You get your girl of 4 years pregnant and this is how her mom talks to you, how do you react?

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Long story short, I asked the mom to leave me alone, she refuses, after hours of her harassing me, turned my phone off, turned it back on to this..

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I do not want this woman to have a single thing to do with my child, my supposed girl claims to have my back when it comes down to it says her mom will still get to see the child. She says that I’m selfish for saying that if her mom can’t own up to how disrespectful she treated me, I don’t want her anywhere near the child ever.
I’m already taking the L
On this, but I don’t know what else to do and needed to vent somewhere at this point.

My fiend said she sounds like she has CTE ?
well for 1 she's just upset
usually how women/mothers are
also ur best friends wife or whatever shouldn't have messaged her anything
ur a grown man
no need to have someone else butt in on y'all relationship
that's usually what females do
dont be a female
i get it
u have friends they wanna stick up for u
cool
but none should be calling ur girl saying anything
they should only be moral support for YOU
when u beefing with ur girl
like a ear to listen to
they should not be calling or texting ur significant other ANYTHING

and yes you are selfish
she upset with u
not the child
telling her u can't see the baby is just a form of control
people with kids love to say for some reason
just cause she mad at u
doesn't mean she would take it out on the kid
plenty of folks don't get along with their significant others parents
has nothing to do with the kid
in a way she right u are acting like a p***y

again i know its hard
but think how u would react if ur daughter had a kid
by someone u probably didn't like
u may be able to control ur emotions and all that
but not everyones the same
clearly its hard for her mom to do
so u gotta kinda see her point of view
maybe make more of an effort to show her
ur trying to be a good dude

all u can do is be the best father u can be
and let all that other dumb **** roll off ur back
its all about the kid now
once u have a kid all that other **** doesnt matter
ur feelings
things u want to do
all that
focus on preparing for the kid
focus on making the pregnancy as smooth as possible for ur baby moms
cause with all the stress of u and her mom beefing can effect her pregnancy
and she could have a miscarriage

real talk u should try and talk to the mom
if she upset
let her vent
let her yell
then be the bigger person
and let her know u gonna do everything u can do for this baby
and that ur gonna step up to the plate
she my listen
she may not
but at least u would let her know where u stand




ALSO THIS IS WHY U DONT JUST RAW DOG FEMALES
NOW U STUCK WITH A CRAZY FAMILY
CAUSE MORE THAN LIKELY
UR GIRL GONNA TAKE AFTER HER MOM
 
I knew there was more to the story.

You should've never smashed again after your friend went off on her.

You made your bed and are now gonna have to sleep with that L for 18 years, maybe longer.

If you don't give as much of a **** you could get a homegirl or auntie to beat up the mom but I don't know your tolerance for disrespect.
 
OP, I swear I remember you talking about this girl in another thread (TAR maybe) then proposing to or planning to propose to her. The way you described her, you shoulda been out of there already. Good luck, man.

And you're not even sure you're the father? All bad man.
 
Only read your OP.
If shes keeping it:

I advise you to get a DNA test done to make sure you are the father. Do not sign the birth cert until you have this done. Then if the kid is yours, be the best dad you can be, take care of your responsibility and fight for every right you can possibly get.
Her mom is unstable and its only going to get worse. Both of them will put ideas in the kids head about you and make you look like the bad guy. Save all texts and vmails showing the erratic behavior. If you feel they wont be the best influence for your child, fight for custody man.
Im sick of seeing the dads always get ****ed. All they want is money and nothing else.
 
well for 1 she's just upset
usually how women/mothers are
also ur best friends wife or whatever shouldn't have messaged her anything
ur a grown man
no need to have someone else butt in on y'all relationship
that's usually what females do
dont be a female
i get it
u have friends they wanna stick up for u
cool
but none should be calling ur girl saying anything
they should only be moral support for YOU
when u beefing with ur girl
like a ear to listen to
they should not be calling or texting ur significant other ANYTHING

and yes you are selfish
she upset with u
not the child
telling her u can't see the baby is just a form of control
people with kids love to say for some reason
just cause she mad at u
doesn't mean she would take it out on the kid
plenty of folks don't get along with their significant others parents
has nothing to do with the kid
in a way she right u are acting like a p***y

again i know its hard
but think how u would react if ur daughter had a kid
by someone u probably didn't like
u may be able to control ur emotions and all that
but not everyones the same
clearly its hard for her mom to do
so u gotta kinda see her point of view
maybe make more of an effort to show her
ur trying to be a good dude

all u can do is be the best father u can be
and let all that other dumb **** roll off ur back
its all about the kid now
once u have a kid all that other **** doesnt matter
ur feelings
things u want to do
all that
focus on preparing for the kid
focus on making the pregnancy as smooth as possible for ur baby moms
cause with all the stress of u and her mom beefing can effect her pregnancy
and she could have a miscarriage

real talk u should try and talk to the mom
if she upset
let her vent
let her yell
then be the bigger person
and let her know u gonna do everything u can do for this baby
and that ur gonna step up to the plate
she my listen
she may not
but at least u would let her know where u stand




ALSO THIS IS WHY U DONT JUST RAW DOG FEMALES
NOW U STUCK WITH A CRAZY FAMILY
CAUSE MORE THAN LIKELY
UR GIRL GONNA TAKE AFTER HER MOM

why is this written in poem format?
 
I know....

I’ll try to fill you guys in.

Roughly 3 and a half years ago, I had a fight with girl that started with me telling her she complains about work too much, she goes off on me. I buy her flowers and a teddy bear the next day that I have delivered to her. In her anger, she trashed both. While im
Driving home from work, she calls and asks if I can pass a drug test for weed, I say no, and she blocks me completely. My best friends wife, who is more or a less a sister to me, messaged her telling her to get her priorities straight, my girl tells my friend to eff off, and my friend ends up GOING OFF on her. Telling her she hopes she gets black out drunk and knocked up by a random, And have a fatherless child with mountains full of medical issues which she can’t afford to handle.

This was 3 and a half years ago, and to this day she hasn’t let it go. The day of our first doctors appointment weonce again got in an argument about it, and like always she told her mom every detail of our arguments and left out the parts where she was guilty.

That’s when her mom harassed and attacked me. And I’m stuck wondering why im supposed to swallow my pride and be cool with her mom, she said a lot worse as well, that was a small sample. Yet when my friends (who are extremely close and like family to me) stand up for me, I’m expected to cut them off. It’s full of double standards and bs. I’m losing it.
at this point OP you have two options. Stick around and be the best father you can be under this horrific voyage you journey

or

fake your death, move to another country and hit the reset button. but from what it seems like you will probably just knock up another mentally damaged woman :smh
 
I mean I can get not rocking a rubber cause that’s your girl. But you never shoot up the club.
And I have a feeling you were on purpose. multiple times until this was the outcome.
 
I know....

I’ll try to fill you guys in.


Driving home from work, she calls and asks if I can pass a drug test for weed, I say no, and she blocks me completely. My best friends wife, who is more or a less a sister to me, messaged her telling her to get her priorities straight, my girl tells my friend to eff off, and my friend ends up GOING OFF on her. Telling her she hopes she gets black out drunk and knocked up by a random, And have a fatherless child with mountains full of medical issues which she can’t afford to handle.

Seriously,

Why on EARTH are you having other girls get in contact with your folks about yall's affairs? That is on YOU for involving someone else. Not even sure what you were thinking.

Why does that "sister to you" even have your girl's number?
 
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