10 Tips for Approaching Single Women

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  1. bjamez20

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    from Yahoo, some decent advice in there

    merry Christmas team YNS


    1. Observe something. Make a comment about something you observe in the environment. This is especially effective at the grocery store. For example, if she is ordering a turkey sandwich, ask her if the turkey is good here. Make your comment immediate to the situation and it will seem perfectly natural. No matter where you are, there is always something interesting to comment on.

    2. Smile. This shows her that you are friendly and confident. A genuine smile not only feels good to you, but will put her at ease while creating openness in the interaction -- a requirement for building rapport.

    3. Do not hesitate. If you hesitate in your approach, this tells her that you are not feeling confident -- an immediate turn-off. When you see her, walk over to her within a short period of time (the three-second rule). Show her you are a man who knows what he wants and goes after it.

    4. Positive body language. If you approach hunched over with your head down, you are sending negative information about yourself, which makes you dead in the water before you begin. Stand up straight, with shoulders back and chest out, and use a firm yet relaxed walk.

    5. Not too fast. If you walk over too fast, you could likely trigger her internal alarm. A calm, casual approach is usually the best way to make her feel at ease with you.

    6. Keep eye contact. Never be the first to break eye contact when you approach. If you do, this sends the message that you are not feeling good about approaching. When you use strong eye contact, she will feel more drawn to you. With practice, you can master this.

    7. Listen up. Make sure you pay careful attention to what she says. Do not have your response pre-thought out. Women love a man who pays attention to the details of what she says. If you start throwing out random words, she will lose interest fast.

    8. Do not fidget. Fidgeting after you approach is distracting and shows you are uncomfortable. If you communicate that you are uncomfortable, she will feel uncomfortable, too, and will close up. Practice being aware of your movements. Pay attention to those movements, or lack of movements, that communicate comfort and confidence.

    9. Lighten your tone of voice. The tone of your voice is a very powerful tool. Approaching her in a light and playful tone is one of the best ways to start. You could also begin in a serious tone, accusing her of something like "I hope you saved some turkey for me," followed by a quick smile to let her know you are joking. Practice playing with your vocal tone with your friends -- notice the different reactions you get when you say the exact same thing using varied tones and fluctuations.

    10. Lean away from her. A man who leans in too far when he talks often makes a woman feel crowded. A better approach is to lean away from her slightly. This lets her know that you respect her space, boundaries, and are comfortable with yourself.

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  2. homerxxi

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    lol i read the whole thing lmao did u save some turkey for me
     
  3. regal black

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    yawnzzz
     
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  5. JVII

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    meh... too much work
     
  6. johnnyredstorm

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    What's this dude's obsession with turkey [​IMG]
     
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    Tell me something that I don't know
     
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  10. rsdplaya

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    i'd say these are the best tips on there.
     
  11. jermz101

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    i suppose
     
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  13. cor23ey

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    Bet an old fat dude wrote that...
     
  14. ecook0808

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    Hope most of you guys approach girls like this at a party or wherever...
     
  15. bjamez20

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    [​IMG] i can imagine a lotta people messing this up...

    the examples he used are horrible but the general guidelines are pretty solid
     
  16. chris boshs neck

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    Sounds like Simping 101
     
  17. danzinreallife

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    [​IMG] mmmm turkey.. I missed out on eating some today. Le sigh.
     
  18. 18key

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    I dont know if it's because I've been drinking, but this was hilarious. #10 almost made me fall over.
     
  19. frostythepoptart

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    fail and it all depends.

    pre thought out responses definitely work.

    you can lean in closer to her and make the convo more personal

    lighten your voice? fail. you wanna look soft to the chick.

    + for no fidgeting.

    no problem with hesitating, only means you actually think before you do.
     
  20. dummie sole

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    Thats solid.
     
  21. doosta45

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    common sense
     
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    Just spat on my monitor. [​IMG]
     
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    Holla Holla Holla LMAO!!!
     
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