Why work to better the lives of people that don't care about you?

[marikomorose]

Sometimes I put my best foot forward for people who don't really give a damn about me. Why sacrifice myself & worth for people who do not respect you enough to acknowledge and accept who you are? A lot of relationships are just string alongs. They don't care about you just what they can gain from you. Imagine being stuck in a loop of wasting time on people wasting your time.

 

[marco23]

When I read the thread title I thought it was gonna be about have bad management/boss but def feel you.

A lot of people don't know what they want and once they realize that they do not want you they will be quick to leave no matter how much you helped them/ cared for them. Sometimes you just have to charge it to the game and be more selective about who you let into your life after

 

[kingkoopa]

I need to know the relationship of said people before I can give you any advice.

 

[picasso swerve]

Try having cancer and seeing who the real ones are. A lot of " friends" of mine havent hit me up in months, some just gave me the "ill be there for you whenever you need me" talk when I first got diagnosed and they havent checked on me since. **** em. I got more "random" people constantly asking me how im doing every few weeks. My main circle I always talk to, the inner circle. But the circle right after that been fugazi.

 

[kingkoopa]

Try having cancer and seeing who the real ones are. A lot of " friends" of mine havent hit me up in months, some just gave me the "ill be there for you whenever you need me" talk when I first got diagnosed and they havent checked on me since. **** em. I got more "random" people constantly asking me how im doing every few weeks. My main circle I always talk to, the inner circle. But the circle right after that been fugazi.

You got too many circles.

You keep 1-3 brothers with you.

You got 10 friends you have no friends.

You can have unlimited associates though.

 

[picasso swerve]

You got too many circles.

You keep 1-3 brothers with you.

You got 10 friends you have no friends.

You can have unlimited associates though.

I got 2 circles basically. The bros like you mentioned and then that outer circle of friends, some closer than others but not bro bro status.

I rather keep a small circle in general anyways so weeding out the real ones from the fugazi ones aint such a bad thing at the end of it.

 

[kingkoopa]

I got 2 circles basically. The bros like you mentioned and then that outer circle of friends, some closer than others but not bro bro status.

I rather keep a small circle in general anyways so weeding out the real ones from the fugazi ones aint such a bad thing at the end of it.

Don’t know how old y’all are but them weeds need to pulled by your 30s

I’m going on 37 and all my brothers 20+ years deep.

 

[picasso swerve]

Don’t know how old y’all are but them weeds need to pulled by your 30s

I’m going on 37 and all my brothers 20+ years deep.

Yeah my main circle been my dudes since I was a teen, im 32 now.

 

[eracism]

There's no return on investment when it comes to kindness and compassion. Help people because they need it and fade into the darkness.

 

[deusavertat]

 

[Deleted member 42060]

I say this to myself: Most people probably don't care about you until they get some benefits or use out of you. And another one: people don't really care about you until they have their "reasons" to care about you.

My relatives and so-called family friends are examples of this. They don't call when I would like them to. They don't visit when I'm ready to meet them. Until they have a motive or goal, that's when they wanna do what they wanna do. And it's selfish on their part. There's no balance. Its always fulfilling what they want, instead of asking and helping me with my life, keep in mind my moms and I have been in America much much longer than alot of these ungrateful lames. We didn't have the opportunities they had to get ahead and move on to bigger and better things in time.

My late sister was almost like an angel. She would be there helping useless and thankless people in her life. But the amount of help she would receive in return was nothing compared to what she did. Unfortunately she passed away at the young age of 36. I say good people die young, Billy Joel sang that song, only the good die young, and that's the truth.

Those people she helped went on to achieve greater things she should have achieved. And I couldn't care less about those people. I try ignoring and avoiding them in life. I tell them sis died and you people came up from nothing, from rags to riches basically. What did you DO FOR ME? After 37 years? Foh and F$%# you. That's how I gotta dead the relationship over time cause having your own money, good luck, success, good health, positivity, and a loving circle of people that understand you and can help you is greater than having a big circle of fake losers who don't give 2 ****s about you. It's tough, trying to get love and respect from those who don't really give love and respect until they want to. That's a sign of people who need to leave your life. They ain't changing after all this time, after all you probably did for them.

My sisters death taught me this lesson after all these years. But I already was scanning and analyzing who was keeping it real. And yup there's a small crowd of people these days who are or try to be genuine, nice, and helpful. Everyone else that isn't is a large remainder of people, they need a self serving reason or advantage to care or do something for you, money obviously or something else.

Some of the most caring and nice people I've seen are Aquariuses. I think that's their innate energy. It's just their habit to be a good person. But also there are probably some selfish cold Aqua people too. In this world, being solo, number 1, being quite selfish, being cunning and tough, these things that are the things that really do push a person to the top of the top. Its lonely up there. That's the imbalance, caring for yourself only. Caring for a lot more people in society would create a more balanced society. You can tell how some Americans can operate. Dog eat dog world, and little balance.

I think you keep in mind all the good you tried to do for others and you keep that good energy as good karma. It may not matter much now, but I hope it will reward you when the situations are right and things align in your favor. That's what I'm wishing for myself too. Life is quite unfair and unknown, and you do what you do for you.

 

[Zainjal26]

Try having cancer and seeing who the real ones are. A lot of " friends" of mine havent hit me up in months, some just gave me the "ill be there for you whenever you need me" talk when I first got diagnosed and they havent checked on me since. **** em. I got more "random" people constantly asking me how im doing every few weeks. My main circle I always talk to, the inner circle. But the circle right after that been fugazi.

My brother I just said a prayer for you. My mom
Too.
You’ll beat cancer trust me.
If you need anyone to talk to feel free to message me

 

[picasso swerve]

My brother I just said a prayer for you. My mom
Too.
You’ll beat cancer trust me.
If you need anyone to talk to feel free to message me

Appreciate that homie! My cancers curable so thats def a big possibility. I appreciate the message offer and for sure ill take that up if I ever feel the need to reach out. Luckily for the most part, im not super duper needy when it comes to support, some people are and thats fine too, everyone handles their journey differently.

 

[6 Rings G.O.A.T.]

 

[therealest1]

It's a trip that marikomorose created a thread like this because it coincides with the misfortunes I've had in my life dealing with crappy people who I counted as a friend who were users and/or leeches/freeloaders.

I counted a classmate as a friend for 9 years until I realized he was a user throughout that span. I admit I took too long to realize he was never an ideal friend. We were over 2 years out of high school when I realized that. He was just there when he needed something from me or it would benefit him. I wish I had the maturity and smarts to see the red flags much earlier. I can't believe I still counted him as a friend and did favors for him when he actually committed/displayed detrimental conduct with me.

I would attribute his using/freeloading ways to his loser mom who was already divorced with a son when she remarried his clueless dad. His mom only remarried his dad because he owned a business and enabled her sorry butt to have an easy life where she didn't have to work. The worst part about her is that she was never home to raise his younger brother and him and give them rides when she didn't have a job. She was only focused on her fun and prioritized going out for her activities while ignoring her kids.

He basically picked up a bad example from seeing his mom depend on her remarriage to his dad for her survival and support, so that's why he assumed it was OK to have a dependency with his friends.

I realized he was a user after we were out of high school because he seemed to ignore me when he realized he wouldn't be able to get favors from me and that I wouldn't keep doing them for him. I truly feel he saw me as useless once he couldn't gain or benefit from me anymore. I think he realized I wouldn't do favors for him or help by that juncture.

What pisses me off about that 9 years I counted him as a friend was that he didn't like to do favors for others or reciprocate, but he sure as hell had no problem asking for them. If he didn't like doing favors for people, then he shouldn't ask for them.

I was also somewhat hurt that he wasn't there for me or tried to provide support when I had a legal problem a year after we were out of high school. I reluctantly did favors for him, but it's messed up he couldn't be there for me when I had problems.

What made me realize that he was never a true friend after 9 years was a question he rehashed with me by asking me something insensitive about my family situation that he shouldn't have. That was the final straw for me. It showed that he was never a friend for not remembering what I had told him in the past and asking the wrong type of question about it. Friends are supposed to remember what they're told and know an individual thoroughly.