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What’s the worst that can happen? Is he wealthy? She’ll take half of everything if everything falls apart within 5 years? Many people have to learn their life lessons the hard way.
My Brother Is Getting Married Today and I Don't Know How to Feel
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Bang the wife/fiance?
Was in a similar situation.
GF was applying marriage pressure heavy.
My brother said the following (after laughing hysterically for 5 minutes straight when I told him).
"I'm with you either way because you're my little brother and I cant tell you what to do...but marry her if you want to, and you'll never be able to say I didn't warn you because she aint it lil Bro."
This is the same big brother that terrorized my childhood / adolescence and had an open rivalry with me my whole life (middle child syndrome).
Could have set me up for a huge L but protected me as a Brother should.
I respect / love him to this day for that.
If its on your heart to tell him, tell him...
Then let it go.
GF was applying marriage pressure heavy.
My brother said the following (after laughing hysterically for 5 minutes straight when I told him).
"I'm with you either way because you're my little brother and I cant tell you what to do...but marry her if you want to, and you'll never be able to say I didn't warn you because she aint it lil Bro."
This is the same big brother that terrorized my childhood / adolescence and had an open rivalry with me my whole life (middle child syndrome).
Could have set me up for a huge L but protected me as a Brother should.
I respect / love him to this day for that.
If its on your heart to tell him, tell him...
Then let it go.
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We still getting married?
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You have a good bigger brother. Don’t sweat the bickering you get from him, that’s just big bro stuff. I know it firsthand.
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This SCReeeeams “Oops! I’m pregnant, Let’s get married before my parents disown me!”
Edit: My uncle got married in a rush as well and for the reason I just mentioned. Like you’re brother, OP, he also converted religion before marrying her. We weren’t allowed to enter their church to see the ceremony because we weren’t Mormon.
As a Muslim myself, I’ve seen this same situation play out too many times. That’s exactly where my mind went too.
It’s your brother OP, if you don’t raise a flag about it who will? At least say your piece, let him choose what to do with it after
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30+ responses and no one asked for pics of the wife?
SMFDH NT
SMFDH NT
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what if he's into men?
bruh i was gunna say sumtin but i was waiting for u to cum and ask <3 never fail baby!
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Make a sacrifice. Do it for your brother.
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Let's see some pictures.
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Woat thread. OP hasn’t provided an update. No pics. If he’s converted to Muslimism(sp?) for this girl he’s not turning back for a wedding…that’s much less serious
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No disrespect, but your brother already sounds like a sucker. I doubt sharing your concerns is going to accomplish anything.
Love should be unconditional, and this relationship is filled with nothing but conditions.
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Marraige should never be/feel like an escape plan (even if they were gonna eventually).
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I see two sides of it... you should be supportive of your brother and let him worry about that stuff... If he wants to get married to her then let him... but at the same time I see why you would be concerned and should say something... its kinda one those things damn if you damn if you don't... either direction you go whether its telling your bro your true feelings or staying out of it is fine either way imo...
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Arguments are inevitable but bigger bro will always look out for his fam. That’s for sureBullying from within the family only. Not outside.
Namaste
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We finna just let this slide and get no updates?
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Cant believe y’all funding that mess
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Letting shorty call the shots and dictate things is a recipe for disaster
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About 3-3.5 years with a break of a month or two in the middle. Only was engaged 3 months.
Younger, 25
He’s pretty well off…at least as much as you can be at 25. You’re right about the last bit, but I wish him the best.
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My bad on the late update- life got crazy on my end so just now getting on NT. The brief ceremony was super casual (turns out it wasn’t even at a mosque) and part of her fam showed up late which wasn’t a great look. Her stepfather didn’t show up at all which was weird to me, but again I don’t understand their relationship at all.
My mom was obviously supportive, but made me promise never to do anything like this if I get married.
My dad seemed like something was bugging him at the dinner afterwards, but downplayed it blaming my mom for being annoying- I don’t actually think that’s what it was though. On my end never even got a chance to say my bit to my brother because she was at my parents’ house before I even arrived. Since I didn’t/don’t have anything as a direct reason why they shouldn’t be together I didn’t say anything. As I mentioned in here though, quite a few things concern me so next time I’m one-on-one with him in person I’ll express those concerns and tell him to give a shout if anything comes up in regards to them. Like many of you said, trying to be supportive but ready if anything happens.
My mom was obviously supportive, but made me promise never to do anything like this if I get married.
My dad seemed like something was bugging him at the dinner afterwards, but downplayed it blaming my mom for being annoying- I don’t actually think that’s what it was though. On my end never even got a chance to say my bit to my brother because she was at my parents’ house before I even arrived. Since I didn’t/don’t have anything as a direct reason why they shouldn’t be together I didn’t say anything. As I mentioned in here though, quite a few things concern me so next time I’m one-on-one with him in person I’ll express those concerns and tell him to give a shout if anything comes up in regards to them. Like many of you said, trying to be supportive but ready if anything happens.
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You’re mom sounds like a trooper. She adores you & your bros happiness.
I bet you’re bros gona deal with drama and ol girls dad issues.
I bet you’re bros gona deal with drama and ol girls dad issues.
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THIS, actually when it falls a part first tell him I WARNED YOUR ***, then help him
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3+ years together is fine then. The rush of the marriage due to circumstances is just an L they’ll have to take. This really just sounds like she don’t want to be around her step dad, but your brother and her have known each long enough where they should have an understanding as to why.
I was under the impression they just met and within months got engaged and are now rushing the wedding.
