Why do some women look down upon soft spoken men?

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  1. fdub

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    Growing up with just my mom and so forth, I was always told that I was soft spoken, but my days of approaching women have been sour due to that. I was told due to me being reserved and soft spoken, it's a turn off to women in this day and age(DMV women tend to put themselves in a higher pedestal then what they appear). I realize being soft spoken and reserve will not get me any chance at any lady. What I really hate is when people see me go through this dating drought and people ''suggest"(Disclaimer I'm not turning this to a race thread, so PLEASE don't make this one) that I should start dating white women. Now, I don't have anything against white women, but I take it as a insult when people make that "suggestion" because I feel as though they're calling me weak on the low. Once again, no hate towards the opposite race. but I hate when people just assume that I can't deal with women of my own race. Overall, I just think I'm a lost cause. TV and social media messed these joints heads up big time..
     
  2. johnnyredstorm

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    Just be confident b. Stop worrying, show a broad a good time and she'll open them legs.
     
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  3. adobecs4

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    /thread
     
  4. SC kid

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    Theres a difference between soft spoken, shy and quiet imo
     
  5. 36 ounces

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    Roosevelt said "speak softly and carry a big stick".
     
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  6. kingkoopa

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    What is soft spoken?

    I'm a man of few words but can bag a *****.
     
  7. Peep Game

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    I think there's a difference in being soft spoken and being timid/feeble.
     
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  8. RIP sleazyy

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    There it is. Nothing but flourishment once I figured this out. From ratchet gogo chicks to country white girls to barely understanding English Salvadoran girls, confidence was the key.

    My uglass been GTD off confidence and dreads for years.
     
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  9. robtoofresco

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    If by soft spoken you mean your voice isn't all that "masculine" then start singing to these **** OP.

    Yams will follow :pimp:
     
  10. doublemesh96

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    Idk but they can all look down upon this ****
     
  11. RustyShackleford

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    For some reason this got me :lol: :lol:
     
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  12. truth-serum

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    :smokin

     
  13. truth-serum

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    OP, you gotta be nonchalant when it comes to females. They can't resist the IDGAF mentality.

    A confident man is an irresistible man to a lot of girls
     
  14. yeah

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    Word. They are equating your soft spoken-ness to your lack of confidence. I'm soft spoken as well and had trouble approaching women until I realized that all these women want is a dude with a plan.
     
  15. doublemesh96

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    Man this is too damn true. Show no weakness. Look them in the eye at all times and treat em like they ain't **** they'll be throwing it like tom Brady
     
  16. fdub

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    Hmmm
     
  17. grimlock

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    OP i'm a soft spoken dude myself. Not in that my voice is too high. Matter of fact my voice imho is too deep. But I just don't have much to say sometimes. I'm a thinker. I'm in my head most of the time. To me, the show I got going on in my head is way more important 99% of the time than the stuff going on in reality. Just the way it is.

    Here's the thing though....soft-spoken is nothing to worry about imho....but are you assertive?
     
  18. nazdrowie

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    was at the Trader Joes in Bethesda today and some lady with a British accent cuts right in front of me, talking about i was standing too far back...[​IMG]  

    DMV women sometimes [​IMG]
     
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  19. jjs07

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    and you did nothing.... :lol:
     
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