Benefits of being single.

am1x90xnike said:
 
Man, reading all these blog posts on how terrible it is to be single, they talk about how great it is, but it's veiled in that "It's not as bad as it seems, but it really is otherwise we wouldn't have all these depressing posts about it."

It's just funny, my Uncle asked me the other day if I was dating. I simply replied...nope.

I just don't understand why I would want to be a relationship now. I'm young, in school almost done in with my degree...generally I'm at peace.

Every time someone asks me why I'm not in a relationship, I'm always like "no, I'm happy."

Are people in really happy in relationships? Like seriously? Every dude I see tells me "I used to be happy, then I got into a relationship" Some of the coolest/chillest dudes I know, once they got in a relationship...nope.
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From what I've seen (friends and family), people are generally speaking, the happiest in the early stages of relationships.  Some people are able to maintain a balance between their relationship, work, friends, etc. and seem to be most content. Others spend every waking minute with their partner. Those are the ones that tend to fizzle quick. 
 
AyZee said:
From what I've seen (friends and family), people are generally speaking, the happiest in the early stages of relationships.  Some people are able to maintain a balance between their relationship, work, friends, etc. and seem to be most content. Others spend every waking minute with their partner. Those are the ones that tend to fizzle quick. 
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Honeymoon phase.
 
buggz05 said:
Stick to escorts bros. Abortions are even more expensive yo.
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Not really a good look....
Had a crazy encounter.... Chick is some next level type Hot from the UKRAINE. Everything is cool, then I got to take a shower. Shower's going good....
Turn around in Shower.........................................
Written in lipstick on wall .........................."TRUST GOD"


me.......................................................................So what does that "Trust God" mean...
escort It's just a phrase I like....

me...????""?>>>???""

Months go by and I start getting pimples on my back, I'm at my new job sweating bullets thinking I got HIV.
One day I get off work, go get tested..... HIV NEGATIVE uvvvv cawse!!!
Funny thing is the GAY guy that administered the test looked pretty mad that I was negative

All the stress ain't worth it bruh!!!
 
toast1985 said:
Being alone is characterized by a physical state.

Being lonely is characterized by a state of mind.

With that being said, I live alone, but I'll be damned if someone says I'm lonely. I have company on speed dial, and I can rest assure knowing that this is a place where I can come and recharge. This is why there are so many failed relationships, people chase relationships which leads to comfort and companionship; rather than inquiring about the individual they want and the characteristics associated with that individual, which leads to chemistry and compatibility.
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Dang, that's real talk man. If you got people you can lean on, everything will be ok in the end.
 
toast1985 said:
Being alone is characterized by a physical state.

Being lonely is characterized by a state of mind.

With that being said, I live alone, but I'll be damned if someone says I'm lonely. I have company on speed dial, and I can rest assure knowing that this is a place where I can come and recharge. This is why there are so many failed relationships, people chase relationships which leads to comfort and companionship; rather than inquiring about the individual they want and the characteristics associated with that individual, which leads to chemistry and compatibility.
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Very very well said. I've learned this in the past 8 months. Being alone doesn't mean that you're lonely. Although I got a taste of couple's life again last weekend, and I won't even deny, it felt damn nice, But hey, back to my regular stuff. I've got amazing friends I can hit up at any time to chill, and I like time on my own as well. Maybe one day i'll find that right person, but I'm not worried about it.
 
Man I recently cheated on my lady and she found out. When I was doing me I thought hey if she found out at least im single again. Then she left for a few days and I literally got sick. I aint thought about nothing, but what I done and how to get her back. Sure if I was single I could have done what I did and slept good. Crazy thing is that she forgave me and nursed me healthy. I know I lost her trust, but the thought of losing her was enough to see that I aint bout that single life right now.
 
nikeskywalker said:
buggz05 said:
Stick to escorts bros. Abortions are even more expensive yo.
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Not really a good look....
Had a crazy encounter.... Chick is some next level type Hot from the UKRAINE. Everything is cool, then I got to take a shower. Shower's going good....
Turn around in Shower.........................................
Written in lipstick on wall .........................."TRUST GOD"


me.......................................................................So what does that "Trust God" mean...
escort It's just a phrase I like....

me...????""?>>>???""

Months go by and I start getting pimples on my back, I'm at my new job sweating bullets thinking I got HIV.
One day I get off work, go get tested..... HIV NEGATIVE uvvvv cawse!!!
Funny thing is the GAY guy that administered the test looked pretty mad that I was negative

All the stress ain't worth it bruh!!!
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So you smashing pros raw, bro?
 
I'm 25 so maybe i'm not conditioned to speak on this just yet, but man i'm honestly looking at people rushing to a relationship these days and i'm just like >D

Nowadays everything just seems so forced and rushed to find a lifelong partner. I had a pretty serious relationship before, but honestly being single i happen to enjoy my life much more & it's not even about just the chicks. It's about not being expected to take someone else's emotions and feelings with you into every decision. I can simply act on my own and move how i want too. At this age i'm just not big on compromising and i'm still trying to create a way for myself.
 
I would rather have a laid back easy going wife than single and smashing multiple women :rolleyes
 
360waves said:
I would rather have a laid back easy going wife than single and smashing multiple women :rolleyes
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Wait...laid back women exist? And how long are they like that?

Like, I was at uncles house, it's Saturday morning and he works the night shift so he walks in at about 8. I talk briefly and he's like 'I'm so tired, I just want to sleep' he goes to his room, closes door, almost immediately he he starts snoring, heavy. Less than an thirty later, my aunt walks in...ten min later he's doing lawn work and she's chilling...then he sleeps for a few hrs the gets up to grill dinner, sleeps a few more hrs, then back to work. In my mind, why did he have to do it just then? He just got off and they had nothing to do, a little rest was in order. But nope...that second it needed to be done. That's my fear, always having to be on someone else's time...always.
 
That's a generalization though not all women are going to be like that and you can have a relationship without being "Forced" to do something. However finding the right women who's willing to accept the times you just want to rest or may not want to be around her is the hard part. Sometimes i just need a refresh and wanna be by myself and not answer my phone, when i have a GF those things just don't exist.
 
am1x90xnike said:
Wait...laid back women exist? And how long are they like that?

Like, I was at uncles house, it's Saturday morning and he works the night shift so he walks in at about 8. I talk briefly and he's like 'I'm so tired, I just want to sleep' he goes to his room, closes door, almost immediately he he starts snoring, heavy. Less than an thirty later, my aunt walks in...ten min later he's doing lawn work and she's chilling...then he sleeps for a few hrs the gets up to grill dinner, sleeps a few more hrs, then back to work. In my mind, why did he have to do it just then? He just got off and they had nothing to do, a little rest was in order. But nope...that second it needed to be done. That's my fear, always having to be on someone else's time...always.
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Sounds like a personal problem

It is difficult to find, but they're out there
 
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360waves said:
I would rather have a laid back easy going wife than single and smashing multiple women :rolleyes
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Until I find that wife I'm very content being single and having a roster.

You can enjoy the single life with still having an end goal of getting married
 
Thank God I lucked up with the woman I have man

Find a bisexual woman whose last relationship was with a female .. :evil:
 
am1x90xnike said:
Wait...laid back women exist? And how long are they like that?

Like, I was at uncles house, it's Saturday morning and he works the night shift so he walks in at about 8. I talk briefly and he's like 'I'm so tired, I just want to sleep' he goes to his room, closes door, almost immediately he he starts snoring, heavy. Less than an thirty later, my aunt walks in...ten min later he's doing lawn work and she's chilling...then he sleeps for a few hrs the gets up to grill dinner, sleeps a few more hrs, then back to work. In my mind, why did he have to do it just then? He just got off and they had nothing to do, a little rest was in order. But nope...that second it needed to be done. That's my fear, always having to be on someone else's time...always.
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I like doing ish on my time. Maybe were selfish?
 
For me, as long as im not married I will continue to be selfish. If a girl shows me any sign that she's a headache, she can kick rocks.

After ending a long serious relationship (which I urge everyone to try before claiming you never want to) you'll learn being simply with "anyone" isn't going to cut it.
 
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I love not having a schedule, not being dragged to places I don't wanna go, having a roster, flirting non-stop. But I also miss when I didn't have that, y'know? Stupid **** that it doesn't make sense to miss like going furniture shopping, the conversation in the car on the way to a weekend getaway, holding her hand and pretending like i'm not looking at other women. **** that sounds restrictive, but I miss those moments. I think I more miss having someone that would make me miss **** like that but i'm not really about being lovey dovey and being in relationships with just anybody so those are few and far between. I'm fully content till the next one that pulls me out of character though, takes a special one to do that.
 
Also, being single doesn't mean treat females like garbage. That'll come back to bite you on the butt. take my warning now fellas
 
Al Audi said:
Agreed Blaster. Agree all day with that.
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100%. I've been in 3 fairly lengthy ones since 2006, so I'm most definitely being sort of picky and enjoying regular casual dating.


BLASTERCOMBO said:
Also, being single doesn't mean treat females like garbage. That'll come back to bite you on the butt. take my warning now fellas
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This too. Of my best friends spent years treating women like trash, and now he has a 1 year old daughter, with another daughter on the way. Both by a woman he hates, but moved in with just cause he wants to be a good dad.
 
^ geez, horrible situation for your friends. He's doing the right thing for the kid but dooms himself to a life with the girl :smh:
 
BLASTERCOMBO said:
For me, as long as im not married I will continue to be selfish. If a girl shows me any sign that she's a headache, she can kick rocks.

After ending a long serious relationship (which I urge everyone to try before claiming you never want to) you'll learn being simply with "anyone" isn't going to cut it.
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Well said.
 
youngdoc said:
Until I find that wife I'm very content being single and having a roster.

You can enjoy the single life with still having an end goal of getting married
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truth....

Cats are too extreme.

Of you're not locked up and committed to one person, you're Doogie Houser from "How I met your mother"


You can be single, get yambs, avoid headaches, and build meaningful relationships with multiple women.


Don't let society tell you different.

They make it seem like dealing with more than one one chick is bad....

You dont have to be a jerk / a hole / doosh to get multiple chicks and have them be AWARE that there's multiple chicks
 
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