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This is a tough one for me.
I got a friend of mine who I've known since we were in 5th grade. Played AAU ball with him for years, and were pretty close throughout high school. I've always been on the look out for him, especially over the course of the past year. We're both in college now, or actually I'm the only one taking classes. We're still pretty close, but he basically leads two separate lives. He has his weed smoking black brothers of his, and then he has me, his brother from another mother white kid.
He went through a bad break up with this girl awhile back. He was pretty depressed for awhile, so I was always taking him out to eat just to help get his mind right and talk to him. Then I even got him a job with my company and introduced him to this new girl I knew. They hit it off and he was good for awhile.
The I get word from my boss that he hasn't been doing his job at work, and that he's been missing his probation meetings with his PO. He had some minor legal trouble awhile back. Next thing you know, he gets locked up for 45 days for violating his parole.
He got out last week, and I went to see him of course. He seemed to have his head on straight and was stoked about going job hunting and getting his life back together.
Literally a week passes and I talk to his girl at work because she seemed upset. I come to find out that they went to a party over the weekend, and he broke up with her. Then he proceeded to have sex with her against her will...
Its gets better... or worse I should say.....He asks her I guess while they are having sex : " Do you want to be friends?" She replies "No." The he gets pissed and says "What #%+++? I thought you wanted to have my babies?" And she replies, " You just broke up with me, why would I want to do that?" The he goes, "Well you might have them now."
Dude came in her.
Then when she tried to leave and was crying, he basically pushed her against the wall and then threw her on the couch and told her she couldn't leave.
All of this just left me disgusted. A lot of people around him are starting to wonder if he is Bi-Polar since his moods can go from manic to depressed in a matter of days, and I heard he told his girl he's one bullet away from death. I didnt confront him about any of this, but I'm just somewhat torn.
Sorry that was long, but I've reached out and helped my dude numerous times but I think he needs more help then I can give him. Is it time to just worry about myself?
I got a friend of mine who I've known since we were in 5th grade. Played AAU ball with him for years, and were pretty close throughout high school. I've always been on the look out for him, especially over the course of the past year. We're both in college now, or actually I'm the only one taking classes. We're still pretty close, but he basically leads two separate lives. He has his weed smoking black brothers of his, and then he has me, his brother from another mother white kid.
He went through a bad break up with this girl awhile back. He was pretty depressed for awhile, so I was always taking him out to eat just to help get his mind right and talk to him. Then I even got him a job with my company and introduced him to this new girl I knew. They hit it off and he was good for awhile.
The I get word from my boss that he hasn't been doing his job at work, and that he's been missing his probation meetings with his PO. He had some minor legal trouble awhile back. Next thing you know, he gets locked up for 45 days for violating his parole.
He got out last week, and I went to see him of course. He seemed to have his head on straight and was stoked about going job hunting and getting his life back together.
Literally a week passes and I talk to his girl at work because she seemed upset. I come to find out that they went to a party over the weekend, and he broke up with her. Then he proceeded to have sex with her against her will...
Its gets better... or worse I should say.....He asks her I guess while they are having sex : " Do you want to be friends?" She replies "No." The he gets pissed and says "What #%+++? I thought you wanted to have my babies?" And she replies, " You just broke up with me, why would I want to do that?" The he goes, "Well you might have them now."
Dude came in her.
Then when she tried to leave and was crying, he basically pushed her against the wall and then threw her on the couch and told her she couldn't leave.
All of this just left me disgusted. A lot of people around him are starting to wonder if he is Bi-Polar since his moods can go from manic to depressed in a matter of days, and I heard he told his girl he's one bullet away from death. I didnt confront him about any of this, but I'm just somewhat torn.
Sorry that was long, but I've reached out and helped my dude numerous times but I think he needs more help then I can give him. Is it time to just worry about myself?