Growing up with just my mom and so forth, I was always told that I was soft spoken, but my days of approaching women have been sour due to that. I was told due to me being reserved and soft spoken, it's a turn off to women in this day and age(DMV women tend to put themselves in a higher pedestal then what they appear). I realize being soft spoken and reserve will not get me any chance at any lady. What I really hate is when people see me go through this dating drought and people ''suggest"(Disclaimer I'm not turning this to a race thread, so PLEASE don't make this one) that I should start dating white women. Now, I don't have anything against white women, but I take it as a insult when people make that "suggestion" because I feel as though they're calling me weak on the low. Once again, no hate towards the opposite race. but I hate when people just assume that I can't deal with women of my own race. Overall, I just think I'm a lost cause. TV and social media messed these joints heads up big time..