Giving a Wedding gift?

are you from NJ notorious? just curious as to where you had your wedding since im from NJ also... if i ever do get married it will be somewhere low key nothing over the top :lol:
 
You really can't go into a wedding expecting to receive specific amount of gifts. If you're spending a ton of money on the wedding then you need to be comfortable getting nothing back.

OP give what you can. A friend won't look down on you if you can't give a bigger gift (or no gift at all).
 
:lol: that's a horrible story and part of why i don't think it's a good idea to waste money on a lavish reception unless you're really wealthy. sucks to have to rely on guests "reimbursing" your expenses.

i like what this guys said:
DownyBoy said:
You really can't go into a wedding expecting to receive specific amount of gifts. If you're spending a ton of money on the wedding then you need to be comfortable getting nothing back.
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I'm getting married in October, nothing extravagant, just a small outdoor wedding, and a chill dinner at our favorite spot for 90 or so people. It's me paying for it... I don't expect much as my girl's family doesn't have a ton of money and I don't have much family, but I would be pretty hot if someone gave us cards with $0 - $20. SMH
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I'm from south jersey
Had it at Paris Caterers

And I wasn't expecting money but I also wasn't expecting $5 cards, I wouldn't give $5 to a $2 years bday let alone a wedding lol

I was assuming/thinking logically
$5 at a wedding?
People knew where the wedding was
Knew the food they were eating months in advance cause they had to pick their plate and they knew it was open bar lol

And it didn't make or break me at all
That's besides the point tho
 
Exactly
I wasn't expecting all the money
And my wife wasn't expecting anything at all
But to put $5 in a card is disrespectful lol
 
The crazy part is they put their name on the card. So you know who gave you what.
 
We went to bed at like 5/6am
Woke up at 7/8 and I started cracking cards open
She started writing the totals on the envelopes or a notepad to remember who gave what

It got so bad after awhile, we stopped writing lol
 
Don't get me wrong tho
We got a couple $200, $250, $300 checks/cash
Some $100, $150s too

But tons under $25
 
One person borrowed $300 while we were planning and paying for the wedding; didn't pay me back, came to the wedding, no gift, no card, no cash lol

Stuff like that, you leave in God's hands lol
 
That's the thing bro!
Me and my wife were talking like, what we gonna do when it's their turn?!

We not gonna be spiteful and miss out on a blessing man lol

But it's a couple events from people coming up
 
$5-$20 in a wedding card is :rofl: unless its some circumstance where the guest is going through some hard times or something and lets you know ahead of time. What annoyed me at my wedding was people who said they were coming, but didn't show up :smh: Still had a great time though
 
DC, nothing wrong with bringing the gift to the wedding, but it's awkward for everyone. You don't want to spend the whole night catching the eye of the groom as he's glancing over to make sure he doesn't lose your gift (I know because I've been there). And you definitely don't wanna find out the next day that he forgot your gift at the venue...

As for these wedding gifts, maybe I'm a grouch, but I wouldn't plan a wedding expecting to recoup any of the costs from gifts. It just leads to undue expectations and potential financial disaster.

Especially since 90% of my guests would be flying in and getting 2 nights at a hotel. That's easily $500+ plus 2-3 days of their life so whether they give me $5 or $100 they still dropped way too much money and time on my special day.
 
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DCAllAmerican said:
Who gives a damn about raised eyebrows.

This is a gift from a friend to a friend. Doesn't matter what other people think. They will forget about the box once they leave that event
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Some of you guys are so socially challenge it leads me to believe you've never even attended a wedding, you know how annoying it is for a bride to arrange at the end of her night to have someone get a bunch of boxed gifts to her apt...dawg don't no bride or groom would appreciate that **** :lol:

Money or bust....that is the only thing you gift at a wedding....if you want to give them an actual gift, let it be an add on and have it delivered to their home post wedding.
 
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Not gonna quote every one lol, I'll just answer

1. Yup $0, $5, $10... more than one of each.. many $0 and we actually had people not give us anything, no cards, no money, no gift

2. We opened the cards the morning after, we were opening cards and our jaws just dropped. We were just like wow lol, do they know how much their plates were?! And it was the main ones getting drunk.

And yup, names on the cards and all Lolol
No shame at all.

And we had like 250 people invited, plates paid for and all at $90 each
Some people actually begged to be invited and some confirmed that they'd come and didn't come and didn't send a gift or reimburse. Insane
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All too familiar :rofl:

I remember sitting in bed the morning after going through the envelops and we couldn't help but laugh, someone dead *** threw a couple of quarters with 2 20$ bills....not sure if I was being trolled....but whatever, some people have 0 wedding etiquette, not really their fault...just ignorant.
 
whywesteppin said:
DC, nothing wrong with bringing the gift to the wedding, but it's awkward for everyone. You don't want to spend the whole night catching the eye of the groom as he's glancing over to make sure he doesn't lose your gift (I know because I've been there). And you definitely don't wanna find out the next day that he forgot your gift at the venue...

As for these wedding gifts, maybe I'm a grouch, but I wouldn't plan a wedding expecting to recoup any of the costs from gifts. It just leads to undue expectations and potential financial disaster.

Especially since 90% of my guests would be flying in and getting 2 nights at a hotel. That's easily $500+ plus 2-3 days of their life so whether they give me $5 or $100 they still dropped way too much money and time on my special day.
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Only time is acceptable to not gift and I know for a fact most brides won't hold it against you is if you attend their destination wedding....in these cases guests have spent more than enough to share that moment with you, expecting a gift is ridiculous....

Attending a family members or friends wedding that you have to fly out to but is not a destination wedding I'll still bite the bullet and gift like everyone else, I did so with my cousin, had to get to Chicago and stay in a hotel, gave her 350$ because it was the wife and I and our moms...so I was on the low end but understandable considering all the other expenses that came with it, still showing up empty handed is classless IMO
 
^ true, at the end of the day, it's better to give something unless you can't afford it.

honestly, the flip side of this: if you aren't close enough to the friend or family to want to cough up more than $20, you probably shouldn't be at the wedding to begin with. this is assuming it's a traditional-style wedding that's of a reasonable size.
 
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