At What Point Do You Just Give Up on Friends You Were Once Close With....? Uh, Rape?

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This is a tough one for me.
I got a friend of mine who I've known since we were in 5th grade. Played AAU ball with him for years, and were pretty close throughout high school. I've always been on the look out for him, especially over the course of the past year. We're both in college now, or actually I'm the only one taking classes. We're still pretty close, but he basically leads two separate lives. He has his weed smoking black brothers of his, and then he has me, his brother from another mother white kid.

He went through a bad break up with this girl awhile back. He was pretty depressed for awhile, so I was always taking him out to eat just to help get his mind right and talk to him. Then I even got him a job with my company and introduced him to this new girl I knew. They hit it off and he was good for awhile.

The I get word from my boss that he hasn't been doing his job at work, and that he's been missing his probation meetings with his PO. He had some minor legal trouble awhile back. Next thing you know, he gets locked up for 45 days for violating his parole.

He got out last week, and I went to see him of course. He seemed to have his head on straight and was stoked about going job hunting and getting his life back together. 

Literally a week passes and I talk to his girl at work because she seemed upset. I come to find out that they went to a party over the weekend, and he broke up with her. Then he proceeded to have sex with her against her will...

Its gets better... or worse I should say.....He asks her I guess while they are having sex : " Do you want to be friends?" She replies "No." The he gets pissed and says "What #%+++? I thought you wanted to have my babies?" And she replies, " You just broke up with me, why would I want to do that?" The he goes, "Well you might have them now."

Dude came in her.

Then when she tried to leave and was crying, he basically pushed her against the wall and then threw her on the couch and told her she couldn't leave.

All of this just left me disgusted. A lot of people around him are starting to wonder if he is Bi-Polar since his moods can go from manic to depressed in a matter of days, and I heard he told his girl he's one bullet away from death. I didnt confront him about any of this, but I'm just somewhat torn. 

Sorry that was long, but I've reached out and helped my dude numerous times but I think he needs more help then I can give him. Is it time to just worry about myself?
 
This is a tough one for me.
I got a friend of mine who I've known since we were in 5th grade. Played AAU ball with him for years, and were pretty close throughout high school. I've always been on the look out for him, especially over the course of the past year. We're both in college now, or actually I'm the only one taking classes. We're still pretty close, but he basically leads two separate lives. He has his weed smoking black brothers of his, and then he has me, his brother from another mother white kid.

He went through a bad break up with this girl awhile back. He was pretty depressed for awhile, so I was always taking him out to eat just to help get his mind right and talk to him. Then I even got him a job with my company and introduced him to this new girl I knew. They hit it off and he was good for awhile.

The I get word from my boss that he hasn't been doing his job at work, and that he's been missing his probation meetings with his PO. He had some minor legal trouble awhile back. Next thing you know, he gets locked up for 45 days for violating his parole.

He got out last week, and I went to see him of course. He seemed to have his head on straight and was stoked about going job hunting and getting his life back together. 

Literally a week passes and I talk to his girl at work because she seemed upset. I come to find out that they went to a party over the weekend, and he broke up with her. Then he proceeded to have sex with her against her will...

Its gets better... or worse I should say.....He asks her I guess while they are having sex : " Do you want to be friends?" She replies "No." The he gets pissed and says "What #%+++? I thought you wanted to have my babies?" And she replies, " You just broke up with me, why would I want to do that?" The he goes, "Well you might have them now."

Dude came in her.

Then when she tried to leave and was crying, he basically pushed her against the wall and then threw her on the couch and told her she couldn't leave.

All of this just left me disgusted. A lot of people around him are starting to wonder if he is Bi-Polar since his moods can go from manic to depressed in a matter of days, and I heard he told his girl he's one bullet away from death. I didnt confront him about any of this, but I'm just somewhat torn. 

Sorry that was long, but I've reached out and helped my dude numerous times but I think he needs more help then I can give him. Is it time to just worry about myself?
 
Originally Posted by CampbellSoup

This is a tough one for me.
I got a friend of mine who I've known since we were in 5th grade. Played AAU ball with him for years, and were pretty close throughout high school. I've always been on the look out for him, especially over the course of the past year. We're both in college now, or actually I'm the only one taking classes. We're still pretty close, but he basically leads two separate lives. He has his weed smoking black brothers of his, and then he has me, his brother from another mother white kid.

He went through a bad break up with this girl awhile back. He was pretty depressed for awhile, so I was always taking him out to eat just to help get his mind right. Then I even got him a job with my company and introduced him to this new girl I knew. They hit it off and he was good for awhile.

The I get word from my boss that he hasn't been doing his job at work, and that he's been missing his probation meetings with his PO. He has some minor legal trouble awhile back. Next thing you know, he gets locked up for 45 days for violating his parole.

He got out last week, and I went to see him. He seemed to have his head on straight and was stoked about going job hunting and getting his life back together. 

Literally a week passes and I talk to his girl at work because she seemed upset. I come to find out that they went to a party over the weekend, and he broke up with her. Then he proceeded to have sex with her against her will...

Its gets better... or worse I should say.....He asks her I guess while they are having sex " Do you want to be friends?" She replies "No." The he gets pissed and says "What !$%$*? I thought you wanted to have my babies?" Of course she replies, " You just broke up with me, why would I want to do that?" The he goes, "Well you might have them now."

Dude came in her.

Then when she tried to leave and was crying, he basically pushed her against the wall and then threw her on the couch and told her she couldn't leave.

All of this just left me disgusted. A lot of people around him are starting to wonder if he is Bi-Polar since his moods can go from manic to depressed in a matter of days, and I heard he told his girl he's one bullet away from death. I didnt confront him about any of this, but I'm just somewhat torn. 

Sorry that was long.
This boy is a filthy punk rapist who (if I got my hands on him) would be bloody and dying and begging me for mercy. I have no respect for #@*@ sapiens (I won't give him the honor of addressing him as a person) who do this kind of thing and by all means... cut your ties. 
He wouldn't be the first rapist I've killed, either. 

No offense, but this is a no brainer and this has no business of even being a new thread on this site. 
 
Originally Posted by CampbellSoup

This is a tough one for me.
I got a friend of mine who I've known since we were in 5th grade. Played AAU ball with him for years, and were pretty close throughout high school. I've always been on the look out for him, especially over the course of the past year. We're both in college now, or actually I'm the only one taking classes. We're still pretty close, but he basically leads two separate lives. He has his weed smoking black brothers of his, and then he has me, his brother from another mother white kid.

He went through a bad break up with this girl awhile back. He was pretty depressed for awhile, so I was always taking him out to eat just to help get his mind right. Then I even got him a job with my company and introduced him to this new girl I knew. They hit it off and he was good for awhile.

The I get word from my boss that he hasn't been doing his job at work, and that he's been missing his probation meetings with his PO. He has some minor legal trouble awhile back. Next thing you know, he gets locked up for 45 days for violating his parole.

He got out last week, and I went to see him. He seemed to have his head on straight and was stoked about going job hunting and getting his life back together. 

Literally a week passes and I talk to his girl at work because she seemed upset. I come to find out that they went to a party over the weekend, and he broke up with her. Then he proceeded to have sex with her against her will...

Its gets better... or worse I should say.....He asks her I guess while they are having sex " Do you want to be friends?" She replies "No." The he gets pissed and says "What !$%$*? I thought you wanted to have my babies?" Of course she replies, " You just broke up with me, why would I want to do that?" The he goes, "Well you might have them now."

Dude came in her.

Then when she tried to leave and was crying, he basically pushed her against the wall and then threw her on the couch and told her she couldn't leave.

All of this just left me disgusted. A lot of people around him are starting to wonder if he is Bi-Polar since his moods can go from manic to depressed in a matter of days, and I heard he told his girl he's one bullet away from death. I didnt confront him about any of this, but I'm just somewhat torn. 

Sorry that was long.
This boy is a filthy punk rapist who (if I got my hands on him) would be bloody and dying and begging me for mercy. I have no respect for #@*@ sapiens (I won't give him the honor of addressing him as a person) who do this kind of thing and by all means... cut your ties. 
He wouldn't be the first rapist I've killed, either. 

No offense, but this is a no brainer and this has no business of even being a new thread on this site. 
 
Originally Posted by CampbellSoup

This is a tough one for me.
I got a friend of mine who I've known since we were in 5th grade. Played AAU ball with him for years, and were pretty close throughout high school. I've always been on the look out for him, especially over the course of the past year. We're both in college now, or actually I'm the only one taking classes. We're still pretty close, but he basically leads two separate lives. He has his weed smoking black brothers of his, and then he has me, his brother from another mother white kid.

He went through a bad break up with this girl awhile back. He was pretty depressed for awhile, so I was always taking him out to eat just to help get his mind right. Then I even got him a job with my company and introduced him to this new girl I knew. They hit it off and he was good for awhile.

The I get word from my boss that he hasn't been doing his job at work, and that he's been missing his probation meetings with his PO. He has some minor legal trouble awhile back. Next thing you know, he gets locked up for 45 days for violating his parole.

He got out last week, and I went to see him. He seemed to have his head on straight and was stoked about going job hunting and getting his life back together. 

Literally a week passes and I talk to his girl at work because she seemed upset. I come to find out that they went to a party over the weekend, and he broke up with her. Then he proceeded to have sex with her against her will...

Its gets better... or worse I should say.....He asks her I guess while they are having sex " Do you want to be friends?" She replies "No." The he gets pissed and says "What !$%$*? I thought you wanted to have my babies?" Of course she replies, " You just broke up with me, why would I want to do that?" The he goes, "Well you might have them now."

Dude came in her.

Then when she tried to leave and was crying, he basically pushed her against the wall and then threw her on the couch and told her she couldn't leave.

All of this just left me disgusted. A lot of people around him are starting to wonder if he is Bi-Polar since his moods can go from manic to depressed in a matter of days, and I heard he told his girl he's one bullet away from death. I didnt confront him about any of this, but I'm just somewhat torn. 

Sorry that was long.
I give up when I realize that they can potentially hold me back from what I want to do or accomplish long term. Only read the 1st paragraph, though. Will read the rest later.
 
Originally Posted by CampbellSoup

This is a tough one for me.
I got a friend of mine who I've known since we were in 5th grade. Played AAU ball with him for years, and were pretty close throughout high school. I've always been on the look out for him, especially over the course of the past year. We're both in college now, or actually I'm the only one taking classes. We're still pretty close, but he basically leads two separate lives. He has his weed smoking black brothers of his, and then he has me, his brother from another mother white kid.

He went through a bad break up with this girl awhile back. He was pretty depressed for awhile, so I was always taking him out to eat just to help get his mind right. Then I even got him a job with my company and introduced him to this new girl I knew. They hit it off and he was good for awhile.

The I get word from my boss that he hasn't been doing his job at work, and that he's been missing his probation meetings with his PO. He has some minor legal trouble awhile back. Next thing you know, he gets locked up for 45 days for violating his parole.

He got out last week, and I went to see him. He seemed to have his head on straight and was stoked about going job hunting and getting his life back together. 

Literally a week passes and I talk to his girl at work because she seemed upset. I come to find out that they went to a party over the weekend, and he broke up with her. Then he proceeded to have sex with her against her will...

Its gets better... or worse I should say.....He asks her I guess while they are having sex " Do you want to be friends?" She replies "No." The he gets pissed and says "What !$%$*? I thought you wanted to have my babies?" Of course she replies, " You just broke up with me, why would I want to do that?" The he goes, "Well you might have them now."

Dude came in her.

Then when she tried to leave and was crying, he basically pushed her against the wall and then threw her on the couch and told her she couldn't leave.

All of this just left me disgusted. A lot of people around him are starting to wonder if he is Bi-Polar since his moods can go from manic to depressed in a matter of days, and I heard he told his girl he's one bullet away from death. I didnt confront him about any of this, but I'm just somewhat torn. 

Sorry that was long.
I give up when I realize that they can potentially hold me back from what I want to do or accomplish long term. Only read the 1st paragraph, though. Will read the rest later.
 
Originally Posted by Billy BloodBath

Originally Posted by CampbellSoup

This is a tough one for me.
I got a friend of mine who I've known since we were in 5th grade. Played AAU ball with him for years, and were pretty close throughout high school. I've always been on the look out for him, especially over the course of the past year. We're both in college now, or actually I'm the only one taking classes. We're still pretty close, but he basically leads two separate lives. He has his weed smoking black brothers of his, and then he has me, his brother from another mother white kid.

He went through a bad break up with this girl awhile back. He was pretty depressed for awhile, so I was always taking him out to eat just to help get his mind right. Then I even got him a job with my company and introduced him to this new girl I knew. They hit it off and he was good for awhile.

The I get word from my boss that he hasn't been doing his job at work, and that he's been missing his probation meetings with his PO. He has some minor legal trouble awhile back. Next thing you know, he gets locked up for 45 days for violating his parole.

He got out last week, and I went to see him. He seemed to have his head on straight and was stoked about going job hunting and getting his life back together. 

Literally a week passes and I talk to his girl at work because she seemed upset. I come to find out that they went to a party over the weekend, and he broke up with her. Then he proceeded to have sex with her against her will...

Its gets better... or worse I should say.....He asks her I guess while they are having sex " Do you want to be friends?" She replies "No." The he gets pissed and says "What !$%$*? I thought you wanted to have my babies?" Of course she replies, " You just broke up with me, why would I want to do that?" The he goes, "Well you might have them now."

Dude came in her.

Then when she tried to leave and was crying, he basically pushed her against the wall and then threw her on the couch and told her she couldn't leave.

All of this just left me disgusted. A lot of people around him are starting to wonder if he is Bi-Polar since his moods can go from manic to depressed in a matter of days, and I heard he told his girl he's one bullet away from death. I didnt confront him about any of this, but I'm just somewhat torn. 

Sorry that was long.
This boy is a filthy punk rapist who (if I got my hands on him) would be bloody and dying and begging me for mercy. I have no respect for %$@% sapiens (I won't give him the honor of addressing him as a person) who do this kind of thing and by all means... cut your ties. 
No offense, but this is a no brainer and this has no business of even being a new thread on this site. 

I feel what you're saying, but I really do think my dude is mentally ill. He was drunk during the ordeal, but he knew what he was doing. He's told me in the past that he used to hit his ex-girlfriend too. He cant seem to control his anger.
 All I could do is shake my head. He just seems to have two personalities. Ive seen him go from suicidal to on top of the word within a matter of days.
 
Originally Posted by Billy BloodBath

Originally Posted by CampbellSoup

This is a tough one for me.
I got a friend of mine who I've known since we were in 5th grade. Played AAU ball with him for years, and were pretty close throughout high school. I've always been on the look out for him, especially over the course of the past year. We're both in college now, or actually I'm the only one taking classes. We're still pretty close, but he basically leads two separate lives. He has his weed smoking black brothers of his, and then he has me, his brother from another mother white kid.

He went through a bad break up with this girl awhile back. He was pretty depressed for awhile, so I was always taking him out to eat just to help get his mind right. Then I even got him a job with my company and introduced him to this new girl I knew. They hit it off and he was good for awhile.

The I get word from my boss that he hasn't been doing his job at work, and that he's been missing his probation meetings with his PO. He has some minor legal trouble awhile back. Next thing you know, he gets locked up for 45 days for violating his parole.

He got out last week, and I went to see him. He seemed to have his head on straight and was stoked about going job hunting and getting his life back together. 

Literally a week passes and I talk to his girl at work because she seemed upset. I come to find out that they went to a party over the weekend, and he broke up with her. Then he proceeded to have sex with her against her will...

Its gets better... or worse I should say.....He asks her I guess while they are having sex " Do you want to be friends?" She replies "No." The he gets pissed and says "What !$%$*? I thought you wanted to have my babies?" Of course she replies, " You just broke up with me, why would I want to do that?" The he goes, "Well you might have them now."

Dude came in her.

Then when she tried to leave and was crying, he basically pushed her against the wall and then threw her on the couch and told her she couldn't leave.

All of this just left me disgusted. A lot of people around him are starting to wonder if he is Bi-Polar since his moods can go from manic to depressed in a matter of days, and I heard he told his girl he's one bullet away from death. I didnt confront him about any of this, but I'm just somewhat torn. 

Sorry that was long.
This boy is a filthy punk rapist who (if I got my hands on him) would be bloody and dying and begging me for mercy. I have no respect for %$@% sapiens (I won't give him the honor of addressing him as a person) who do this kind of thing and by all means... cut your ties. 
No offense, but this is a no brainer and this has no business of even being a new thread on this site. 

I feel what you're saying, but I really do think my dude is mentally ill. He was drunk during the ordeal, but he knew what he was doing. He's told me in the past that he used to hit his ex-girlfriend too. He cant seem to control his anger.
 All I could do is shake my head. He just seems to have two personalities. Ive seen him go from suicidal to on top of the word within a matter of days.
 
Part of growing up is that some people from you past will fall behind. I think everybody has childhood friends they were close with but as we get older, people change and you gotta think about yourself before them. It sucks they destroy or do nothing with their lives but you can't let that guilt get to you and have to move on.
 
Part of growing up is that some people from you past will fall behind. I think everybody has childhood friends they were close with but as we get older, people change and you gotta think about yourself before them. It sucks they destroy or do nothing with their lives but you can't let that guilt get to you and have to move on.
 
Originally Posted by CampbellSoup

Originally Posted by Billy BloodBath

Originally Posted by CampbellSoup

This is a tough one for me.
I got a friend of mine who I've known since we were in 5th grade. Played AAU ball with him for years, and were pretty close throughout high school. I've always been on the look out for him, especially over the course of the past year. We're both in college now, or actually I'm the only one taking classes. We're still pretty close, but he basically leads two separate lives. He has his weed smoking black brothers of his, and then he has me, his brother from another mother white kid.

He went through a bad break up with this girl awhile back. He was pretty depressed for awhile, so I was always taking him out to eat just to help get his mind right. Then I even got him a job with my company and introduced him to this new girl I knew. They hit it off and he was good for awhile.

The I get word from my boss that he hasn't been doing his job at work, and that he's been missing his probation meetings with his PO. He has some minor legal trouble awhile back. Next thing you know, he gets locked up for 45 days for violating his parole.

He got out last week, and I went to see him. He seemed to have his head on straight and was stoked about going job hunting and getting his life back together. 

Literally a week passes and I talk to his girl at work because she seemed upset. I come to find out that they went to a party over the weekend, and he broke up with her. Then he proceeded to have sex with her against her will...

Its gets better... or worse I should say.....He asks her I guess while they are having sex " Do you want to be friends?" She replies "No." The he gets pissed and says "What !$%$*? I thought you wanted to have my babies?" Of course she replies, " You just broke up with me, why would I want to do that?" The he goes, "Well you might have them now."

Dude came in her.

Then when she tried to leave and was crying, he basically pushed her against the wall and then threw her on the couch and told her she couldn't leave.

All of this just left me disgusted. A lot of people around him are starting to wonder if he is Bi-Polar since his moods can go from manic to depressed in a matter of days, and I heard he told his girl he's one bullet away from death. I didnt confront him about any of this, but I'm just somewhat torn. 

Sorry that was long.
This boy is a filthy punk rapist who (if I got my hands on him) would be bloody and dying and begging me for mercy. I have no respect for %$@% sapiens (I won't give him the honor of addressing him as a person) who do this kind of thing and by all means... cut your ties. 
No offense, but this is a no brainer and this has no business of even being a new thread on this site. 

I feel what you're saying, but I really do think my dude is mentally ill. He was drunk during the ordeal, but he knew what he was doing. He's told me in the past that he used to hit his ex-girlfriend too. He cant seem to control his anger.
 All I could do is shake my head. He just seems to have two personalities. Ive seen him go from suicidal to on top of the word within a matter of days.

He may be bi-polar then. But honestly you have a life too and I wouldn't waste it trying to fix scum like him. You sound like you're conscientious which is good... but you know what to do man. Cut your ties. 
 
Originally Posted by CampbellSoup

Originally Posted by Billy BloodBath

Originally Posted by CampbellSoup

This is a tough one for me.
I got a friend of mine who I've known since we were in 5th grade. Played AAU ball with him for years, and were pretty close throughout high school. I've always been on the look out for him, especially over the course of the past year. We're both in college now, or actually I'm the only one taking classes. We're still pretty close, but he basically leads two separate lives. He has his weed smoking black brothers of his, and then he has me, his brother from another mother white kid.

He went through a bad break up with this girl awhile back. He was pretty depressed for awhile, so I was always taking him out to eat just to help get his mind right. Then I even got him a job with my company and introduced him to this new girl I knew. They hit it off and he was good for awhile.

The I get word from my boss that he hasn't been doing his job at work, and that he's been missing his probation meetings with his PO. He has some minor legal trouble awhile back. Next thing you know, he gets locked up for 45 days for violating his parole.

He got out last week, and I went to see him. He seemed to have his head on straight and was stoked about going job hunting and getting his life back together. 

Literally a week passes and I talk to his girl at work because she seemed upset. I come to find out that they went to a party over the weekend, and he broke up with her. Then he proceeded to have sex with her against her will...

Its gets better... or worse I should say.....He asks her I guess while they are having sex " Do you want to be friends?" She replies "No." The he gets pissed and says "What !$%$*? I thought you wanted to have my babies?" Of course she replies, " You just broke up with me, why would I want to do that?" The he goes, "Well you might have them now."

Dude came in her.

Then when she tried to leave and was crying, he basically pushed her against the wall and then threw her on the couch and told her she couldn't leave.

All of this just left me disgusted. A lot of people around him are starting to wonder if he is Bi-Polar since his moods can go from manic to depressed in a matter of days, and I heard he told his girl he's one bullet away from death. I didnt confront him about any of this, but I'm just somewhat torn. 

Sorry that was long.
This boy is a filthy punk rapist who (if I got my hands on him) would be bloody and dying and begging me for mercy. I have no respect for %$@% sapiens (I won't give him the honor of addressing him as a person) who do this kind of thing and by all means... cut your ties. 
No offense, but this is a no brainer and this has no business of even being a new thread on this site. 

I feel what you're saying, but I really do think my dude is mentally ill. He was drunk during the ordeal, but he knew what he was doing. He's told me in the past that he used to hit his ex-girlfriend too. He cant seem to control his anger.
 All I could do is shake my head. He just seems to have two personalities. Ive seen him go from suicidal to on top of the word within a matter of days.

He may be bi-polar then. But honestly you have a life too and I wouldn't waste it trying to fix scum like him. You sound like you're conscientious which is good... but you know what to do man. Cut your ties. 
 
You lost me when you felt the need to point out his black friends happen to the "bad" as opposed to you the white guy who does no wrong.
 
You lost me when you felt the need to point out his black friends happen to the "bad" as opposed to you the white guy who does no wrong.
 
Originally Posted by Billy BloodBath


He wouldn't be the first rapist I've killed, either. 

story?
nerd.gif
....& yea rapin a chick aint cool at all, i wouldnt be able to be cool wit a dude who raped sumbody 
 
Originally Posted by Billy BloodBath


He wouldn't be the first rapist I've killed, either. 

story?
nerd.gif
....& yea rapin a chick aint cool at all, i wouldnt be able to be cool wit a dude who raped sumbody 
 
Originally Posted by eashawty

Originally Posted by Billy BloodBath


He wouldn't be the first rapist I've killed, either. 
story?
nerd.gif
....& yea rapin a chick aint cool at all, i wouldnt be able to be cool wit a dude who raped sumbody 


I've carried out missions in Iraq and Afghanistan weeding out people who liked to rape the young girls who lived in the village... one of them was his daughter and another was his niece. In another instance there was a guy who got an 11 year old girl pregnant... he had the audacity and braggadocio to let everyone know about it... we found him and he was dead within the week.  
A lot of these people in these countries think they can do whatever they want and get away with it. Not going to happen. 

He even pushed a child at me in hopes of distracting me before I killed him.
eyes.gif
These people are the scum of the earth. 
 
Originally Posted by eashawty

Originally Posted by Billy BloodBath


He wouldn't be the first rapist I've killed, either. 
story?
nerd.gif
....& yea rapin a chick aint cool at all, i wouldnt be able to be cool wit a dude who raped sumbody 


I've carried out missions in Iraq and Afghanistan weeding out people who liked to rape the young girls who lived in the village... one of them was his daughter and another was his niece. In another instance there was a guy who got an 11 year old girl pregnant... he had the audacity and braggadocio to let everyone know about it... we found him and he was dead within the week.  
A lot of these people in these countries think they can do whatever they want and get away with it. Not going to happen. 

He even pushed a child at me in hopes of distracting me before I killed him.
eyes.gif
These people are the scum of the earth. 
 
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