugh it off and go about their lives.
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Homeboy who made this thread is clearly offended.
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Funny, OP is not a groom, he's actually a guest.
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yeah that makes no damn sense. if you want an investment, invest the ACTUAL money you would spend on a wedding and have your reception at mcd and make everyone order off the extra value menu instead of rolling the dice on money from your guests
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Some of yall sound like yall been raised by single crack ***** moms and have no father figures and had off brand cereal your whole life.
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