ok, didn’t follow all the back & forth there…so i saw the question but not the context.
i’d say because women are the ones that have to go through the labor of birthing kids they bear the responsibility of birth control (some interesting studies even found that hormonal birth control may impact what men women are attracted to) so it is a choice they have to weigh being that most of age women are going to likely be sexually actively…women don’t necessarily have to choose one over the other, ideally nothing really precludes pursuing both simultaneously but that isn’t the functional reality and many women do have to weigh one against the other to some extent. i’d guess if one were able talk to some representative number of single women today in the states they would actually say they are delaying & advise other women to delay serious relationship & having children until they are done with their education &/or established in their careers or have found themselves or traveled or lived some milestone (i think the average age of marriage, and less folk are getting hitched at all, now is about 30 for men & women)…sometimes women are having the choice made for them by just putting it off & prioritizing other things
the things men & women tend to find attractive about the opposite sex tend to be different, typically women want & marry, and the data shows this, men that are at least their equal in economics, physical attractiveness, &/or status, preferably higher…an unintended consequence of women’s successfulness (how are we to define success? i guessing financial?) as they raise their economic status is that less men, maybe only superficially, seem viable to those successful women & successful men that are of a similar status don’t necessarily have that same requirement. some say that everyone wants what they want but will eventually be rational and settle on their best option/what is available but anecdotally it seems to me that men are way more willing to settle & even be comedic/nostalgic about their past wins & losses meanwhile women’s, en masse, mantra is to not settle, always seemed scarred by bad relationships, and in a real sense pursue success as way to not have to settle/be autonomous.
the point is, many women say they want these things, a solid stable relationship/marriage, a man that is able to provide on some level, children, family, but aren’t necessarily actively pursuing these things and sometimes are counterintuitively making those thing harder to achieve…this isn’t to say women shouldn’t strive for success but that they should be as intentional about those other thing as they are about their education/careers
i would agree it is true that successful women don’t need to deal with less than what they believe they deserve and some men definitely could be emasculated by a women that is more successful but often i think the conflict men may have with ‘successful’ women is that often that type of woman that has fought to be successful and isn’t necessarily going to be able or even want to turn that off with her dude, not impossible to deal with but it can be frustrating if she’s not the type to compartmentalize
is it tho? an often cited observation, the truth/veracity of which i can’t find reference to and even if true there could other confounding factors at play, is that one precursor to divorce is a woman receiving a raise
. i think if women truly is onboard with a guy’s direction it can be calm but how many dudes really got it like that, lots of dudes abide by the ‘happy wife, happy life’ saying
