Co-Parenting? Vol: How Y'all dealing??

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To all my NT fambs, I know a lot of us are grown up and have certain situations that we gotta be an adult and handle.

But I have a scenario where I might be Co- parenting with in the next few months.

Positive side is that it isn't a jump off or a one night stand.
I have an ex, we've been on and off for the last 2 years, and were pretty steady the previous 6.


We had gotten to a point where we said we'd just part ways like for good. We hadn't dealt with each other sexually for a hot minute... One day I went to her house to drop off some things and things ended up getting on and poppin.
Couple weeks later, she's prego

Long story short, how are you single dads and moms dealing? What's the best middle ground that you have found that keeps you happy?

and any other advice or tips?:D
 
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Def get a legal court agreement. That's number one. U want ur joint legal custody, physical as well if possible. Other than that y'all gotta communicate like friends. Try to handle everything cordially for your seed. It's tough but ur child will grow up knowing how much their loved and that's why y'all gotta split him/her
 
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this **** wack B, I never imagined my kid not having both parents living under the same roof. No offense intended to any of yall
 
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Get a paternity test.
This, and save as much as possible. So that if it is yours not only will you be financially ready but mentally as well.
If its not yours, take a vacation with said savings :pimp:
 
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I don't think no one imagines it. It happens. What I hate about it is u don't get to see them everyday thats what break my heart
 
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this **** wack B, I never imagined my kid not having both parents living under the same roof. No offense intended to any of yall
Raise the kid right and he'll be fine. You're already taking the right steps by asking for help and advice. I think most kids are accidents really

I don't have any doubts that your kid will flourish :pimp:
 
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Sir San Diego

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Trap? :nerd:

Sounds fishy my dude. Your ex wasn't on bc OP?

Anyway, my advice is just like the previous advice. You need to have everything in writing... from the court. You don't know how she's going to feel about you next month or next year because you don't have a crystal ball that sees the future. If at any point she's feeling funky and doesn't want to deal with you or feels like spicing your life up with spite, WITH the court order, you're good because she faces legal consequences for not following a judge's ruling. Without the court order you'll be dragged into arguments and subject to her mood at the time you want or don't want to see them. And since she's gonna be with the child from birth and those first 6 crucial months, in a worst case scenario they will award her primary custodian rights if you wait around to see how it plays out.

Your best bet is FIRST make sure that's your kid through DNA testing and secondly request "equal shared time" in those words (don't mention numbers or percentages because then it appears like you're trying to manipulate child support).

Good luck. Been there before. You're in for some good times being a father, but some hell being a coparent.
 
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this **** wack B, I never imagined my kid not having both parents living under the same roof. No offense intended to any of yall
None of us did. Come on bruh. :lol:
Lol yo man my fam gonna be furious kid.
I def wasn't looking to deal with a situation where me and the mom gonna be having arguments about a kid.

Def thought about working it out with her. But she is who she is and I def won't be happy in the relationship
 
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