Everyone tells me not to get married

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The people generally speaking to me about this subject are generally around 24-32. The cite that things do change including possibly the person you're withafter their married which I take as a given. The hassle will having to ask to spend money and many other things. For the people who are married here how do youlike it(honestly) so far? I suppose too it has to do with what one would expect after getting married, you expect it to be one way but then its another.
 
I like it, but my advice is not to rush it and live with the person first. I saw no changes in me, her or us after. The big change was living together,marriage just means it is harder to break up and sometimes more costly
 
And maintain seperate things, you are still an individual. We have seperate accounts (and one joint) and I still do plenty without her, and vice-versa. Balanceis key
 
Originally Posted by dmxfury

I like it, but my advice is not to rush it and live with the person first. I saw no changes in me, her or us after. The big change was living together, marriage just means it is harder to break up and sometimes more costly


Read the second half of this post and there are your reasons NOT to get married.
 
The one way to know if you can live with someone is to travel with them. Their habits are more extreme on the road and in hotel rooms. So if you can standliving with them that's the first step, after that it gets more complicated.
 
Originally Posted by dmxfury

And maintain seperate things, you are still an individual. We have seperate accounts (and one joint) and I still do plent without her, and vice-versa. Balance is key

No doubt, makes a lot of sense. Still gotta have some "me" time.
 
if i could've waited til i was 25 it woulda been gravy. but on the real both u and the wife are gonna have to keep the flame goin, cuz the excitement goesdown quick.

its iight i guess
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I say make sure she has her own stuff, cuz you will get mad when she keeps taking yours. Seprate but equal does work but you have 2 be in charge or you will bea sad man.
 
I've been married 5 years, but we had 2 kids and already lived together for about 5 years before we got married. So, it really wasn't any change forme. Like others said, it's gonna be more costly to break up (legal fee's etc), but I wouldn't have gotten married if I was already worried aboutgetting a divorce. Best advice I could could give is, give each other some sort of space and freedom.
 
48% of marriages end in divorce and 25% of those that stay together are unhappy. Don't go in thinking of divorce but don't be niave either. Againpre-nups benefit everyone
 
We know lol.


48% of marriages end in divorce and 25% of those that stay together are unhappy. Don't go in thinking of divorce but don't be niave either. Again pre-nups benefit everyone


Makes sense, though it seems like no one wants to work on it anymore. The first sign or real problems they throw in the towel..maybe im ignorant.
 
Take the quiz...

Do you like sex?
Do you like their family?
Do you like sex?
Do you like your money?
Do you like sex?
Do you like being in control of your life?

Point I'm making is this...I'm married and I'm content...can I be happier? Yea.... but we get the rest of our lives to build on...and when kids areinvolved its cheaper to keep her...

In a divorce you lose 3 things...

Her
You kids &
Your paycheck...

So think about it....CAREFULLY!
 
Originally Posted by Mangudai954

We know lol.


48% of marriages end in divorce and 25% of those that stay together are unhappy. Don't go in thinking of divorce but don't be niave either. Again pre-nups benefit everyone


Makes sense, though it seems like no one wants to work on it anymore. The first sign or real problems they throw in the towel..maybe im ignorant.

Nah, most people are unhappy for a good minute before they give up..At least from what Ive noticed.
 
Well all I gotta say, no marriage can survive on just love alone. There has to be much more than that to make it work.
 
Originally Posted by yungmatt

Originally Posted by Mangudai954

We know lol.


48% of marriages end in divorce and 25% of those that stay together are unhappy. Don't go in thinking of divorce but don't be niave either. Again pre-nups benefit everyone


Makes sense, though it seems like no one wants to work on it anymore. The first sign or real problems they throw in the towel..maybe im ignorant.

Nah, most people are unhappy for a good minute before they give up..At least from what Ive noticed.


but do they really do anything to try and make it work...or just half-!%@ the effort?
my guess it's the latter.
 
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