Do You Care What Your Woman Has On When She Goes Out In Public?

[hazeleyed honey]

Originally Posted by DCAllAmerican

Originally Posted by Hazeleyed Honey

But, other events where you are going out enjoying the nightlife, parties, or other parties, how is showing legs and cleavage not acceptable? I consider it to be acceptable and even expected in most cases like this. I think that showing a modest amount of cleavage will usually not be considered slutty. At these occasions, looking glamourous, showing cleavage, as well as showing off legs, is often part of that look. The key to showing cleavage and staying in fashion without looking slutty is in the way you present and carry yourself. If there is in danger of a possible wardrobe malfunction, you are showing too much cleavage. I might show what is considered a lot of legs and cleavage at some of these occasions but I was nowhere near ever having a wardrobe malfunction and you can wear something like that and still be classy. 

It is acceptable in terms of it is of the culture of night life. Correct. I agree it is even considered expected.

But that isn't my gripe.

YES, you can use the, "It depends on how you carry yourself" card but that isn't my focus. My focus is the root of it all. The appearance, the clothes, the attire. Not HOW someone wears it or how their body language is gauged while wearing it. This topic is simply about the clothing. The physical. But just because it is acceptable doesn't make it any less slutty. Hooters spilling everywhere. I don't care how you CARRY yourself, your hooters are still spilling, bouncing, glistening all over the place. That isn't something I should be forced to be cool with that my woman does for the sake of not appearing to be insecure and controlling.

You never answered my question as to what the "issue" of a man being protective (as you call it insecure/possessive) of his woman wearing those types of clothes.

Honey, if you had/have a man that wasn't a fan of you dressing like that for the reasons I mentioned (perception, bad representation, etc) how would you THINK you would handle it? Would you take his words into consideration or would you just say, "Imma do me." Keep in mind, this is a man you are in a relationship with.

Like I said, I am single. I am not planning on getting into a serious relationship for a while. But, if I do get a man, I am not sure. Maybe at that point I will just be so overdone with showing cleavage and legs when going out at night or to parties and other events. Him and I we would have to talk about it. Some men mind and other men don't. Knowing I will end up marrying an Arab Muslim (he has to be liberal for my liking), deep down those traditional values come out and he'd most likely have a fit with me showing cleavage and lots of legs. I will deal with it when it happens.

I say it is the man being insecure and possessive because he is trying to control what his significant other wears. It relates back to his own insecurity because he thinks that a man getting at her for showing boobs or legs is a threat and that another man might be able to take her away from him. It is being possessive in the sense he thinks he owns her in every way and can control her even when it comes to petty things like what she wears. He does not want other men to even think about her sexually, regardless of the fact that if she was wearing too much clothes or not and the woman is attractive, men will desire her sexually anyways. 
  

 

[akuratl02]

Originally Posted by DCAllAmerican

Originally Posted by eNPHAN

if my girl wants to walk around half naked for attention....then obviously my attention isn't enough.....

if my attention isn't enough for her, ill find someone else.

my girl gets gawked at enough in jeans and hoodie....

ill be damned if she's gonna actually SHOW it with revealing clothing.

but that's just me....yall can play kanye/amber rose if that's cool for you...

Aight I'm done.

co-sign ... I was just talking to my man about this .. I'm over here on Wall Street and chicks are walking around in the spandex that shows *!!* ... not the spandex that are black and non-see through .. I'm talkin about whoa .. and I love it but GOD forbid my lady friend adopts to this trend, she won't be around long.
  

 

[diego]

Yo Enphan, for someone who hates when their girl gets attention from other men, you sure do go out of your way to tell us how big her breasts are.
Rather ironic.

 

[hazeleyed honey]

Originally Posted by eNPHAN

I remember you posting on a comment on my Halloween outfit which I had as a default and you wrote "inappropriate". I thought you were joking, but I guess you meant it.

Looking at that outfit, seriously I am a girl so I do not see the big deal with showing that much boobs and legs for occasions or something like Halloween. Men will gawk and desire a woman even in a burqa.

We have men here like Diego who get sexually aroused by feet. He even claimed once on here that feet > boobs for him. So, I guess women everywhere showing feet to him are victims of his sexual predatory ways. It is just feet. Boobs, feet, legs. In the end, it is just body parts.Yes, some of them are sexually motivated, but humans can get aroused even by not having to see bare skin.  

I am not saying a woman should go out naked or dress like a porn star or stripper. Don't you people twist my words now. But, showing legs and a lot of boobs can be considered appropriate for certain events and in certain settings.  When the man gets home with his woman, he is the one that will be pounding the hell out of that anyways. So if men stare and gawk at her, they can look but not touch. The only way I can think why a man does not want his woman to be stared at sexually is because he sees it as a threat.  

 

[diego]

Originally Posted by Hazeleyed Honey

Originally Posted by eNPHAN

We have men here like Diego who get sexually aroused by feet. He even claimed once on here that feet > boobs for him. 
 

Ya Damn Right!!!!!!!

 

[chicagos finest 23]

Hazel on point

 

[mytmouse76]

 
The dress DC posted is far from slutty...we would def. butt heads on the regular...

Im watching Divorce Court right now and an Indian dude is mad his filipino wife wouldnt dress down when around family cuz i guess its tradition for Indian women to cover up around family...

Nawth I have a ON sweater vest too...i don't remember what i wore underneath it

 

[sundoobie]

I don't mind if she dresses up for the occasion and is classy yet sexy looking. Showing boobs and legs is what makes a female a female. The hell do I want her to look like a Tomboy? I don't mind the form fitting attire she wears because she has natural Latina curves. I don't want her to be that girl that is wearing the one piece swimsuit while all her friends are rocking 2 pieces. She wouldn't be happy about that. I mean my wife listens to me and she knows who the King of the castle is so she will do as I say regardless.

Dudes are going to stare and say rude comments anyways so I really could care less. In one ear out the other and I laugh it off. It only elevates my swag when they do that cause it reaffirms I have a dime who is in love with me. Plus those nights usually end with some good love making!

 

[i drink your milkshake]

ah well, I don't have boobs to show anyway so

 

[hazeleyed honey]

Originally Posted by Diego

I just mentioned you to tease you about your sexual fetish for feet.

 It's all love.

 

[nawth21]

Originally Posted by mytmouse76

 

The dress DC posted is far from slutty...we would def. butt heads on the regular...

Im watching Divorce Court right now and an Indian dude is mad his filipino wife wouldnt dress down when around family cuz i guess its tradition for Indian women to cover up around family...

Nawth I have a ON sweater vest too...i don't remember what i wore underneath it

It's the damndest thing to match, when i tried it on I tried it on by itself and it looked cute but mah boobs..not covered.  I'm thinking bandeau is the way to go, I can't even shop the american apparel site at work

T&A all on display.  I saw nips.

 

[mytmouse76]

Originally Posted by I Drink Your Milkshake

ah well, I don't have boobs to show anyway so

should we take up a special love offering at the next service?

yeah nawth i have that same one
  

 

[sn00pee]

i love it when my gf dresses sexy. i'd never complain.

 

[diego]

Originally Posted by Hazeleyed Honey

Originally Posted by Diego

I just mentioned you to tease you about your sexual fetish for feet.

 It's all love.

If you really want to tease me, there are much more effective ways to do that.

PS: I really dislike the term "foot fetish". People always think of some type of sexual deviance when they hear the word "fetish".
  

 

[airmaxpenny1]

This reminds me of my boy's gf...She is a straight ho, he knows it too but I guess just doesn't really care.  He cheats, she cheat so I guess it works for both of them

 

[atltrapboi091]

Originally Posted by DCAllAmerican

Yea I didn't say they WERE a #!%% but you definitely LOOK like one. I don't want any woman I am romantically linked to to be perceived as such. Am I wrong/insecure/controlling for that? Some would say yes. I disagree though.

It isn't respectable. Put it that way. If she wore it in front of my grandmother, I am sure she would try to find a way to keep her coat on.

Also, if a female has to CONSTANTLY adjust her skirt because it keeps "riding up" she shouldn't have it on.

Originally Posted by Diego

Originally Posted by DCAllAmerican

Yea I didn't say they WERE a #+%$ but you definitely LOOK like one. I don't want any woman I am romantically linked to to be perceived as such. Am I wrong/insecure/controlling for that? Some would say yes. I disagree though.

It isn't respectable. Put it that way. If she wore it in front of my grandmother, I am sure she would try to find a way to keep her coat on.

Also, if a female has to CONSTANTLY adjust her skirt because it keeps "riding up" she shouldn't have it on.

DC, do you care what people think about you?

Just a simple yes or no would suffice.
  

http://niketalk.com/topic/229165

MANE DUDE IT SOUNDS LIKE YOU NOT GETTING ANY #%+ AT ALL YOU STAY COMPLAINING ABOUT SOME $+$#%#% !%$@ LOL OFF  NIKETALK AND GO GET LAID MANE LIKE SERIOUSLY I8TS UNHEALTHY FOR A MANE TO GO WITHOUT GETTING ANY BUNS AS LONG AS YOU HAVE LMAOOOO

 

  

 

[DCAllAfrican]

Maybe we should use club pictures as to what and what not to wear. FOrever 21 is hard to understand because of the skinny models

 

[38816]

I like how yall think yalls "questions" are gonna make me have some ephiphany

deigo, yall aint never gonna meet my chick, what do I care that you KNOW she's busty? are we not talking about how our chicks dress? wouldn't her body type be important to such convo?

gawking at my broad infront of me is completely different from me discussing her body....

I just don't understand the hypocracy with "treat me like a lady, even if Iike to dress the opposite of such..."

imo, there is NO occasion to be dressed like you're in a swimsuit...unless you're swimming.

club? no.

halloween? no.

birthday? no.

bar mitzvah? no.

bachlorette party? no.

baby shower? no.

anniversary? no.

yall like to flaunt what you have 'at certain times' but then want guys to appreciate more than your body....

all guys are dogs that wanna squeeze your ****, where are the respectable guys at......but at the same time, a dude who genuinely cares about you and how you're percieved, he's controlling and insecure...

yawn.

I'm not advocating wrapping women in king sized bed sheets, but damn, if you look like you're naked with body paint on, what's so special about me seeing it when we go home?

"oh I'm the only one smashing tho"

yall in here talking like you'd be comfortable with your girl doing softcore porn

"if you got it, flaunt it"

lol, ninjahood even said "that's how she expresses herself..."

so she's expressing herself as a half naked attention $!!+*?

oh, alright, that's cool...

-roll eyes emoticon-

besides, I've seen more than a few dudes posting in here that advocate side pieces in their relationships...of course YOU don't care how your broad dresses, cause honestly, you don't care about her.

I'm admittedly possessive, but that's because I give my all....2.5 years long distance..never cheated...I barely even speak to broads...especially outside of asituation that's unavoidable...

if my dudes holler at a group of chicks, I play the background, if a girl is flirting or trynna holler, they get played, hardcore...

and I expect the same.

which includes dressing seductively.

if dudes are gawking and hollering anyway, why are you giving even more incentive?

if you single, ma, do your thing, I really don't care...

but if you my girl, you need to conduct yourself as such.

 

[diego]

---

I'm admittedly possessive, 


....Say no more.

 

[38816]

kinda off topic, but still on topic

how annoying is it to walk into a resturaunt with your girl, and +!%!%% at tables with their girl/date are hard gawking?

like, yo, dude, look at your wack !%+ date, stop staring at my girl...

maybe I'm just more respectful than the average dude...

even if I glance at your broad, once I see the dude, I stop looking, out of respect for him...

dudes be eye****ing my girl while I'm staring them straight in the face like "lame..."

the funniest was, my dude lil mike, his girl got hollered at infront of him

like, dude asked mike, mid-game spit, like "yo, this aint your girl is it?"

lol

much thirst.

 

[38816]

rofl @ say no more.

I been with my girl for 4.5 years, 2.5 of which has been long distance...

sue me.

ftr, I don't even consider it possessive....I consider it to be natural in relation to a committed relationship.

I never demand or ask anything of my girl I, myself, am not prepared to do

and I never ask or demand anything illogically.

-shrugs- if wanting your chick to cut off the lames that wanna holler, dress like she belongs to someone else, and think about me in her decisions and actions is possessive, whatevs.

I'm hers, she's mine. ill be dat.

 

[maxelite]

 

[atltrapboi091]

eNPHAN wrote:

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I like how yall think yalls "questions" are gonna make me have some ephiphany

deigo, yall aint never gonna meet my chick, what do I care that you KNOW she's busty? are we not talking about how our chicks dress? wouldn't her body type be important to such convo?

gawking at my broad infront of me is completely different from me discussing her body....

I just don't understand the hypocracy with "treat me like a lady, even if Iike to dress the opposite of such..."

imo, there is NO occasion to be dressed like you're in a swimsuit...unless you're swimming.

club? no.

halloween? no.

birthday? no.

bar mitzvah? no.

bachlorette party? no.

baby shower? no.

anniversary? no.

yall like to flaunt what you have 'at certain times' but then want guys to appreciate more than your body....

all guys are dogs that wanna squeeze your ****, where are the respectable guys at......but at the same time, a dude who genuinely cares about you and how you're percieved, he's controlling and insecure...

yawn.

I'm not advocating wrapping women in king sized bed sheets, but damn, if you look like you're naked with body paint on, what's so special about me seeing it when we go home?

"oh I'm the only one smashing tho"

yall in here talking like you'd be comfortable with your girl doing softcore porn

"if you got it, flaunt it"

lol, ninjahood even said "that's how she expresses herself..."

so she's expressing herself as a half naked attention $!!+*?

oh, alright, that's cool...

-roll eyes emoticon-

besides, I've seen more than a few dudes posting in here that advocate side pieces in their relationships...of course YOU don't care how your broad dresses, cause honestly, you don't care about her.

I'm admittedly possessive, but that's because I give my all....2.5 years long distance..never cheated...I barely even speak to broads...especially outside of asituation that's unavoidable...

if my dudes holler at a group of chicks, I play the background, if a girl is flirting or trynna holler, they get played, hardcore...

and I expect the same.

which includes dressing seductively.

if dudes are gawking and hollering anyway, why are you giving even more incentive?

if you single, ma, do your thing, I really don't care...

but if you my girl, you need to conduct yourself as such.

INSECURITY IS A B!TCH AINT IT 

ALOT OF TIME THESE INSECURITIES YOU HAVE IS ALL IN YOUR HEAD MAYBE U NEED TO LOOK IN THE MIRROR AND REALIZE THE PROBLEM IS YOU NOT HER LMAOOOOO


NEWAYZ I COULD CARE LESS HOW MY GIRL DRESS LOL YOU TALKING ABOUT GIRLFRIEND NOT YOUR WIFE LMAOOOO UNLESS ITS BEEN A LONG TERM RELATIONSHIP OR SOMETHING HOW SHE DRESS SHOULD BE NO CONCERN LOL AT THESE GAY %!@ DUDES


I GOT ME A BAD *%% B!TCH I WANT DUDES TO LOOK
  

 

[kingfoamnyc]

My girl has some big *** **** and a small frame so anything with buttons become somewhat revealing. Doesn't really bother me at all cause its not like she purposely goes out showing off the puppies

 

[diego]

Im sayin though, you act like its one of two things. Either I let my girl look like a @+$% or Im possessive.
Theres a lot of space in between to find a balance of letting your girl wear what she wants to wear because thats how she feels good, all the while lookin respectful of her man.

You and DC seem to be on one of two extremes.