What's it like living in the suburbs?

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Why is it that black kids from the Inner city look down on black kids from the burbs? Not just the try hards but all black kids from the burbs?

Is this complex healthy? Does it foster solidarity or prevent us from seeing what's really important?

Where does it come from? Parents? Peers? Media?

Idk if the DMV qualifies since it's like a 15min drive to the city

Technically I live in the suburbs I guess but never really felt like I did. If it's not downtown tho I don't wanna live in the city, sorry bros not bout that block life

703 Hwy said:

Idk if the DMV qualifies since it's like a 15min drive to the city

Technically I live in the suburbs I guess but never really felt like I did. If it's not downtown tho I don't wanna live in the city, sorry bros not bout that block life

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wait do you mean DC (city proper) or do you mean the area qualifies as the DMV (whose geophysical boundaries I have yet to figure out) is a 15 minute drive?

not to go on a tangent but DMV continues to confuse da hell outta me. what exactly constitutes the "DMV?" How far north and south does it go? East and West? Like would Laurel be included in the N. boundary and Woodbridge be included in the S. boundary?

is it the yellow counties?

Growing up in the 'burbs was great - I grew up in a lower/middle class and relatively dense neighborhood.  Tons of kids in the neighborhood so we all played at the local playground, rode bikes, played a ton of sports at the park and in people's backyards.  The kid with the Atari/NES was the most popular in the neighborhood, especially in the Fall/Winter lol.  The only kid in the neighborhood with an in-ground pool was the most popular in the summer.  As a parent it obviously makes sense - privacy, space, safety, good schools, etc.  At that point in your life, if you're a family man, you're obviously making sacrifices for your family.  Those things I mentioned are more important than your night life (like you'd have one anyway lol) and what you do in your free time (again, like you have any).  

No regrets at all about growing up there as a kid but by the time you got to high school you realized it was boring as eff.  There was nothing to do but watch sports or drink and hang out in someone's basement.  The parents were the ones who were a real mess.  SMH at buying your 13-14 year old kids kegs and hosting a house party.  Making sure there were enough spare bedrooms for couples to hook up in.  Pill poppers, depressed, cheating on their spouses - and living vicariously through their children.  Almost without fail the kids with those type of parents were a mess at the 10 year HS reunion and never amounted to much.  Fairfield County was even worse, I don't think I've ever met a normal person/family from Fairfield County.  That much money + minimal adult supervision = all kinds of ****** up.

As an adult, suburban life is much more about relationships...family AND friends.  If you don't have a solid circle of both your life will be boring as hell and feel empty.  In a city you can spend a ton of time on your own doing whatever interests you and never get bored.  Easy access to everything and anything.  Because of that, I recommend anyone lives their 20's in or just outside of a decent sized city, enjoy it while you can.  I still live in a small city in my 30's with no wife/kids yet.  It'll be a struggle to move to the burbs one day, not sure I'll ever be able to do it.

Growing up in the sticks must be awful though, that's where people do nothing but drink, love college football and become too religious lol.  I grew up about an hour and fifteen minutes outside of NYC so we were going in to see Knicks/Yankee games pretty regularly and visit family on LI.  There was enough to do being near a big city, but growing up in rural anywhere must be ridiculous.

The land and escrow tax is expensive.

i grew up in the suburbs & i definitely enjoy living in the city way better.

the only thing i miss about the suburbs is driving (i don't drive in chicago) & everything is cheaper there, lol.

The suburbs in New Orleans aren't your typical suburbs. Just seighin' ... 

NazDrowie said:

wait do you mean DC (city proper) or do you mean the area qualifies as the DMV (whose geophysical boundaries I have yet to figure out) is a 15 minute drive?

not to go on a tangent but DMV continues to confuse da hell outta me. what exactly constitutes the "DMV?" How far north and south does it go? East and West? Like would Laurel be included in the N. boundary and Woodbridge be included in the S. boundary?

View media item 165341 is it the yellow counties?

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Hells nah it ain't the yellow counties my dude.

S. boundary is Woodbridge/Dumfries, N. Boundary is Laurel. E. boundary is Bowie. W. boundary is Reston, VA (that's debatable tho)

I don't know much about va

But I consider the "M" to be PG/some of MoCo

Columbia ain't DMV to me, no disrespect. Same with Laurel. That's basically halfway between DC and Baltimore, so to me that's just plain old Maryland.

knowledgebones72 said:

I don't know much about va

But I consider the "M" to be PG/some of MoCo

Columbia ain't DMV to me, no disrespect. Same with Laurel. That's basically halfway between DC and Baltimore, so to me that's just plain old Maryland.

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Ehhh just role with it. I feel like a DMV area turf war will pop off in this thread. 

I think consensus is supposed to be surrounding counties. Nowadays I consider DMV what ever is serviced by WMATA.

Most of the issues started from people who only consider DMV as hood areas, which only left DC and PG. Dumb mentality, but even I had that when I was younger. MoCo was always looked at as just some place where rich people lived.

On the other hand, I'm from PG and never stepped a foot into VA until I was 17. Had no reason to. So I always considered the DC area as just DC and PG since those are the only places I ride the metro. But I frequent Silver Spring, Bethesda, Tyson and Arlington more now so I don't see why it wouldn't. Laurel is in PG so it counts. Once your out Howard county, you're just Maryland. Columbia has more Ravens fans than ******** fans

Here's the major difference between the burbs and city (IMO): FOOD

Restaurants in the burbs generally suck compared to the city (Chicago in my case). And nightlife with no drunk driving

driving with decent insurance rates to scoop up yambs

Sums it up for me

I prefer living in the hood, suburbs are way too boring looking for me.

boring too quiet! i like the hood where its loud always sirens ppl hanging out till late night fire hydrants open during the summer etc

boring too quiet! i like the hood where its loud always sirens ppl hanging out till late night fire hydrants open during the summer etc

Kinda weird in the Bay Area.


If Richmond is considered a burb(I don't live there, but went to school there). Then its just plain dangerous living in the burbs(some areas of Richmond).

I love the Burbs. You definitely need a car to get to places. But I work in San Francisco and when I go home, I want to distance myself from the City as much as possible.

secretzofwar said:

Here's the major difference between the burbs and city (IMO): FOOD
Restaurants in the burbs generally suck compared to the city (Chicago in my case). And nightlife with no drunk driving

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Interestingly enough its the complete opposite in NYC. NYC food is trash compared to food in the burbs of long island. Barely are there any pizzaries in the city that are legitly owned and managed by Italian Americans. Most pizza parlors in NYC are Greek or Albanian owned. In long island, every pizza spot is Italian american owned so you know you're getting authentic stuff. Bagel stores are scarce in the city let alone good. If you want a real taste of NYC cuisine come to long island.

nice & safe

Soccer moms that are desperate for mall shopping and Starbucks.

In seriousness though, my experience could best be described as peaceful and quiet.

imo From Woodbridge to Laurel south/north wise and Fairfax/Bowie west/east wise I consider the DMV.

Not Columbia, Glen Burnie, Annapolis, Fredericksburg, Stafford, Manassas, Reston, Dulles etc........

(just my opinion)

ccastro02 said:

secretzofwar said:

Here's the major difference between the burbs and city (IMO): FOOD
Restaurants in the burbs generally suck compared to the city (Chicago in my case). And nightlife with no drunk driving

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Interestingly enough its the complete opposite in NYC. NYC food is trash compared to food in the burbs of long island. Barely are there any pizzaries in the city that are legitly owned and managed by Italian Americans. Most pizza parlors in NYC are Greek or Albanian owned. In long island, every pizza spot is Italian american owned so you know you're getting authentic stuff. Bagel stores are scarce in the city let alone good. If you want a real taste of NYC cuisine come to long island.

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Quoted and repped due to high level of truth

My fiance is from LI and I love visiting her family up there.....We usually go for Christmas and part of the spring/summer.  I drop racks of $$$$ on food every time.  I literally eat out 2 out of 3 meals a day and gain 10 lbs in the process.  Best food in the world, hands down.

fringe suburbs often (not always depending where, location is key, more so then not in my experiences) lack culture. they are dominated by corporate, big box establishments that shun the expression of differences.