What would some of the mistakes be? Wrong major? Loans taken out?
1. Loans - I got my Bachelors and My Masters. My Bachelors I took loans out and the refund checks I had no business touching. I smartened up during grad school and got an assistantship which paid for my grad school and gave me a stipend. But Im still feeling the effects of the loans from undergrad. If he wants to go to school Im going to make sure he can graduate with zero debt, because getting a decent paying job is already a challenge, but doing that AND being thousands of dollars in debt is basically like starting a race with a weight on your leg and I want him to avoid that at all costs.
2. Partying/Binge Drinking - It is inevitable, I know. But college is some wild **** man. Lotta schools are plopped in the middle of nowhere. So you got all these young kids in these rinky dink towns with access to drugs/liquor and they dont know what they are taking or how to take em. I never had these conversations with my parents and I want him to be aware and at least knowledgable in it before he goes out there. I wasnt and mind you I had hella fun, but lots of bad habits were developed.
3. Finding the right degree - If he wants to go to school I want him to get a degree that he can find a job that he will enjoy doing and also that he can have a decent living on. Out of all my friends I am the only one that has a job in the field I actually went to school for. But I wish I would have put more thought into it because Im not necessarily enjoying my career. So I dont want him getting a degree and not being able to use it, or using it and not being happy. If he wants to go to school I want us to dig deep on his interests and what he wants to do professionally so that way he can have a feeling of fulfillment.
4. Take advantage of community colleges - In my hometown we had a community college where I took courses the summer before my freshman year and got credits. I only took 2 but looking back I should have done more which would have saved money. The courses offered at the community college were wayyyy cheaper I would def encourage him to enroll for multiple classes each summer.
5. Come home after school - My dumb *** graduated and drove straight to a new city, got an apartment, and thought I was grown lol My Dad kept telling me to come home and stay for a few years and I think about that decision daily. Its been 7 years since I graduated and I would say I didnt get to a comfortable spot till about year 5. I would like him to come home for a couple of years (at minimum 2, but he can stay longer) and just stack up. I plan on having the house set up to where he has his own entrance and side of the house so its like he has his own apartment and we dont have to cross paths unless we choose too. Id like him to get the job he wants, stay at home for 2 years, put majority of each check in the bank, then when he gets to a good spot we can send him on his way with a comfortable cushion.
These are just a few things I feel I want to help him with if he decides to take the collegiate route. I cant protect him from everything, but I def can put him in the right direction and give him the guidance that I missed out on.