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Because shame is one of the most powerful emotions that a person can feel.
Guilt = I made a mistake
Shame = I am a mistake
Girlfriend Got raped... Need to Vent.. Updated Information at pg1
Guilt = I made a mistake
Shame = I am a mistake
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at many comments in this thread. I only got to page 4 and just..... A lot of people view this as black and white. There are many different emotional aspects that go along with it. OP came in here looking for help and support and all he got was a bunch of comments of about how much of a liar his gf is. We don't know either way what it is, we're behind a screen. Is it that hard to offer a few kind words? . Anyway, OP I hope you and your GF are ok going through this situation, this is really tough.
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the next villain in green lantern series uses shame?
shame >> fear > hope?
shame >> fear > hope?
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Cliff notes? Someone smashed OP's girl and she said it was rape? That's what I got from the OG post and responses I saw on this page.
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Good job at taking one sentence of what I wrote and putting your own context to it.
I never argued that this by itself means she is lying. I was breaking down key parts of her story critically to point out why it sounds fishy to me.
Dudes are skeptical about stories like this not because they are insecure, it is because girls crying rape to cover up infidelity happens all the time. I don't she anything wrong with telling the OP to be cautious.
I have family members who where raped, date a couple females that told me they were raped, I have seen it's effects and I can only imagine the horror victims have to go through, sometimes for the rest of their lives. But that doesn't mean I separate myself from logic every time a girl cries rape. The story still sounds fishy, period
So hop down off your high horse, other dudes said way worse things that me. How about digging for them instead of just editing a post you saw on the last page and attacking it.
out of 5 times in my life a woman / girl told me she was rapped 4 of them were flat out lies, one of them im not sure of.
Also how many articles have we seen of a woman lying about being rapped? willing to ruin a mans life for the heck of it?
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Yep. Some believe it and some don't. Now we're at the point where Team Self Righteous shows up and tells everyone how bad they are for not believing OP's girl.
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While some great points are being raised in support of the alleged victim, the thing that rubs me the wrong the way with this entire thing is that she said she needs to think about it. Knowing people in college (where 1 in 4 women get sexually assaulted before they graduate) who were almost victims of rape, there is nothing to think about. Either it happened or it didn't. Its a very serious accusation and one that will forever damage someone's name if they didn't do it.
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Knows the guy and isn't pressing charges???????
COME ON DUDE!
COME ON DUDE!
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So you think that's the rule and not the exception? Come on, dude.
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Man, please. Not as many as women who get raped for sure. Rape is considered the MOST UNDER-REPORTED violent crime.
About 1 in 6 women are sexually assaulted in their lifetime.
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Based on the update...
OP, go ahead and withdraw from your classes now. You'll be glad that you did when you're failing miserably nearing the end of the semester. Be proactive. Her problems + family issues = NO EXCUSE to graduate schools or w/e you plan on doing in the future. You have to look out for numero uno so that you can be there for everyone else as well. Sorry you're going through this and best of luck.
OP, go ahead and withdraw from your classes now. You'll be glad that you did when you're failing miserably nearing the end of the semester. Be proactive. Her problems + family issues = NO EXCUSE to graduate schools or w/e you plan on doing in the future. You have to look out for numero uno so that you can be there for everyone else as well. Sorry you're going through this and best of luck.
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Hypothetical situation. What if you are drunk and a girl is drunk, and she is aggressive and makes all the moves and you have sex. Who got raped in this situation? A fairly common scenario in many college parties. 
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that's wildI would crush the dude who did it
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Hypothetical situation. What if you are drunk and a girl is drunk, and she is aggressive and makes all the moves and you have sex. Who got raped in this situation? A fairly common scenario in many college parties.
Am I resisting?
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Females lie about being raped all the time. I mean that's something they actually do. So how are we foul for being suspicious, when there's snakes out here purposely fabricating stories? We don't know this chick any more than we know the characters in books. We don't know what type of female she is. All we have to go on is what OP has stated, and it is from his own words about her and the situation that anybody NOT jaded by the P can infer that shorty is kinda suspect. I'm not saying shes a POI, but shes definitely displaying some peculiar behavior. One drink rendered her incapacitated? I'm pretty sure chloroform says do not ingest...so what else are we supposed to just read and accept as truth? I feel bad for you sheep that just buy whatever you're sold. We aren't mean and coldhearted because we challenge statements, stop being soft. Truth is a journey and unless you choose to walk that path, they'll sell you a boat in the desert and you'll be loading the sails thinking you got a deal.
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She's making all the moves you are both drunk, but neither is truly resisting. This scenario is in response to the notion that intoxicated sex is rape. If it happens to a guy, is it rape? What if the guy is noticeably more intoxicated than the girl?
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According to the unwritten law of the written law, men cannot be raped, or rapped, as some might say.
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Did you bother reading the thread my dude?
It's not about us giving OP a hard time, because i'm sure most of us are not. But it's the red flags that gives us a suspicion of what really happened.
I rather someone be blunt and tell me how it is instead of sugar coating and telling everything will be okay.
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I didnt have the heart to say this but, this dude does make sense.
Do people on here not know how parties get down?
Girls get easy when they drink, hence guys trying to buy them drinks! *shoutout to superbad*
Ive known a few chicks who have woken up the next day not knowing what to blame it on so they say rape so they can stay with their BF
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Neither person is in a position to give legal consent, if either person feels that they've been violated when they sober up either could file a rape report. Statistically most won't, but that doesn't mean that someone wasn't raped in the situation.
http://www.rainn.org/get-information/types-of-sexual-assault/was-it-rape
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So anytime I have sex drunk from now on, I should just make sure I'm the first to file a rape report? Sounds legit.
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If you're having drunk sex with different people all the time, you've probably got deeper issues to discuss; but yes, depending on your local laws with regards to consent, if you feel that you were raped when you come the next day you could file a report.
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Just read the new edit. Op pm me if you need it.
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