I'M NOT A REPUBLICAN BUT I WOULD HIT THAT WITH MCCAIN Somewhere in between college and the election, I started allowing politics to dictate the kind of men I date. And the worst part is, it's not just Obamasupporters who turn me off-it's often my father's. The election killed my personal life. OK, maybe killed is a bit of an exaggeration. But it does seem to be on life support. Of all the things people warned would happen post-election, no oneever said anything about how complicated dating would become. Especially if your dad loses the election. There are things that have been difficult, but nothingquite as tough as dating. I fear the election has destroyed my ability and desire to date. Now, I cannot say at any point in my life that I have been very goodat dating. But I have become something I used to despise: people who let politics dictate his or her attraction to someone. One extreme fan of my mother's recently told me I could be "his Cindy." And then asked meif I ever wore pearls because they probably would look as good on me as they do on my mother. I am a person that has always prided myself on keeping politics out of my relationships. I think I would have probably graduated from Columbia friendlesshad I made politics a focal point in any of my friendships during college. I have many friends who openly voted for Barack Obama (many of them alsodidn't). Who my friends voted for is of no concern to me. I am adult enough to understand that people vote for their own personal reasons, and I know howpersonal politics can be to someone. This is how I expected my attitude to remain after the election. And it has continued that way with my friends. But when it comes to dating, it's becomean entirely different subject. And I promise, no one is more surprised by this revelation than I am. If I am adult enough to understand that voting is one ofthe most personal things a person can do, why am I letting it affect how attracted to someone I am? I know that no one can really explain sexual attraction andwhy you are drawn to someone or not-but at this point in time, nothing kills my libido quite like discussing politics. Here's the biggest surprise: I am not only turned off by people who voted for Barack Obama, but I am also turned off by people that voted for my dad-ormore so, obsessive supporters of my dad. Recently, over dinner, a guy started explaining his reasons for supporting President Obama during the election (Ididn't ask, I think the poor guy felt guilty) and I immediately found any attraction I had previously had dissipate. But same thing happens if a guy startstalking about all the reasons why my father should be president. I have the ultimate Catch-22 in post-election dating. So where does that leave me, and whoexactly am I attracted to? Let's just say I'm spending a lot of time writing and even more time with my girlfriends.