Taking the Initiative Vol. This Girl Confuses Me

[cdeejay]

I've been crushing on this girl for about two and a half years now, i recently got to actually meet and and get to know her. She is a pretty amazing girl, she looks good and has an amazing personality. She has an interest in me, and she knows that ive been crushin on her, She told her freinds that she is interested in me(im close with her friends). Problem is that she got out of a break up 3 months ago, so she isnt over it. But yet, she is interested in doesnt want me to become the "rebound guy". She apparently wants me to lay low, and just give her time. But she came over on monday(with a couple friends) we all watched a movie, i was just there watching the movie beside her. I wasn't really trying to make a move because i felt it wouldve been too forward and like i said before, she wants me to just chill for now. But, my friends told me she was saying i went too slow. Like, i dont get this girl NT. She has an interest, she wants me to lay low for now, yet she says im going to slow. What should i do NT?

Forgot to mention, but she likes a guy that takes the initiative.

 

[jonathango]

Whip it out.

 

[johnny cakes]

Dude females don't know what they want..You're best bet is to try to go out with her alone, no friends, and during that outing show you have interest and depending on how the night goes make that move and go for the kiss to take it to another level. You want to show that you have interest and not get stuck in the friend zone because she is still vulnerable and can go back with her ex any minute now (3 months is fairly recent) so you need to make sure you take advantage of the window period you have

 

[fresh out dabox]

just be yourself and take charge.

 

[daytona 5000]

All I kept reading over and over was "she wants" and "she doesn't want" and I'm hear to tell you **** what SHE wants. Do what YOU want. Woman dont even know what they want for themselves, that's why you hear them say dumb shh all the time like they want don't want a dude that's an azzhole but that's all they ever deal with. The sooner you stop trying to figure out what THEY want and what makes THEM happy the easier your interactions with them will be. You already waited two years for this chick ( ) you might as well just go for the gusto and save yourself an additional time she may or may not (probably the latter) be worth. I think she knows she has you wrapped around her finger. Switch up the format on her and show her that y'all are going to move at the pace YOU decide.

 

[joepac12]

Take control if situation and find some pics

 

[cdeejay]

Imma take slow, this girl clearly needs time to get over her ex. Not only that, she is confused. That's pretty much where I'm at as of right now, I won't really try soo much. Imma just give her some space and the time she needs. Anyone agree?

 

[T Lo Sweater]

Imma take slow, this girl clearly needs time to get over her ex. Not only that, she is confused. That's pretty much where I'm at as of right now, I won't really try soo much. Imma just give her some space and the time she needs. Anyone agree?

you can give her space but dont get your hopes up. expect the best prepare for the worst

cause i was in a scenario just like. girl hit me up after her break up. we talked on the phone every night and chilled 2 times. she told me that she wanted something between us but she just needed time. i said ok i can respect that

dont wait on it either. keep doing your thing if you talk to other girls and all that

 

[royal assassin]

I've been crushing on this girl for about two and a half years now, i recently got to actually meet and and get to know her. She is a pretty amazing girl, she looks good and has an amazing personality. She has an interest in me, and she knows that ive been crushin on her, She told her freinds that she is interested in me(im close with her friends). Problem is that she got out of a break up 3 months ago, so she isnt over it. But yet, she is interested in doesnt want me to become the "rebound guy". She apparently wants me to lay low, and just give her time. But she came over on monday(with a couple friends) we all watched a movie, i was just there watching the movie beside her. I wasn't really trying to make a move because i felt it wouldve been too forward and like i said before, she wants me to just chill for now. But, my friends told me she was saying i went too slow. Like, i dont get this girl NT. She has an interest, she wants me to lay low for now, yet she says im going to slow. What should i do NT?

Forgot to mention, but she likes a guy that takes the initiative.

*****, women always say that ****.  if she's ready to talmbout bein interested in you, she's over it.  the thing is, women gotta convince themselvevs they not bein slutty or whorish or etc.  women are #1 about perception first even to their own detriment.  they ALL like a guy that takes the initiative because it takes the decision (and hence the blame if things don't work right) away from them and onto the dude (at least in their minds).  man show up out the blue and just TAKE that woman.

 

[olx9o]

http://niketalk.com/t/507586/tay-thread-about-yambs
youre welcome

 

[cdeejay]

I've got a couple girls I've been talking to, they're cute. But this one I genuine have a thing for, her personality is on point and she looks way better then other girls.

 

[dropten]

Imma take slow, this girl clearly needs time to get over her ex. Not only that, she is confused. That's pretty much where I'm at as of right now, I won't really try soo much. Imma just give her some space and the time she needs. Anyone agree?

That space you giving her is where another dude slips in and smashes till no end.

Shes doing you a favor and trying to avoid getting into anything serious. All she wants and needs right now is the D.

 

[Gill Baka Esq. LLC.]

Truth has already been spoken in this thread.

I understand your need to not rush things because you want this to work out but like others have said in this thread and through the centuries of written history.....women don't know what the **** they want.

Like another poster stated. You need to do things with her just you and her more often. Again you don't have to come on too strong but be a man about it, show her interest, get to know what she likes and use the 80/20 rule - she talks 80% of the time about herself and you ask open ended questions 20% of the time with adding some details about yourself that aren't in-depth. People love to talk about themselves in the positive light and they'll love you if you seem genuinely interested in them.

Girls will always say that they don't want you to be the "rebound" guy and dumb **** like that but as an emerging man, you need to grab what's there. You can still respect her space while trying to get yours. Hell I would even talk to another girl in the meantime....someone she doesn't know just as a backup.


Sad thing would be if this girl ends up friendzoning you on some b.s....stop trying to be her friend.

 

[freeze]

chloroform. she aint eem know it.

 

[jthagreat]

Girls dont know what they want till you give it to them.

WIO

 

[nationaltruckerdave]

pics or no advice

wassup with NTers now a days, this place isn't the same

 

[fly23s]

Take control if situation and find some pics

 

[cdeejay]

She is younger then 18(a year younger than me - i am 1, sorry guys... no pics... if something does happen, possibly

 

[ricky409]

dude females don't know what they want. .You're best bet is to try to go out with her alone, no friends, and during that outing show you have interest and depending on how the night goes make that move and go for the kiss to take it to another level. You want to show that you have interest and not get stuck in the friend zone because she is still vulnerable and can go back with her ex any minute now (3 months is fairly recent) so you need to make sure you take advantage of the window period you have

there you have it.

Instead of changing to fit what she likes be yourself and let her mold to you...

I guarantee she will mold to you easier and quicker than you can mold to what she likes because what she likes if ever changing.

 

[dropten]

She is younger then 18(a year younger than me - i am 1, sorry guys... no pics... if something does happen, possibly

Her age doesnt even matter. Women are mentally the same until their 40s anyway.

As for you, go ahead and take the chance. Its best to learn from experiences now so later on in life you know how to deal with situations like this accordingly.

 

[yeah]

chloroform. she aint eem know it.

Thanks for that laugh. I needed it.

Anyways, OP. It's been stated many times. Stop waiting for her to tell you what she wants and decide what you want.

 

[cdeejay]

I think i came to the conclusion, im just going to go for it. Im going to ask her out, something subtle like a walk around the neighborhood and trails(she likes nature walks)

 

[frankmatthews]

I think i came to the conclusion, im just going to go for it. Im going to ask her out, something subtle like a walk around the neighborhood and trails(she likes nature walks)

Bro, its clear she is not looking to get into any serious relationship with u or anyone else probably. When she says shes intetested in u but wants to take it slow it means she's attracted to u but doesn't want you to come at her heavy with relationship type stuff. She doesn't want u to get attached or work toward anything serious. She wants to have fun and not worry about a dude being clingy, which is exactly what u insist on doing. Asking her on a nature walk is exactly what she is trying to avoid, doing relationship type stuff which may lead u to believe she wants a relationship. Take her to dinner or a movie and try to get her back to your place or to hers. Thats the initiative she's talking about. Not the initiative to take her on a walk.

Any attractive chick has dealt with clingy or crazy dudes and they do not like it. They will then throw mixed signals to show interest but to also to keep ur expectations of something serious at bay. Once they see all u wanna do is keep it physical and that ur not gonna be clingy dude, that's when she will start talking about a serious relationship. Do not ask her on some simp date, again, that's not what she meant by taking initiative.

 

[s0lefunk]

Whatever you do, be up front and make your intentions VERY clear. You don't want to be BFFs. You're not here to be there for her. You want her to be your woman.

Like someone else said, that space you giving her is room for another dude to slide right in... TRUST that

 

[jonathango]

Whip it out.

We will never know what women want because women themselves don't know what they want