for those that didnt make it, there's a new challenge started up by maddog... i'm not in it though...
march yambition will be postponed until april in respect for the homey maddog...
anyways... glad you guys showed discipline. you can truly be proud of yoursef, and that's an intrinsic reward that no one can take from you.
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we almost there famb... stay tough... story about postfap feelings... they suck...
ON THE REAL... i thought about just running one out... i though, meh... its only 8 days left... who's gonna notice... but the one thing tha held me back... and i think this is crucial...
is the crappy feeling that i get onece i fap after i havent fapped in awhile.
many times than not, when you take a good time off from fappy, that post fap guilt sometimes set in. The reason i stopped was b/c the post fap guilt. keep that in mind fellas.
also, there is only a few days left. we have six days left. i hope yall are all staying busy and focused. things.
waka flocka flame colgne...
eua lets doet...
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To those of you that didnt make it, i'm sorry for the loss. it is a personal challenge, and i hope you did your best and tried to show a little self control. just cuz you didnt make it thru the month does not mean you didnt gain anything from the process.
to those who are still in, congrats, famb... this might seem like a menial task, but men tend to let our penises run our lives. we let it dictate whether we had a good day or if we're successful. eff all'lat...
controlling your urges is one of the hardest things you can do. and if you can convince yourself to stop doing something, you can convince yourself you CAN DO ANYTHING.
glad yall made it thru. you may not be slaying chicks left and right. but i'm more than sure you've gained a little more focus, and that your confidence is elevated. your seaman's is what women dream of. it completes them when you deliver seamans so they can make the babies.
if your selective about it, you'll definitely gain more confidence not only in yourself, but your abilities. too long men have been cast as mere jizz hoses and that's all we're good for...
but cut that fountain off and see how things turn in your favor...
13 more days to go....
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rule 1: you can get yambs... just no fapping.
loophole 1: if you're in the yambs, and you pull out to deliver man milk in a designated area, that is allowed.
dont have a girlfriend to hold you down? tough tiddie.
step your mouthpiece game up and find a willing yamb giver, or focus on your work, studies, exercise habits, etc....
- EVERY month with this
-i dont need to fap. i have a girlfried
-only lame-o's fap
-i'm questioning some of you guys sexuality so concerned with other men's penises.
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C Money 88 05
Gex The Damaja
Kareem the Dream
Mags on fire
Shorty Doo Wop
SOFA KING AWSM
Shorty Doo Wop
Mags on fire
Kareem the Dream
some strong words... try to rep calypso on post #397 for this...
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After I hit 90, I felt a lack of motivation to continue the challenge. "I'm not feeling the effects, I wanna fap cause I haven't in a while, I can totally keep changing my life while fapping to porn, it's not that big of a difference."
So I stopped and decided to fap until I wanted to go back to NoFap, if ever. This time has come recently, but if there's one thing it has taught me, it has taught me that addiction is very strong.
You see, I forgot how strong of a hold it has on you. All of the sudden, I was relapsing like my first ever time at NoFap all over again. I forgot my own tips and tricks. So in finding my old notes from my 90 day challenge, I remembered what they are.
If you were feeling sufficient effects of no fap, but no longer do, this is because you have gotten used to being awesome. If you feel amazing for a long time, it will get mundane. So you need to spice it up or you will feel mediocre again. This leads to my first major tip, in no particular order:
-Work out. At least 3 times a week.
The thing with working out, is that so many people associate it with getting girls to like you. "Why would I work out so much", they say "I don't want to impress girls so much!". So they don't work out. Or the opposite side of the spectrum:
I workout because I wanna look good for the girls man.
That's not what working out should be for. That's not the guide to happiness. That's a guide to dependence. You should want to work out to improve your health, life, and to improve yourself. Nothing's more satisfying then looking in the mirror and liking the person you see. If you aren't comfortable with your body, you're not going to like the person you see. If you start working out, you're going to like the way you look. I guarantee it. This leads into the next one:
Erase your dependency. Especially on girls and sex.
The prevailing mentality on NoFap is dangerous. Very much so. I see posts all the times that say "I got girls man. NoFap is working perfectly!" Which is fine. Be happy, sure. What I also see is posts that say " I don't have superpowers, girls don't like me, this doesn't work."
NoFap is not a journey to get girls to touch your penis. It is a personal and spiritual journey in a lot of ways. If you are dependent on the love of girls, then you are setting yourself up for failure because girls will not ALWAYS want you. And when you **** up or get rejected, your grip on the challenge will falter. Listen:
Happiness isn't about girls. The moment you realize you can go on for the rest of your life unmarried but still happy is the moment you erase that dependence. The belief that sex is so important is one of the biggest reasons people relapse. Because they can't control their lust. Your testes will not explode if you don't jack off or **** something. You can be happy with yourself, by yourself. Be dependent on yourself. You don't need approval from anyone but yourself. And also, when you start believing this, girls tend to like you more because they can tell you aren't needy. How so? Because you don't act like this girl is quite possibly your only chance to **** for the rest of your life and you don't act like you can't blow this or it's all over. Become self reliant. And:
There's a principle called Cognitive Dissonance in psychology. It's when you perceive something that sends two conflicting messages. When this happens, it really ***** your brain up because you can't tell what is true and what is false. Here's an example:
I wanna stay on NoFap, but at the same time I wanna jack off.
Two conflicting messages. Sad, mad, and conflicting thoughts are like weeds for your mental state. If not destroyed, they grow and **** up your mind. So, eliminate negative thoughts like that when you think them and let positive thoughts flow. This is also why dependence is painful.
If your belief is "I don't need girls" but you're getting depressed when you get rejected, or you say sex isn't necessary but you're scrolling through pornhub edging, you're ******g yourself up. You're saying one thing, but doing another. And actions speak louder then words, so watch this carefully.
Don't edge. Period. Like the earlier weed analogy, edging is dissonance. And you will go too far. Because eventually edging won't feel good either, and you'll want to finish. As animals, we often go into sexual hazes when we get horny. Nothing snaps you out of this later then thinking about where this behavior will leave you. When you finish, you will feel bad and regret the 2 seconds pleasure. I promise you that. It's only when you look down and see you're covered in your semen that the true shame sets in and you regret your actions. It's playing Russian roulette. Every time you play you have a chance of losing everything you've worked hard for.
-Cold Showers. I'm not going to tell you your testosterone increases. But it kills urges really hard. And it makes you feel more awake. Good for morning rituals.
-Change your life. NoFap is energy. Lots of it. Use it to change your life. Learn a new hobby, pick up a new skill, work harder at your job, work out, get better grades. Make a constructive use of your time. Clearly, you're here for a reason. You don't like where you are now, probably. You will stay there until you choose to move. Either you whine or you climb. And the ladder is in front of you.
Complaining is the least constructive thing in the world. Not quite destructive, but almost as bad. Complaining is the act of not solving a problem, but whining about it. Wasting valuable time you could have used to solve it, and poisoning your mental state. It's unnecessary and destructive, so don't do it. How do you stop this?
Fake it til you make it. The thing with confidence is that it's in a lot of ways a state of being. If you think that you are great and successful, it will start to take root in your mind and actions. It's how affirmations work. A mental state of confidence will make your actions confident.
Filters. K9, RES, all that good stuff. Make the challenge as easy as you can make it. Why go through unnecessary hardship when you can just make it easier on yourself? It goes without saying then that you also need to stop watching Porn. Self explanatory. Dissonance.
Make something of your life. Get the **** off your computer and out of your comfort zone. Just go outside and do ****. As they say, "Everyone's just making it up as they go along just like you.". So go enjoy life. Do crazy ****. **** what people think of you. All that matters is what you think of yourself.
Believe in yourself.
Believe you can do it. Make your thoughts congruent with your actions. Take it one day at a time. The journey of a 1000 miles begins with a single step. You do not sprint a marathon. So stop trying to take 90 days as 3 months. Think of it as 90 24 hour segments. Deal with each day at a time. If you look up Mount Everest from the bottom, of course it seems impossible. Just climb. Don't look down, don't look up, just climb. When you're at the top, you have permission to look down.
Stay strong fapstronauts. Those are my tips to success. Now if you'll excuse me, I need to start climbing. I haven't climbed in a long time.
Edited by ricky409 - 3/1/13 at 8:20am