black men as dead beat fathers

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fontaine

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bruhs...

i know 20 dudes w/ kids. all my friends. from all different walks of life.

hustlas, d boys, corporate cats, blue collar, white collar, etc...

not ONE of them is a deadbeat father.

like... i'm starting to think this is just a product cats ditching their kids in the 70s and 80s, or some made up stats.

dont get me wrong... i know there are some bumbs... of all races.

but i feel like it's extra on the brothas...


maybe because it was true in the past, and this generation is making an effort not to be like their parents.

black men have a bad rep from the 70s and 80s... but like American cars, they stigma that they're unreliable continues to stick eem though the proof is in da pudding, b.

shouts out to all my fathers of all races, btw... cant wait till i have a little young'n so i can call him/her in the room to change the channel.

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At the same time though, I know a lot of people who never had their fathers in their life.

All black. I've never known a white person whose father wasn't in their life (admittedly don't have a close relationship with many white people though). But that's just my observation and I see what you're trying to say.
 
We're a generation of men who were raised without their fathers. I'm pretty sure we cannot fathom not being father's to our children.

I'm pretty sure some of you may be familiar with the picture of the father combing his daughter's hair in the mirror. He received praise for being there for his kids, and being active in their lives. His response? Why am I receiving praise for being a father?

That's the way it is right now. But I am happy we're working on that perception .
 
What constitutes a deadbeat dad? I know some fathers that provided for their children but were abusive (deadbeat still right?)... Being a father is one of the hardest roles in a society where expectations exceed reality. My pops never really had much for me financially but the knowledge he would drop was golden. My niece don't know her dad at all and he is white. I think it has a lot to do with the relationship of the parents. If two adults shouldn't have kids together, they simply shouldn't, but it is a woman's choice in the end. God bless the single moms and the dads that are always there.
 
it isnt the fathers these days it is the mothers.... it isnt pretty when dealing with a ignorant baby moms
 
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the stats are probably gonna change with Generation Y as the majority start to have kids of their own.

This generation prioritizes family more than Generation X...
 
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Can't blame the dad or the mom.  Gotta blame both.  Just call ADRIAN PETERSON, SHAWN KEMP, & ANTONIO CROMARTIE.
 
They were locking up black men at an alarming rate and MAKING then dead beat fathers...

Lets not talk about the death rate in the 80/90s..

I know Fernandes that had kids with men and the men went out and never cane home alive.
 
Superb said:
it isnt the fathers these days it is the mothers.... it isnt pretty when dealing with a ignorant baby moms
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But I also I know dudes who can walk right past their child and not think anything of it, it's sad as hell man. There's no excuse for not being in your child's life, period.

Since my son was born I said to myself over and over that I wasn't gonna be like my father, always be there no matter what. It's not easy, but **** if I have it any other way. For real.
 
My dad and my mom are divorced and he doesn't live with us anymore. He's also a truck driver, so it's not like I see him often anyways.
But when I tell you whatever I need is provided by my dad, under any circumstances. My dad probably does more than most fathers out there. If I need it, he'll find a way. If I want it, he'll find a way.
My dad is honestly the only person on this planet besides my mom that I can say I truly respect as a parent.
 
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Focus on building a strong secure relationship with the woman you choose as the mother of your seed, then you won't have to fight to be in your kids life or not want to be in it, period.
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What if she made that decision for the both of you? My BM made the decision to have a kid all on her own, I was very much against it but her family got in her ear and she TOLD me what she was gonna do, not asked or care about how I felt. I made the choice to **** her but not to have her as the mother of my child. I do everything for my daughter but as long as I'm not with in a relationship with her, she try to call me every name in the book but if I even hint that I would consider getting back with her she will send me motivation quotes every morning with [emoji]128536[/emoji][emoji]128536[/emoji][emoji]128536[/emoji][emoji]128525[/emoji][emoji]128525[/emoji], be reasonable about me keeping her extra days and vice versa, and just not be a ***** overall. I'm not gone play a role just for her to be fair, I got a girl I been with for going on two yrs and her jealousy went into overdrive after that.

She just had another baby with some other dude she had been kicking it with for like 4 months, who she made the decision for as well, and when he straight up dipped on her she tried to run back to me to play step daddy...[emoji]128514[/emoji][emoji]128514[/emoji] ***** please...I know mine is a slightly different case but it's a lot of similar stories out there.
 
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ksteezy said:
Focus on building a strong secure relationship with the woman you choose as the mother of your seed, then you won't have to fight to be in your kids life or not want to be in it, period.
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What if she made that decision for the both of you? My BM made the decision to have a kid all on her own, I was very much against it but her family got in her ear and she TOLD me what she was gonna do, not asked or care about how I felt. I made the choice to **** her but not to have her as the mother of my child. I do everything for my daughter but as long as I'm not with in a relationship with her, she try to call me every name in the book but if I even hint that I would consider getting back with her she will send me motivation quotes every morning with [emoji]128536[/emoji][emoji]128536[/emoji][emoji]128536[/emoji][emoji]128525[/emoji][emoji]128525[/emoji], be reasonable about me keeping her extra days and vice versa, and just not be a ***** overall. I'm not gone play a role just for her to be fair, I got a girl I been with for going on two yrs and her jealousy went into overdrive after that.

She just had another baby with some other dude she had been kicking it with for like 4 months, who she made the decision for as well, and when he straight up dipped on her she tried to run back to me to play step daddy...[emoji]128514[/emoji][emoji]128514[/emoji] ***** please...I know mine is a slightly different case but it's a lot of similar stories out there.
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Wait..so let me get this straight.

She TOLD you she wanted to get pregnant? You were against it, but ****** her without any sort of protection whatsoever while knowing she was trying to get pregnant?

If that's the case you made that decision brah.. she didn't make no decision for both of you.
 
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