Official mental health and group therapy thread. Get it off your chest

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What’s up with your old lady? Hopefully the support is A1.
Having natural support >
She's honestly the reason why I started going to therapy
last year when I had my biggest panic attack she was the one who asked why don't I go to therapy

We both have anxiety so it's easy for us to understand what's going on with each other, she's definitely a MAJOR positive in this process.
 
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She's honestly the reason why I started going to therapy
last year when I had my biggest panic attack she was the one who asked why don't I go to therapy

We both have anxiety so it's easy for us to understand what's going on with each other, she's definitely a MAJOR positive in this process.
That’s Waddup. My old lady on FMLA daily cuz of anxiety. They tried giving her meds like Wellbutrin..etc..
threw that **** in rubbish. Got her on greenery and we BURN and discuss **** like folks suppose to. **** goes DEEP! I find myself feeling emotionally drained.. It’s tough but I’m honestly ALL ears cuz I love the mother of my kids. Told her one day, “I’m not here talking directly to you, I’m side by side listening with you”
Haven’t been to therapy yet but it’s always an option cuz I’m curious on another opinion.
 
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Shouts to all of y'all seeing therapist and investing in wellness to gain self-awareness and care. Hoping y'all achieve breakthroughs.

About five years ago I enrolled into a Grad program with hopes of becoming a Marriage Family Therapist. Although I only got a third of the way through, before realizing it wasn't a career path I wanted to pursue, that year or so in therapy school really helped shape me to gain self-awareness in areas of my life that I had developed blind spots toward. Therefore I champion therapy and anything that pushes mental wellness.

I learned that therapists have to see other therapists to remain licensed in the state of California, as well as a majority of jurisdictions in the US. Trauma is often so severe that it can cross-transfer to therapists (vicarious trauma), that's how crazy some of the stuff we bury deep inside is. Our brains have a natural tendency to just deal with things without actually addressing everything, which can have negative lasting impacts. As a minority, I know there's a ton of stigmas with seeking therapy or even medical-assisted treatment, but mental wellness is hugely neglected and it's just not possible for us to address all of our own issues due to self-biases, blind spots, etc. It's also close to impossible for loved ones to help us achieve levels of breakthroughs that only trained, licensed, and non-biased professionals can.

Again, big ups to all of y'all in treatment.
 
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Was supposed to be taking my medication but have been using CBD for my anxiety instead and have been feeling good these last two weeks. Would be feeling good now but had a convo with my therapist and if I'm not taking the meds she can't help me and insurance is saying that I need a psychiatrist to fill out my docs in order to be out on my leave. So now I have to decide if I want to take the risk of these side effects for my health and well being.

Main side effects I don't like are weight gain and lowered libido or problems functioning sexually. I've already gained 100lbs since moving to TX and I'm at a decent 275lbs now and don't want to get any bigger. And the libido and functionality issues are self explanatory.

But I'm sitting now waiting for my prescription to be filled hoping whatever comes at me I can handle it.
 
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Was supposed to be taking my medication but have been using CBD for my anxiety instead and have been feeling good these last two weeks. Would be feeling good now but had a convo with my therapist and if I'm not taking the meds she can't help me and insurance is saying that I need a psychiatrist to fill out my docs in order to be out on my leave. So now I have to decide if I want to take the risk of these side effects for my health and well being.

Main side effects I don't like are weight gain and lowered libido or problems functioning sexually. I've already gained 100lbs since moving to TX and I'm at a decent 275lbs now and don't want to get any bigger. And the libido and functionality issues are self explanatory.

But I'm sitting now waiting for my prescription to be filled hoping whatever comes at me I can handle it.
Your therapist is trying to force you to take the meds she prescribed? Even if you're doing well with the CBD? Sounds irresponsible of her TBH. You would think a doctor would be happy that you found a natural remedy that doesn't have the type of risks associated with an SSRI. Can't you just tell her you still need the therapy but you're all set on the meds for now?
 
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Can you see someone else? Psychiatrists use medication to treat, while a psychologist or therapist use cognitive therapy. I would say anyone dealing with depression or anxiety try the cognitive route first. It has a good success rate.
If the meds are cheap you can just not take them. Slang them pills lol.
 
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Your therapist is trying to force you to take the meds she prescribed? Even if you're doing well with the CBD? Sounds irresponsible of her TBH. You would think a doctor would be happy that you found a natural remedy that doesn't have the type of risks associated with an SSRI. Can't you just tell her you still need the therapy but you're all set on the meds for now?
Not really forcing me but because I'm on leave with my job I have specific guidelines to follow regarding what licensed professionals I can be treated by. I told her that I still need help identifying my anxiety triggers and warning signs but she told me that her duties were basically tied to my reaction to the medication.


Can you see someone else? Psychiatrists use medication to treat, while a psychologist or therapist use cognitive therapy. I would say anyone dealing with depression or anxiety try the cognitive route first. It has a good success rate.
If the meds are cheap you can just not take them. Slang them pills lol.
Unfortunately the therapy route wouldn't fit under my leave requirement of being seen by a licensed psychiatrist. I'm thinking about not taking the pills and going back to her as if I was just to be able to get through this paperwork and stuff
 
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Spoke with the therapist and I'll be seeing both of them next Tues
15 mins with the therapist then the remaining 30min with the therapist
 
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Though there should be no shame in taking them if you need it,

I feel like the mental health field has an industrial medication problem

these pharmaceutical companies be wining and dining these psychiatrist getting them to slang these pills
 
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Quick update, been taking my meds for a while and have met with the therapist and I like her, she's very understanding and is reading me pretty well. Def feel like she understands what I'm going through and she did address my concerns with the meds side effects. Basically just told me to try it out for 30 days and find ways counteract the side effects. Working out if I'm concerned about weight gain, trying something new if there's any issues sexually, keeping water and/or gum for the dry mouth and so on.

Next appointment is next week
 

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Got diagnosed with ADHD by both my psychiatrist and therapist... Kinda wild. My family was always extremely inattentive about seeing health professionals for pretty much anything. Dental checkups, physician checkups, etc. so it was never really something I considered. My pops is a master at gaslighting as well so I always saw it as a me problem from a character perspective and never a mental/biological one. The reason why it surprised me so much is that even with the near complete alignment of my life experience with ADHD symptoms it was something I never remotely considered.

Been on Vyvanse the past two weeks and although it helps a little bit it's definitely not a cure-all. Regardless though, im extremely happy about the double-diagnosis. Been doing hella research to figure out strategies to cope with it better and the nuance I need to have to complete everyday tasks. It truly does feel as if my life has been progressively better every day as I work to build these new habits.
 
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My pops is a master at gaslighting as well so I always saw it as a me problem from a character perspective and never a mental/biological one.
I can relate to this. I made the mistake of viewing my mom as a voice of authority and a model as to how I should go about life/relationships growing up. It wasn't until I moved out that I realized in a lot of instances she was immature, manipulative, petty, a poor communicator, and had really poor control over her emotions. Growing up around that and being fed the bull**** of "she's your mother and you need to respect her" from other adults made me feel like I was the one with the issues and planted the seeds to develop low self esteem, anxiety, and depression.
 

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I can relate to this. I made the mistake of viewing my mom as a voice of authority and a model as to how I should go about life/relationships growing up. It wasn't until I moved out that I realized in a lot of instances she was immature, manipulative, petty, a poor communicator, and had really poor control over her emotions. Growing up around that and being fed the bull**** of "she's your mother and you need to respect her" from other adults made me feel like I was the one with the issues and planted the seeds to develop low self esteem, anxiety, and depression.
My dad had a lot of those traits as well. The hardest part for me was acknowledging and understanding all of these things because my dad still fulfilled his role as a parent the best way he knew how even with my mother almost entirely out of the picture and actively attempting to sabotage him with the small presence she did have. I accept my dad for what he is because even with my awareness of his negatives he also had plenty of positives as well.

It was reaching that understanding that there are certain subject areas I just need to outright avoid in conversations with him that allows me to maintain a healthy relationship with him. I'd be lying if I said I didnt have lingering resentment for all of the issues he just outright ignored... This ADHD made my life a million times harder than it needed to be and although im still doing very well its hard not to think about what could have been... All those years I spent believing I just wasn't good enough or I didn't have the will to live up to my potential--the war between my ideal self and my real self was crazy. Thankfully, im at a point where I feel like im getting closer to unifying the two every day now.
 
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