About two weeks ago my girl of 5 years pops up with some shady story talkin about "youneed to change, you really need to change your ways". Mind you me and this girl have been thru a WHOLE lot, we have a 2 year old son, met her when i was16, she was 14 at the time.. on valentines day i tried givin her a call because we were supposed to go out to eat that day (mind you this was after the whole "you gotta change yourways" thingy...well she wasnt pickin up her phone at all, i figured she was probably at work, tried givin them a call and she wasnt scheduled to work thatday. I must have called her cell like 3-4 times during the day, than i tried one last time at night...and she picked up. The convo took no more than 5 minutes,because supposedly she was really tired...in those 5 minutes she told me...she was with her girl the WHOLE day and couldnt pick up her phone because it was onsilent...LMAO yea ok. The next day i offered to take her to work and she flatly refused..saying her mom was gonna pick her up (mind you her mom NEVER picks herup from her job). So me being the private eye that I am, i go to her job and park maybe about a block away, just enough to see the exit, and the parking lot.She was supposed to get out at 10, so i posted up at about 950. At around 1010 she gets out, and what do ya know...she gets in the car of an unkown male. Ifollow them home, i didnt see any kissing or any hugs when she got out the car..so i figured maybe it was just a friend. Very next day i try calling her, shepicks up, and she says "its over"...just like that, 5 years gone out the window. She tells me shes givin me two weeks to change or else shes leavingme for good. Her reasoning - "you go out with your friends too much". So i give her sister a call to see whats really up, and she spills the beans,tells me everything i needed to know. Turns out my ex had met this guy at her friends house, and i guess from there they set it off... The first few days felt like crap, she was my first true love, i wasnt eating at all, wasnt able to watch t.v, i just wasnt myself, my mind was on her and whatthis guy were doin. But I guess thats what happens in a breakup. As much as I got the urge to call her i would try to hold it in, It's really hard thobecause NT i was truly in love with this broad, and she had NEVER pulled somethin like this, shes always been a good girl i guess you could say... so fast forward to yesterday, i get a call from this chick...and she basically broke down.. "im sorry for what i did, i miss you so much, i love you, i miss your company"..all that good stuff... but it turns out this girl's still talkin to this guy! she tells me that "she loves me" but that shes falling for this guy, that she likes him alot... im shocked, in those two weeks that we didnt talk i was startin to adjust to life without her, everything was goin by so smooth and than this happens, now imback at stage one, can't stop thinkin about her...i woke up twice at night because i couldnt sleep knowing how she wants me back but still has this guy onthe side... *NOTES ON THE GUY SHES TALKIN/MESSIN WITH...* 21 WITH A KID ALREADY MEXICAN ABOUT 5'6, FAT AND HES SHORTER THAN HER!!! JUST FOUND OUT YESTERDAY THAT HE HAS A GUN CHARGE PENDING, DONT KNOW MUCH DETAILS ABOUT IT... so nt what do i do? should i keep trying with her? I mean i cant really completely forget about her we have a son together... one of the main reasons i wanna make this is work is for my son, i grew up without a dad and it seriously is the worst feeling in the world. the other side of me says...man just let this broad go, theres plenty of fish in the see and what she did to you was shady as hell... should i just go beat the crap outta of this dude? I mean i doubt he'll be able to do much if he has a gun charge on him right? uhhh idk, NT i come to you for advice, you guys are usually good with these kind of situations... so please help ya boy out. CLIFFNOTES - my girl of 5 years brakes up with me a day before valentines day, claims "i need to change" - we have a two year old son together - two days after valentines day i find out shes talkin to some other guy. - two weeks go by, and yesterday she gives me a call - says she misses me, she loves me, and she wants to try and work things out - but shes talkin to the dude she left me for - now im in this situation, should i just completly forget about her, or try to make things work out because i still really do love her, plus we have a babytogether.. NT help me out, i seriously dont know what to do and i cant take my mind off of this crap...advice or maybe a personal story would help..THANKS.