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Someone school me on what "TAY" is about?
Read a few pages of this thread and it'll become obvious.
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Read a few pages of this thread and it'll become obvious.
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What's a good bar for happy hour to take a chick to in the DMV area?
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Someone school me on what "TAY" is about?
thread about yams.
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my ex is coming to visit me tomorrow for the weekend...
legit have no idea how this is going to play out
told myself it is what it is and when she leaves its back to not caring about what happened....
but as the time gets closer the feels is coming back.
I miss her again.....
hope it passes after the weekend cz I don't need this **** in my life lol
I've never spent time with her as a non-couple aside from the first time we met.....and that lasted all of like 2-3 days... went 0-100.... then from 100 to -7
legit have no idea how this is going to play out
told myself it is what it is and when she leaves its back to not caring about what happened....
but as the time gets closer the feels is coming back.
I miss her again.....
hope it passes after the weekend cz I don't need this **** in my life lol
I've never spent time with her as a non-couple aside from the first time we met.....and that lasted all of like 2-3 days... went 0-100.... then from 100 to -7
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BrixtonWhat's a good bar for happy hour to take a chick to in the DMV area?
Appreciate it good sir
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No worries one upBrixtonWhat's a good bar for happy hour to take a chick to in the DMV area?
Appreciate it good sir
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Do not do it mane! Lol. If she's a headache as much as you say she is....leave that alone.
Trust me. Been there smh.
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she's not a headache... **** just didn't work out because of distance and some personal stuff she had going on at home
when I said "I don't need this **** in my life".... I meant the feels lol...
I been chilling ... not giving any damns.... and now the damns is standing in front of me like "sup bro"
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My man, this literally just happened to me this weekend.
my ex came down from boston (I'm in VA)
she visited her cousins for 2 days and stayed with me for 3.
the feels was real i'll be honest.'
70% of the time was good times good converations, (shes the best P I've ever had) (not best sex just best P)
Great sex.
30% of the time, was the same stuff we use to argue about and she nagged about when we were together which was annoying.
we talked about the possibility of if she moved to the DC area if we'd be together, and I told her straight up, I would want to try but at the same time i dont even know what it would be like if we were in that real of a setting how it would work out.. we were together in Korea but only saw each other on weekends. (for 8 months)
Mugen posted something (as always with the wisdom)
saying
I answered. this for my ex... she does push me... a lot.. sometimes its annoying but honestly i wouldn't have the desire for this new job that i have now if it wasnt for her.
with those questions answered i put it like this. if she moves down then i'll give it a real shot of making her my girl, but until then. ima do my thing and not wait.
too old for Maybe's
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my girl told me she'd rather not discuss any type of issues in the relationship with me because I "take everything to the extreme" and she'd rather save herself the stress and just get over it because its annoying.
I feel like if i try to address it shes gonna get annoyed. how can this be fixed?
I feel like if i try to address it shes gonna get annoyed. how can this be fixed?
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Change your reaction. Take in what she says, and address it but do not make assumptions. It sounds like she thinks that you go too far in. Kinda like her seeing a female friend's number pop up on your phone, and she takes it to the extreme by saying that you're probably screwing the chick, cheating, etc. when really it's just a text.
It depends on what the issue is but if your reaction is warranted then maybe she's looking too deep into it. But I personally would just stop, listen, take in what she said, and then address the issue at the surface without diggin too deep initially.
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Man toss her *** to the bushes[emoji]128518[/emoji][emoji]128518[/emoji]
But in all seriousness this is what I mean about having the hard talks when your in a relationship. If you let that behavior manifest on both sides, resentment sets in and that's just how the devil creeps in.
Sit her down and really listen to what she is saying, if your hot headed or push 0-100, take deep breathes and look at it from her perspective and then speak your mind and tell her how it makes you feel.
As you get older, your tolerance for dumb ish dwindles and conflict should always be calm conversations. It was hard when I first met my wife because I would internalize stuff or do petty, passive aggressive ish to irk her but one day we had a really bad fight, didn't talk to her for a week while living in the same house and I just realized I was being a jerk and she was being hard headed and we talked until morning about everything. You have to be willing to listen with a open mind and heart and you also have to understand your faults and check your emotions.
Not saying to be a doormat but calm yourself and try to see perspectives before going crazy or extreme.
If you continue down this path, telling you..
You will share that girl..
If you love her and you both ride for each other, fix it now[emoji]9996[/emoji][emoji]127999[/emoji]️
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appreciate the advice fellas, thanks
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advice for shy fellas
Man toss her *** to the bushes[emoji]128518[/emoji][emoji]128518[/emoji]
But in all seriousness this is what I mean about having the hard talks when your in a relationship. If you let that behavior manifest on both sides, resentment sets in and that's just how the devil creeps in.
Sit her down and really listen to what she is saying, if your hot headed or push 0-100, take deep breathes and look at it from her perspective and then speak your mind and tell her how it makes you feel.
As you get older, your tolerance for dumb ish dwindles and conflict should always be calm conversations. It was hard when I first met my wife because I would internalize stuff or do petty, passive aggressive ish to irk her but one day we had a really bad fight, didn't talk to her for a week while living in the same house and I just realized I was being a jerk and she was being hard headed and we talked until morning about everything. You have to be willing to listen with a open mind and heart and you also have to understand your faults and check your emotions.
Not saying to be a doormat but calm yourself and try to see perspectives before going crazy or extreme.
If you continue down this path, telling you..
You will share that girl..
If you love her and you both ride for each other, fix it now[emoji]9996[/emoji][emoji]127999[/emoji]️
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I use to be shy
I grew out of it
What's the worst that can happen? She'll say no and you keep it pushing
Would you rather
1) take a chance and try to talk to a girl, and there's a 50/50 chance she'll entertain you
Or
2) don't say anything, look like a weirdo sitting across the room thinking about her, then miss out on your chance?
It's a easy answer, fam
Shoot your shot. Just make sure she don't have a boyfriend first
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Mugen hit the nail on the head. You gotta sit her down (face to face, none of that texting) and let her know that the way you would handle things before were wrong and that you're willing and want to change. Let her know that she doesn't have to worry about opening up to you.
The worst thing that can happy in relationship is a break down of communication.
You gotta slowly force yourself outta that shell. To be completely honest, in my experience a simple smile and a "how you doing today" is all it takes. Present yourself with confidence though.
If you're not confident, work on the areas that you feel you need to improve on.
Ain't no secret science to it
The worst thing that can happy in relationship is a break down of communication.
You gotta slowly force yourself outta that shell. To be completely honest, in my experience a simple smile and a "how you doing today" is all it takes. Present yourself with confidence though.
If you're not confident, work on the areas that you feel you need to improve on.
Ain't no secret science to it
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I just may just not be cut out for a monogamous relationship. Coming to that realization.
I'm going to have to let a GREAT girl go, because of my selfishness. Crazy thing is, I know she'll want to stick it out with me and wait for me while I'm outchea. Part of it is she's gained some lbs...and we've been doing this song and dance for 5+ years. This is the only chick I've met that has the same values as me, same sense of humor and loves me for the a-hole that I am. But at 25, these girls are out here, and choosin.
Shorty deserves better fellas. Bout to have a "great white buffalo".
I'm going to have to let a GREAT girl go, because of my selfishness. Crazy thing is, I know she'll want to stick it out with me and wait for me while I'm outchea. Part of it is she's gained some lbs...and we've been doing this song and dance for 5+ years. This is the only chick I've met that has the same values as me, same sense of humor and loves me for the a-hole that I am. But at 25, these girls are out here, and choosin.
Shorty deserves better fellas. Bout to have a "great white buffalo".
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Yooooo. I just found this girl's twitter I'm going out with tomorrow, then I googled her full name, and she has a kid! She mentioned the ex-husband over text but not the kid. I don't know what to think about this.
I scoped out the date spot yesterday after work just to become familiar with it again and see which spots were dog friendly. Told her I could meet any time after 6 and she said 8. I was going to go for a solid first date and then try to make moves on the second date but the later time is a bit suggestive. Maybe she'll invite me over for some milf and cookies after we have a few drinks.
I scoped out the date spot yesterday after work just to become familiar with it again and see which spots were dog friendly. Told her I could meet any time after 6 and she said 8. I was going to go for a solid first date and then try to make moves on the second date but the later time is a bit suggestive. Maybe she'll invite me over for some milf and cookies after we have a few drinks.
I joke around about her being a milf but I'm actually bugging right now. Never dealt with a woman with kids.
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If you're out on a first date with a girl and you get stuck on small talk subjects, ask her what she was like in highschool. If she's reluctant to answer at first then tell her what you think she was like. It leads to a lot of other topics and girls love to talk about themselves and reminisce.
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dont be that guy that let's her go then spend the next 5 years trying to get her back. When a good woman makes up her mind that its over she's gone forever. I was in this same situation with my chick, kept getting caught up and was just gonna let her go to do me. Until my pops kicked the real to me.
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I think this is what kept me holding for that long to mine. She did these things at a time where I was a mere man child, and she had the vision of our future. If she had asked those questions about me back then(well, maybe she did), the answers would have been a resounding no. Had to let go of the "what could've been", and the ego trying to understand why my personality switched up when we were supposed to be getting closer. I wasn't sure whether it was the love or the losing that kept me there, but I set both free. I have no doubt if I call up any woman in my history, they'll say the same things about me and jump at the chance to meet, except her. Love is tragic that way. I don't think she has any desire to speak to me, but I do miss her. I wasn't ready, such a beautiful, rational, supportive, strong, independent person who never needed hand holding, but would still show me love. Until it went off the rails of course. There is no more "maybe" for me, it's gone.
A sign of immaturity. Getting through a tough conversation together, relationship stronger, is like great sex.
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That's some real. I feel you.
Decisions decisions....
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Ah man, you never wanna give up a good shorty. Its hard to find a female that's down for you and willing to ride for you, especially today. I'm not saying put the P on the pedestal but appreciate shorty cause it'll be hard to find another that you can click with like that
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