Anyone ever go through this kind of drawback? Vol. Growing up is for the birds

a blinkin said:

I've ruined my perception of women and I don't know if there's anything I can do to repair it. I've slept with more than I can recall, and have witnessed some stuff that makes it hard to believe I'll find one that's different. I'm not saying that all women are bad or that all women are evil with the specific intent to lie, cheat, or manipulate. Just saying that the types I attract seem to fit a similar mold. I've been the scumbag guy that's slept with another dude's woman while the guy was serving a tour in the Middle East. I've been the guy that's had a girl over to his place giving me a top and smashing only to have said top and smash sesh be interrupted by her mans calling her phone and HIM apologizing for not believing her when she said she was at her own home. There's so much more. I've done some **** when I was younger that has scarred me in my older days. I lived fast with no concept of what my life would bring me as I got older. Now-a-days all I want is one girl I can love, respect, and trust... Maybe start a family. But I don't deserve that. I'm a scumbag. A savage. Destined to have one failed relationship after another, and a string of random flings with harlots I couldn't care less about.

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SoleByThePound said:

You reap what you sow my man.

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Mangudai954 said:

Analyze what is it about you that attracts or seeks these types of women. Do you have how to identify such women? Who are the ones that you say you want, and differentiates them from the "harlots" you know so well?

Do you have the qualities they are looking for? Can you deal with being in a relationship with them?(Not polluting the relationship with baggage or self sabotage?)

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1. Your Religion (if you have one, if not still cool)
2. Family (family is important bro, everyone can work on these relationships)
3. Charity or Service Work (makes you feel good bro, in your heart)
4. Job (you spend more time at your job than at home, love what you do and excel at it)
5. Everything else (movies, hanging out with friends, etc.) 

a blinkin said:

I don't know how to differentiate between them. I've found that in my experiences, I let a lot of people fall by the wayside before really trying to get to know them. I don't like to put in too much effort I guess, so that's where randoms come into play; quick reward for minimal effort. Like I said, want I want is someone to trust, respect, love, etc. My flawed perception just leaves me not going all in when I meet someone to figure out if they're that kind of person or not.

I do think I have good qualities. Fairly handsome, educated, job, car, no kid, kinda young. I don't know how to handle relationship right now because my perception leads me to thinking the girl may be doing something behind my back.

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