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If theres smoke theres fire
would you let your significant other go to the movies alone with the opposite sex
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yeah that's a no go
girls and guys cant be just friends and more than likely dude is gonna try something
and then im gonna have to take his face off so...if your girl was smart she wouldn't start stupid **** like that
My girl and I have a mutual understanding about things like this
girls and guys cant be just friends and more than likely dude is gonna try something
and then im gonna have to take his face off so...if your girl was smart she wouldn't start stupid **** like that
My girl and I have a mutual understanding about things like this
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No.
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This reminds me of the time some dude kept bugging my girlfriend to come over to cook and eat.. 
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This reminds me of the time some dude kept bugging my girlfriend to come over to cook and eat..
Did she ever go over?
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No.. We were suppose to go over together one time but I napped too long and just ignored him from that point on essentially ...This reminds me of the time some dude kept bugging my girlfriend to come over to cook and eat..
Did she ever go over?
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bhergh
Had your girl ever cooked for dude before?
I was in a similar situation once and old girl had taken me to dinner and cooked me breakfast behind her man's back. By the time she felt any guilt the damage had been done and then she was trying to put our next encounter off.
The fact that a woman even entertains the offer is sometimes a sign.
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bhergh
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Nope .. He did bring her food before we started dating... He's one of those creeps though , bugging my gf for almost 2 months for lunch before we dated ..
Had your girl ever cooked for dude before?
I was in a similar situation once and old girl had taken me to dinner and cooked me breakfast behind her man's back. By the time she felt any guilt the damage had been done and then she was trying to put our next encounter off.
The fact that a womsn even entertains the offer is sometimes a sign.
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Hold on, what is the back story to this? A dude offered to cook for you AND your girl? Is he your friend or her friend?
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Nah he offered my gf for her to go over alone without his address just a landmark location .. So they can cook and eat together ... Eventually I was to go with her too but we flaked once and ignored him as much as possible
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Still fail to see just because a person is the opposite sex, u can't go to the movies alone, plus if you are mature about it. Why does a friendship have to change just because you in a relationship. Especially when being friends for 20+years. In my opinion that's acting fake and really not a true friend. I don't see me being wrong in this situation.
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:The "mature" thing would be not to go, because your ex is likely not cool with it. Certain things, once you're in a relationship, should be reserved for the boyfriend/girlfriend/husband/wife. I think movie dates are one of those things. Just the fact that you two are debating it shows that it shouldn't be a debate, feel me?
Also, truth is, a friendship DOES have to change once you're committed because there's such a thing as boundaries - that's what a commitment is, you're committing yourself to exclusivity in different parts of your life with your woman; that's not to say you can't be cool/friendly with shorty, but it just looks/feels bad if you're sitting up in a movie theater with another woman that's not your partner. If she's a TRUE friend, she'd understand that, and most likely be telling you that the "date" is probably not a good idea. Me personally, I don't believe that men/women can REALLY be friends - someone always has, or catches, feelings. And 20+ years with no "past" between this girl - seems doubtful/suss. Relationships like that are like unicorns.
But hey, if you don't think you're wrong, go for it, and if you're cool with the idea of your woman sitting up in a dark room with some potentially thirsty "friend", more power to you. I'm just saying, if you're trying to get wifey back, it's not about what you (alone) think or your standards as a single man, it's about what she's comfortable/uncomfortable with, and what works for the two of you as a unit; if you're trying to make that work, listen to her and try to understand.
It's what relationships are, bruh. Compromise and a willingness to change for the person you love. If it's that serious, go see the movie alone.
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and me personally, i wouldn't mind my girl going to a movie with another guy, depending how long they been friends, and how strong our relationship is, i don't see a problem
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stopped reading after this to quote and rep...
The "mature" thing would be not to go, because your ex is likely not cool with it. Certain things, once you're in a relationship, should be reserved for the boyfriend/girlfriend/husband/wife. I think movie dates are one of those things. Just the fact that you two are debating it shows that it shouldn't be a debate, feel me?
Also, truth is, a friendship DOES have to change once you're committed because there's such a thing as boundaries - that's what a commitment is, you're committing yourself to exclusivity in different parts of your life with your woman; that's not to say you can't be cool/friendly with shorty, but it just looks/feels bad if you're sitting up in a movie theater with another woman that's not your partner. If she's a TRUE friend, she'd understand that, and most likely be telling you that the "date" is probably not a good idea. Me personally, I don't believe that men/women can REALLY be friends - someone always has, or catches, feelings. And 20+ years with no "past" between this girl - seems doubtful/suss. Relationships like that are like unicorns.
But hey, if you don't think you're wrong, go for it, and if you're cool with the idea of your woman sitting up in a dark room with some potentially thirsty "friend", more power to you. I'm just saying, if you're trying to get wifey back, it's not about what you (alone) think or your standards as a single man, it's about what she's comfortable/uncomfortable with, and what works for the two of you as a unit; if you're trying to make that work, listen to her and try to understand.
It's what relationships are, bruh. Compromise and a willingness to change for the person you love. If it's that serious, go see the movie alone.
Real talk right here.
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If a girl has a guy bestie. He more than likely hit and is probably tapping that right now.
You're a damb Fool if you think her going out with some other dude is OK.
You're a damb Fool if you think her going out with some other dude is OK.
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"Thanks for coming out, God bless and good night..."
"Thanks for coming out, God bless and good night..."
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The "mature" thing would be not to go, because your ex is likely not cool with it. Certain things, once you're in a relationship, should be reserved for the boyfriend/girlfriend/husband/wife. I think movie dates are one of those things. Just the fact that you two are debating it shows that it shouldn't be a debate, feel me?
Also, truth is, a friendship DOES have to change once you're committed because there's such a thing as boundaries - that's what a commitment is, you're committing yourself to exclusivity in different parts of your life with your woman; that's not to say you can't be cool/friendly with shorty, but it just looks/feels bad if you're sitting up in a movie theater with another woman that's not your partner. If she's a TRUE friend, she'd understand that, and most likely be telling you that the "date" is probably not a good idea. Me personally, I don't believe that men/women can REALLY be friends - someone always has, or catches, feelings. And 20+ years with no "past" between this girl - seems doubtful/suss. Relationships like that are like unicorns.
But hey, if you don't think you're wrong, go for it, and if you're cool with the idea of your woman sitting up in a dark room with some potentially thirsty "friend", more power to you. I'm just saying, if you're trying to get wifey back, it's not about what you (alone) think or your standards as a single man, it's about what she's comfortable/uncomfortable with, and what works for the two of you as a unit; if you're trying to make that work, listen to her and try to understand.
It's what relationships are, bruh. Compromise and a willingness to change for the person you love. If it's that serious, go see the movie alone.
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You might have to accept you don't really want her back bruh. You're fighting too hard for your right to spend time with someone else.
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Theres this girl i know that had a baby by my former best friend, **** went down and me and him aint cool no more and he aint even in the girls or babys life, son went MIA, anyway, I introduced her to my boy...and within a week he was blowing her back out...
The kicker is...this girl has a male bestfriend thats been tryna get with her for 3-4 years and she constantly puts him in the friendzone, to this day...lol...he's done it all for her, my boy been a ******* to her
The kicker is...this girl has a male bestfriend thats been tryna get with her for 3-4 years and she constantly puts him in the friendzone, to this day...lol...he's done it all for her, my boy been a ******* to her
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I guess I'm insecure or whatever but I'd only be cool with it if he was gay or blood related.
Other than that, any straight dude is not gonna waste two hours with a girl in the theater unless he's tryna earn points to smash or it's his girl.
Why can't you and her go? If it's a chick flick, why can't her and her friends go? There's no reason a straight non-blood related male should be at the movies alone with your girl.
Other than that, any straight dude is not gonna waste two hours with a girl in the theater unless he's tryna earn points to smash or it's his girl.
Why can't you and her go? If it's a chick flick, why can't her and her friends go? There's no reason a straight non-blood related male should be at the movies alone with your girl.
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Grow up
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Grow up, because I'm telling you that if I have an interest in being friends with someone's girl that it's deeper than me wanting to be her friend?
So, me being honest with you and myself is not being grown up? Or is it because I don't pretend to want girls as friends outside of a relationship that I'm not grown up?
I've made it clear to my gf and any other woman that I've had an interest in that I don't befriend women unless I'm attracted to them and want something more. If it didn't bother my girl, why is it bothering you? The nerve of you to telling me grow up.
You're the one sitting at home bothered by my comments. Maybe you should take some of your own advice.
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No, grow up because you're telling someone if their girlfriend has male friends they're a sucker. Not every chick has thirstbuckets like you pretending to be her friend praying for the day to get a glimpse of her belly button.
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is the opposite sex gay?
