Ok, serious discussion....anyone here been with a girl who was sexually abused as a child?

[matt53]

First off, lets be mature.

Straight to the cliffs:

• Met a girl 3 weeks ago, been seeing her on the regular
• Noticed she was a little strange when it came to holding hands, etc
• Mutual friend let me know last night she was raped when she was 5
• She doesn't know that I know about it

Is there anything I should know about handling a situation like this or be doing different?

 

[kicktionair]

Smash with the light on

 

[kix4kix]

RUNNNN!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

 

[young halo]

pics?

 

[Kobekobe]

why act different? her life was pretty much ruined.. just treat her as if nothing happened... she's normal

poor girl.

 

[mytmouse76]

if you're not down for the long ride i say don't do it...

if you do stick it out wait for her to tell you when she's comfortable...

 

[suckafree85]

No, but those chicks got problems.. Stay away.

 

[matt53]

Originally Posted by mytmouse76

if you're not down for the long ride i say don't do it...

if you do stick it out wait for her to tell you when she's comfortable...

i like how you think.

 

[jedimaster23]

Yeah dont mess with her.

Make the wrong move and your *%# will be behind bars for something you didnt mean to happen.


They are emotional WRECKS.

You have to be a strong individual to love a scared person after sexual abuse.

so if you cant handle it DO NOT make it worse.

 

[agentarenas]

If youre looking to smash, look elsewhere. If you really care about her and are willing to both wait and help her through the process, go for it. But dont jump into anything with her if you arent really willing to invest in her. Chances are shes extremely fragile. In general youre going to have to be more patient with her.

 

[frische produkte]

Originally Posted by al3x89

why act different? her life was pretty much ruined.. just treat her as if nothing happened... she's normal

poor girl.

[color= rgb(255, 0, 0)]You don't believe that do you? Most if not all of those rape victims are messed up some how psychologically, then again.. what defines normal?

As for me, I'd keep it movin..
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[bigmike23]

let her tell you

   2 of my GF where raped, once they get comfortable with you they will let you know

 

[matt53]

Originally Posted by AgentArenas

If youre looking to smash, look elsewhere. If you really care about her and are willing to both wait and help her through the process, go for it. But dont jump into anything with her if you arent really willing to invest in her. Chances are shes extremely fragile. In general youre going to have to be more patient with her.

i'm mormon man, smashin ain't on my mind

but i definitely am into her alot so thats why i was asking

 

[thunderchunk69]

on some real, she might leave you drop of the dime

women like that can get coldhearted over dumb dumb stuff and its a wrap

prepare to get hurt!

 

[Smorgasbordgie]

Originally Posted by AgentArenas

If youre looking to smash, look elsewhere. If you really care about her and are willing to both wait and help her through the process, go for it. But dont jump into anything with her if you arent really willing to invest in her. Chances are shes extremely fragile. In general youre going to have to be more patient with her.

 

[josebronx]

YNS that

 

[thunderchunk69]

Originally Posted by Bigmike23

2 of my GF where raped, once they get comfortable with you they will let you know

you meet women at the pound?

 

[o fenomeno]

Originally Posted by al3x89

why act different? her life was pretty much ruined.. just treat her as if nothing happened... she's normal

poor girl.

you contradicted yourself several times there...her life was ruined...shes normal...poor girl? 
she's definitely not normal, which is very unfortunate. like others said, dont just smash and dash. proceed with caution. keep in  mind that you could have the opportunity to change her life and the way she feels about physical/sexual contact if you are gentle and real with her. i think.  

 

[agentarenas]

Originally Posted by Matt53

Originally Posted by AgentArenas

If youre looking to smash, look elsewhere. If you really care about her and are willing to both wait and help her through the process, go for it. But dont jump into anything with her if you arent really willing to invest in her. Chances are shes extremely fragile. In general youre going to have to be more patient with her.

i'm mormon man, smashin ain't on my mind

but i definitely am into her alot so thats why i was asking

Only threw that in there since its NT... everyone seems to believe in smash n dash. But yeah in that case your main concern will probably be with keeping your patience.... I don't know about you but I usually give up on people pretty quickly if theyre stubborn. You cant do that with someone like her- chances are shes both extremely stubborn and fragile. Probably very isolated emotionally as well. All of that takes time, youre going to have to be able to reach out constantly without losing your patience.

 

[carver]

I say if you like her then keep things going..

 

[trapmuzik617]

I'd keep it movin

 

[ptrakarn23]

joke about how shes so hot u would rape her

 

[matt53]

Originally Posted by AgentArenas

Originally Posted by Matt53

Originally Posted by AgentArenas

If youre looking to smash, look elsewhere. If you really care about her and are willing to both wait and help her through the process, go for it. But dont jump into anything with her if you arent really willing to invest in her. Chances are shes extremely fragile. In general youre going to have to be more patient with her.

i'm mormon man, smashin ain't on my mind

but i definitely am into her alot so thats why i was asking

Only threw that in there since its NT... everyone seems to believe in smash n dash. But yeah in that case your main concern will probably be with keeping your patience.... I don't know about you but I usually give up on people pretty quickly if theyre stubborn. You cant do that with someone like her- chances are shes both extremely stubborn and fragile. Probably very isolated emotionally as well. All of that takes time, youre going to have to be able to reach out constantly without losing your patience.

kudos to you sir

 

[luxurious24]

i have, and for me i just opened up to her and made her feel beautiful and loved, most of them have issues with that sort of stuff, atleast with her she jus wanted to feel love, i say jus open yaself up to her, let her kno sumthin about u that u have a difficult time dealin with

 

[superblytrife]

Prepare for a lot of ups and downs and a TON of self-worth issues. Not everyone can be grouped into this category but generally this is what you'll encounter.

If this is something you're in for the long haul, you'll most likely be putting in a lot of work in areas that you normally wouldn't have to with a girl that wasn't sexually abused.