Girlfriend Got raped... Need to Vent.. Updated Information at pg1

beezylocks said:

WE NEED A STORY!

This dude hasnt posted what his girl said happened...
Who dude is...
Why was she unsure...

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NLoc said:

Me and my girlfriend have a long distance relationship currently due to her being in Texas and me in NYC in college. She called me crying to tell me about few hours ago that yesterday at her sisters party she got raped by some guy. She is sure of it and was scared at what to do and called me but me listening to it all, I just had my mind blank out and choke up. She was waiting for her sister to talk to mofo with her bf and find out what happened to be sure before my gf officially goes to the cops. I told her to go get a rape kit done and call cops and tell her parents but she said she wants to be sure before doing anything. I got enraged and told her if she was lying to play this off and as an excuse for what she did but with out a doubt im sure she did got raped now. I'm waiting for more info now but I don't know what to do. I feel so bad and powerless now and I feel so bad right now. I just needed to vent guys ....idk what else to do.



Just to add few more details, she was drinking but not wasted type but everyone else was and when she woke up she knew what had happened and was frantic. She tells me now that she is doesn't know what to do and all that.

Update:

It officially is a rape now that her mom knows and today she went to planned parenthood and she was given a Plan B pill and appointment for a medical check up and get tested. She told me though she does not want to press charges and made up her mind to which she told me this morning. I broke down hard and felt like crap and a deep pain when she told me that. I went to my counselor in college and I literally just let it all out and explained to her what happened. She and another head of the counseling department spoke to me for over an hour and made me think and realize everything. She said to understand that many women don't report it to the police because our court system will drag this to well over months or even years and it would be a constant reminder of what happened and how society will label her as a **** and all that crap we hear about in the news. She just brought out facts and after the whole talk I was able to regain my self and walk out with a clear head. I am going to be there for her and support her because there is no doubt my girl is broken by all this and she just wants to let the healing process begin. I wanna thank you guys as well for the positive comments and I know many of you had the same reaction I initially had about her lying to cover up something but there is no doubt now she was raped.


This is how is went down by all accounts of what people told me and parents and herself once she was at planned parenthood.
It was a party/gathering. Drinking was involved but my girl wasn't feeling in the mood but still drank. She took her medicine from her doctor prescription then drank one drink they were giving and went to lay down as she texted me. She tells me this guy was there that has tried in past to hit on her was there and was getting wasted with everyone else including her sister. So she basically knows the **** who did it and he owned up to it and said he was just wasted and out of his mind. Next thing she wakes up with her clothes off and realizes what has happened and tells her sister. She tells her to go check herself in the bathroom for bruises marks and anything that will show rape has occurred. She has no bruises but checks her privates and sees it is sore and has the obvious inside of her to which she breaks down. She tells her sis and they go out to find the guy and confront him while my gf stays home not knowing what to do. She then told those things I wrote initially not being able to think right and confuses me initially and gives me doubts by not wanting to get anything done or telling parents. I threatened her saying if she is lying to cover up some bs excuse and that I will tell her parents myself but she tells me to hold on. She later does tell her mom and her moms goes crazy but then calms down telling her that she is by her side and that it is her decision to what she wants to do, meaning my gf decision. I was upset and basically told her I dont wanna deal with this and she starts to breakdown saying I cant leave her when she needs me now more than ever and cant go through this just with her parents and herself alone. I managed to calm her and she goes to sleep. Today she went with her mom and friend to planned parenthood to get a Plan B pill and they give her an appointment to go get checked up and tested for everything. She now has to get checked every 6 months for HIV for the next 5 years along with any other std. I then get heated again when she tells me she wont press charges because it will only be dragged in court for months and years even which will cause her pain and daily reminders of what happened. That is what she told me and her close friend told me as well to think about it. I then went to my counselor in college and then went to the head and they just broke it down for me as they have dealt with this situations of rape and trying to make me understand why a woman wont go to the cops.

At this point I just wanna get through this as best I can and help her because what started off as a unclear story and suspicions just as you all said, just was confirmed to me by others, her mom and herself.

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jones23me said:

where are pics of said rape victim?

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Sir Charles said:

jones23me said:

where are pics of said rape victim?

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NEGGED

Nows not the time

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Picasso Swerve said:

Unless she was drugged or roofied, drunk sex is not really rape though...I mean...you are drunk...

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Master Zik said:

I like how tried to slip that in like he was suspicious of the whole story

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jones23me said:

So lets get this str8.. she got raped, waited a day and told you.. now she wants to wait another day to tell her mother??? SHE CHEATED FAM.. period.. why would any female tell their BF over their mother they got raped and 2 days after the fact... i aint buying it..

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Picasso Swerve said:

Eh...still doesnt make sense.

If it doesnt make sense, its not right.

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stevesteve72 said:

She needs to press charges. this dirt bag is going to do this to someone else, he needs to go to prison.

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Sir Charles said:

I'm sure dude has a couple more worries than NT right now.

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jones23me said:

where are pics of said rape victim?

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snowinsahara said:

you must be 12, drunk sex is rape my friend, if she cannot give consent, it's rape

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Putting In Work said:

I don't know I read the story updates and all and and it still doesn't add up to me.

OP you have to sit down and think really hard if this is someone that you want to spend the rest of your life with.

I really think you should reevaluate your relationship/engagement with your girl.

Do you really want to be with someone that would let something like this go?

If the incident really happened you know how emotionally damaged she is going to be from here on out?

Do you know who's going to have to deal with her emotions?

For the rest of her life...

You OP... rethink your future endeavors OP

I don't think this woman is a suitable mate for you to spend the rest of your life with.


[The below statements are what OP's girl says]


She has physical proof that dude raped her...

The dude is admitting that he raped her...

There are other witnesses (your girl's sister and her boyfriend) that can vouch for him admitting that he raped her...

She took a rape kit and it came back positive showing that she was raped...


Yet she refuses to press charges!

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stevesteve72 said:

She needs to press charges. this dirt bag is going to do this to someone else, he needs to go to prison.

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Night Marcher01 said:

stevesteve72 said:

She needs to press charges. this dirt bag is going to do this to someone else, he needs to go to prison.

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This.

Vey sad story, but ff your girl had any morals, she should really consider pressing charges before this happens to another girl.

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Putting In Work said:

I don't know I read the story updates and all and and it still doesn't add up to me.

OP you have to sit down and think really hard if this is someone that you want to spend the rest of your life with.

I really think you should reevaluate your relationship/engagement with your girl.

Do you really want to be with someone that would let something like this go?

If the incident really happened you know how emotionally damaged she is going to be from here on out?

Do you know who's going to have to deal with her emotions?

For the rest of her life...

You OP... rethink your future endeavors OP

I don't think this woman is a suitable mate for you to spend the rest of your life with.


[The below statements are what OP's girl says]


She has physical proof that dude raped her...

The dude is admitting that he raped her...

There are other witnesses (your girl's sister and her boyfriend) that can vouch for him admitting that he raped her...

She took a rape kit and it came back positive showing that she was raped...


Yet she refuses to press charges!

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