had to create a helpful positive thread for down NTers

[elcatfisho]

I just wanna say that you brah's doing something about your stress, anxiety, worry or whatever it may be is the best thing you can do.

You have to know that you belong to a larger community of people going through a similar feeling despite the situation being different.

Don't ever give up hope, not for one second.

I often feel like i'm drowning in my own problems...literally. I feel as if there's a noose around my neck sometimes. But I have always taken strides to realize that my problems are really all in my mind and that I complicate my situation even more by thinking negatively when we truly live in abundance. The hard part is truly realizing that and that today is not your last day.

Treat everyday as if it's a new life. Work at becoming a better you. There are ways to do this.

I'm a big reader and I just wanna make some recommendations to brah's that have some time to read positive things:

Yes! Attitude by Jeffery Gitomer
What to say when you talk to yourself - Shad helmsetter
Keep calm and carry on - Mark Reinecke
Creative Visualization - Shakti Gawain
the greatest salesman - OG Mandino
The greatest miracle - OG mandino
Mud, Sweat, and tears - Bear Grylls
Step out on nothing - Byron Pitts
Acres of diamonds
the strangest secret - earl nightingale
the magic of believing - Claude Bristol
The silva mind control method

Some of these books are on audio on Youtube, specifcally the strangest secret.

I believe therapy with the right therapist and personal introspection can take you a long way. Also cutting negative influences out of your life definitely helps (t.v. shows, the news, bad family/friends/girlfriend)

Have faith that tomorrow will be better than today and work towards it. Give yourself some breathing room and create the life you want with the cards your dealt. See this life through and suspend expectations of yourself for the time being until your back to speed on things. And never let other dictate your life to you. You are the master and commander of your own ship.

this man here never done did told a lie

 

[andretti]

I just wanna say that you brah's doing something about your stress, anxiety, worry or whatever it may be is the best thing you can do.

You have to know that you belong to a larger community of people going through a similar feeling despite the situation being different.

Don't ever give up hope, not for one second.

I often feel like i'm drowning in my own problems...literally. I feel as if there's a noose around my neck sometimes. But I have always taken strides to realize that my problems are really all in my mind and that I complicate my situation even more by thinking negatively when we truly live in abundance. The hard part is truly realizing that and that today is not your last day.

Treat everyday as if it's a new life. Work at becoming a better you. There are ways to do this.

I'm a big reader and I just wanna make some recommendations to brah's that have some time to read positive things:

Yes! Attitude by Jeffery Gitomer
What to say when you talk to yourself - Shad helmsetter
Keep calm and carry on - Mark Reinecke
Creative Visualization - Shakti Gawain
the greatest salesman - OG Mandino
The greatest miracle - OG mandino
Mud, Sweat, and tears - Bear Grylls
Step out on nothing - Byron Pitts
Acres of diamonds
the strangest secret - earl nightingale
the magic of believing - Claude Bristol
The silva mind control method

Some of these books are on audio on Youtube, specifcally the strangest secret.

I believe therapy with the right therapist and personal introspection can take you a long way. Also cutting negative influences out of your life definitely helps (t.v. shows, the news, bad family/friends/girlfriend)

Have faith that tomorrow will be better than today and work towards it. Give yourself some breathing room and create the life you want with the cards your dealt. See this life through and suspend expectations of yourself for the time being until your back to speed on things. And never let other dictate your life to you. You are the master and commander of your own ship.

this man here never done did told a lie

Couldn't get to you yesterday ,pm still coming

 

[bravelude]

Try to be happy.

 

[bravelude]

I gotta say this.  People troll, talk crap, make senseless comments here sometimes, but I think what people have to remember is that at the end of the day, we are all individuals that face our own challenges.  Brave individuals that come out and talk create awareness on so many levels.  I want to encourage individuals to shift between the troll posts and legitimate ones, especially if applicable.  

I"m sure we've all dealt with challenging times.  Please support one another.  An online community may be an outlet for some.

 

[Roderick Kingsley]

I gotta say this.  People troll, talk crap, make senseless comments here sometimes, but I think what people have to remember is that at the end of the day, we are all individuals that face our own challenges.  Brave individuals that come out and talk create awareness on so many levels.  I want to encourage individuals to shift between the troll posts and legitimate ones, especially if applicable.  

I"m sure we've all dealt with challenging times.  Please support one another.  An online community may be an outlet for some.

I've been called an attention ***** on here for being depressed and suicidal when my grandfather died a few months ago. that's why I stopped confiding in NT. I know I shouldn't let those comments get to me because they don't know my situation, but **** makes me feel alone tbh.

Lots of people refer to NT as a family, but I disagree. Some people ridicule you for your thought process.

 

[elcatfisho]

Happy Sunday NT!

Woke up late this morning, but currently enjoying some Kenyan coffee (no cream or sugar --- the way I like it). Still feel a bit bitter towards myself because of that girl, but again, there are always more girls out there. I don't want to tell this to myself, but I'm doing it anyway. Feeling a bit more positive than I was yesterday. Relationships aren't going to fill that "hole" in my life, so I might as well spend my energy being productive.

You are in control of your emotions. It is completely up to you how you feel about the world and the things around you. Accept whatever it is you're feeling, and maybe try to capture what thoughts you are feeling into a form of writing. I have been keeping post-it notes handy for this purpose.

Gonna get lunch real quick with one of my buddies, then I'm off to work (until 10 pm! ) I'll have some downtime during work, so I'm planning on keeping up work with my writing (for class) and reading this other book on mathematics for personal enrichment. Hoping I can do some intense cardio later, I'm trying to cut weight.

Off topic: Here's a cool picture I took of a New Belgium Trippel beer. It was tasty.View media item 1369493

 

[elcatfisho]

A lot of things still on my mind, but I'm gonna try to sort it out as best as I can. Few errands to run, and then I'm gonna work out HARD today. Decided to quit smoking marijuana indefinitely after starting it as a daily habit two weeks ago. Medical advice suggests it is messing with my medication, I am not sure. I'm on fluoxetine right now. Maybe some NTers have some similar experiences.

All that said, I'm still in it for the long haul. Gonna start browsing more NT threads in the evening, so I can try to contribute in topics other than mental illness lol.

Have a complete Monday, NT. Feel free to reach out and PM! I'm not perfect and neither are you, but talking always passes the time.

-Pat

P.S. If anyone has ever tried Brazilian coffee, Pilao is the ****. Sipping on it real slow

 

[Roderick Kingsley]

Finally made an appointment with a therapist. I feel relieved.

I don't care what my father will think at this point. I just know this is what I need to move on.

 

[SC kid]

I never understood the therapist route.

Youre basically telling someone your problems so they can help you with them?
Or just like venting and trying to find hidden or deeper reasons for being depressed?

Never understood that.

 

[willzway26]

Positive thinking..

 

[willzway26]

I never understood the therapist route.

Youre basically telling someone your problems so they can help you with them?
Or just like venting and trying to find hidden or deeper reasons for being depressed?

Never understood that.

Both

 

[willzway26]

Just wanna say mental health is real and it affects way more people than we think.  There is more going on with the people around us than we might even want to know.  A lot of times people have pent up issues deep within themselves, and unfortunately in this society, there arent a lot of outlets.  All that to say, just be thoughtful of the people you interact with every day.  You dont know what theyre going or been through, so just be mindful of that. 

 

[Roderick Kingsley]

I never understood the therapist route.

Youre basically telling someone your problems so they can help you with them?
Or just like venting and trying to find hidden or deeper reasons for being depressed?

Never understood that.

Both, from an unbiased and non-judgemental point of view.

Lots of people don't have sources of healthy outlets. 

 

[SC kid]

Lots of people don't have sources of healthy outlets. 

Oh yea that is true.

 

[elcatfisho]

Just wanna say mental health is real and it affects way more people than we think.  There is more going on with the people around us than we might even want to know.  A lot of times people have pent up issues deep within themselves, and unfortunately in this society, there arent a lot of outlets.  All that to say, just be thoughtful of the people you interact with every day.  You dont know what theyre going or been through, so just be mindful of that. 

well said

I never understood the therapist route.


Youre basically telling someone your problems so they can help you with them?

Or just like venting and trying to find hidden or deeper reasons for being depressed?


Never understood that.

Both, from an unbiased and non-judgemental point of view.

Lots of people don't have sources of healthy outlets. 

Therapy has helped me (and a lot of other people) resolve a lot of emotional problems you would rather talk about in a safe, non-judgmental environment. Talking about an issue regardless of its severity has an effect of making you feel better when it seems you have talked it out with someone and rationalized the situation in a way that at least one other person can understand. Pain as an emotion is something no one really wants to have alone. It's natural that when something bad happens, you'll react. When you're not really given adequate time or space to experience negative emotions, it makes you internalize that pain and behave in a way to avoid experiencing that pain. Over the years, I've kept in a lot of deeper problems because I was not able to talk about them freely with my parents or close friends. It forced me to feel ashamed of these thoughts, and as a result, I turned to isolation and other obsessive occupations (news reading, video games, etc.) to avoid new interactions with people that would potentially ignite old, painful memories. As a college student, this really isn't the ideal case. Now I'm trying to get out of my comfort zone at least 1-2 a week, by going to either a bar with a few friends, or going to some party a friend knows about.

Psychology as a field doesn't get a lot of respect, but in reality, it has provided me an extensive library for emotions I experience and helps me validate how I feel rather than reject my emotions. When you reject your emotions by not expressing them, that pain has nowhere to go except deeper. For me, I tend to turn inward, ruminate, and diminish my self-worth as a person. Therapy has allowed me to challenge those negative thoughts that have been ingrained in me for years and helped me realize that I'm not the only one who has the same internal message going off in my head when something bad happens to me. Therapists are trained to understand different kinds of people and they have a lot of experience to back it up. I'm rambling now, but point is, therapy is hard work if you make an effort to improve your inner self. That self-esteem workbook I'm reading is providing me a lot of useful information I am trying to learn and adapt to my daily life. But one thing the author says is that his book is meant for learning over a period of 4 months, in order to ensure years of positive living.

Everyone has worth as a living person, regardless of how imperfect you are. Someone will value you for whom you are at a given moment. Just keep living and look forward to that moment, whenever it is.

Hope this helps.

-Pat

 

[elcatfisho]

Today was a struggle to get out of bed and I was late to therapy. I'm continuing trying to think positive and focus on what I need to get done today. Relapsed with smoking weed last night, so I'm going to throw all my stuff away after I'm done writing this post. It's not all or nothing with it, but for now it's just not helping me live a healthy lifestyle. I want to live a long, productive, creative life, and I think I can achieve that by being sober, eating right, and getting lots of exercise.

I'm looking forward to driving out to meet my long-time friend this weekend and watching the Super Bowl with him and his friends. I think it is important to be deliberate in making plans with people, and that is something I want to work on by challenging the hard-wired beliefs that I'm not capable of having friends, that I don't deserve to have friends, that I'm not a good friend, and all those other similar negative thoughts that jump in my brain. I'm learning to tell myself to stop and refocus anytime that happens. But there have been relapses and there will be more to come. After this weekend, I need to challenge myself to find something else to do next weekend around the city. Maybe I'll take some cool pictures and post it in the "Photography" thread here in the General section. The people there have a lot of cool pictures. I hope I can contribute as well.

Started an IG account yesterday, so I'm intrigued to get some connections with it and communicate with pictures! I used to be and still am adverse to social media, but I think I need to learn how to express myself when I really need to. Writing out my thoughts in this thread helps me calm down a bit. I guess this is similar to the "Confessions" thread, but this is more geared towards mental health issues that I don't think a lot of people (including myself) really want to talk about all the time.

Gonna head to work in a couple of hours. Need to do a few errands and practice some self-esteem exercises. I will check back on this thread later tonight if anyone happens to post something. Since creating this thread, I've found myself looking forward to seeing what NT has to say about my thoughts. It is helping me in my own way. What works for me may not work for someone else trying to get by another day.

Have a wonderful day NT, and if you are on the East Coast, I hope you are staying warm.

-Pat

 

[Roderick Kingsley]

Today was a struggle to get out of bed and I was late to therapy. I'm continuing trying to think positive and focus on what I need to get done today. Relapsed with smoking weed last night, so I'm going to throw all my stuff away after I'm done writing this post. It's not all or nothing with it, but for now it's just not helping me live a healthy lifestyle. I want to live a long, productive, creative life, and I think I can achieve that by being sober, eating right, and getting lots of exercise.

I'm looking forward to driving out to meet my long-time friend this weekend and watching the Super Bowl with him and his friends. I think it is important to be deliberate in making plans with people, and that is something I want to work on by challenging the hard-wired beliefs that I'm not capable of having friends, that I don't deserve to have friends, that I'm not a good friend, and all those other similar negative thoughts that jump in my brain. I'm learning to tell myself to stop and refocus anytime that happens. But there have been relapses and there will be more to come. After this weekend, I need to challenge myself to find something else to do next weekend around the city. Maybe I'll take some cool pictures and post it in the "Photography" thread here in the General section. The people there have a lot of cool pictures. I hope I can contribute as well.

Started an IG account yesterday, so I'm intrigued to get some connections with it and communicate with pictures! I used to be and still am adverse to social media, but I think I need to learn how to express myself when I really need to. Writing out my thoughts in this thread helps me calm down a bit. I guess this is similar to the "Confessions" thread, but this is more geared towards mental health issues that I don't think a lot of people (including myself) really want to talk about all the time.

Gonna head to work in a couple of hours. Need to do a few errands and practice some self-esteem exercises. I will check back on this thread later tonight if anyone happens to post something. Since creating this thread, I've found myself looking forward to seeing what NT has to say about my thoughts. It is helping me in my own way. What works for me may not work for someone else trying to get by another day.

Have a wonderful day NT, and if you are on the East Coast, I hope you are staying warm.

-Pat

props. it's VERY VERY important that you hang out with your friends and surround yourself with people who make you happy. when you do, you realize that you're not as worthless or alone as you think you are. please continue doing what you're doing! <3

isolating myself from my friends is ONE of THE biggest mistakes i did that led me to go on a downwards spiral back then. ALWAYS obeying my father & my abusive ex boyfriend were the other mistakes.

my father always told me during that time, "forget your friends. you don't need them, they're just a distraction. don't go out of your dorm room, other than to go to class. you're at school to study, not to make friends and socialize. you should be studying so much that you don't even shower!" and i did that exactly. i know his intentions are good, but his execution of guiding me is TERRIBLE.

my dad would trip balls when i drove 20 minutes to simply go grocery shopping &  he accuses me of doing things i never did (do drugs, "go wild" with partying -- he still does that until this day). i showered once every 4 days, and ate only every other day. i lost so much weight and my skin lost its rosiness because of that. i always rejected my friends' invitations to go out to eat. they lived literally several FEET away from me in my dorm hall and they'd only see me a few times a week because i always locked myself in my room to study, cry, and sleep. in fact, they had to DRAG me out of my dorm room and FORCE me to eat. looking back, i feel like an idiot for doing that to myself. 

my other big mistake was was letting my ex mess with my head. i wish i was strong enough to get out sooner, but i was young. 

looking back at those, i feel like an idiot for hurting myself like that. and honestly, the trauma from everything still hurts. 

 

 

[elcatfisho]

props. it's VERY VERY important that you hang out with your friends and surround yourself with people who make you happy. when you do, you realize that you're not as worthless or alone as you think you are. please continue doing what you're doing!

 

[elcatfisho]

Just another day in the U.S.A.

have a positive day NT! If anyone wants to talk, feel free to PM.

-Pat

 

[spamandsugar]

Great to have support like this on nt. I just lost my job yesterday and don't know what to do really. But I'm not bout to sit and not do ****. I've made up my mind that I'm bout to bounce back and keep it pushing. Stay positive yall!

 

[spamandsugar]

Btw, if anyone knows anyone hiring in the sf Bay Area, please hit me! Thanks

 

[elcatfisho]

Great to have support like this on nt. I just lost my job yesterday and don't know what to do really. But I'm not bout to sit and not do ****. I've made up my mind that I'm bout to bounce back and keep it pushing. Stay positive yall!

hey man that's a tough break. I've never lost a job but it happens to a lot of people.

Take your time and do the best you can.

It's hard to stay positive, but sometimes it's the only thing you can do until something else can lift you up.

 

[elcatfisho]

What's up NT. Weekend is almost here! Man it seems like Monday was just starting. Anyway, I experienced some suicidal thoughts last night. It took a lot of effort to re-center myself and I'm going to try and work on identifying the triggers that make me get to that place where I ruminate about everything.

Looking forward to this weekend. Got some plans, so I think I'm gonna be straight for awhile.

You might be holding your head in your hands wondering why the hell did you do this or that, calling yourself awful things, but don't do that for too long. Trust me I've been there and it's not worth it. Im glad I was able to realize this and I'm not making this up at all.

Going to therapy soon. Drink plenty of water and make sure you exercise today! Have a nice day.

-Pat

 

[Gill Baka Esq. LLC.]

Homie what's your IG?

@watchingtvintheforest

I wanna say props to you and shoryu for having a better handle on your situation. Weed is tricky, I know from my personal experience, and also it's semi part of my religion so I have a weird connection with it. But I always tell people that weed will only enhance the mood your in prior to smoking it. If your in a bad mood going into blazing then your gonna get an enhanced bad mood.

Props to you for recognizing it wasn't helping you and getting back on your game with therapy and with putting yourself out there. Nothing wrong with having a little vulnerability. It's what makes us humans, good one's at that.

1. always try to read/watch something positive in the morning (i.e. funny video, positive quotes app, positive book)
2. Reach out to those who love you and hold you down.
3. Prayer and developing a relationship with something higher than yourself (does not have to be God, can be your higher self/consciousness) can work wonders as well.

 

[elcatfisho]

Homie what's your IG?

@watchingtvintheforest

I wanna say props to you and shoryu for having a better handle on your situation. Weed is tricky, I know from my personal experience, and also it's semi part of my religion so I have a weird connection with it. But I always tell people that weed will only enhance the mood your in prior to smoking it. If your in a bad mood going into blazing then your gonna get an enhanced bad mood.

Props to you for recognizing it wasn't helping you and getting back on your game with therapy and with putting yourself out there. Nothing wrong with having a little vulnerability. It's what makes us humans, good one's at that.

1. always try to read/watch something positive in the morning (i.e. funny video, positive quotes app, positive book)
2. Reach out to those who love you and hold you down.
3. Prayer and developing a relationship with something higher than yourself (does not have to be God, can be your higher self/consciousness) can work wonders as well.

thanks dude! therapy today was a good time. I think I talked out some issues pretty well. Some things aren't going to be resolved right away, and I think some people want a quick fix for everything. Weed was a quick fix for my depression, but I would wake up the next morning feeling depressed.

What I've realized is that talking to people, texting friends, getting out there in society, putting myself back into a vulnerable situation where someone, something, or somewhere might affect my emotions is what I need to change on a daily basis. Isolation does not make you feel better, and I have used the internet a bit too much as an escape from reality. Sometimes you just got to do it and see what happens. Talking to girls, asking for a promotion, getting medical attention, dealing with paperwork, dealing with family, dealing with exams, etc. You just gotta do it and keep moving with life. I'm at the beginning stages of this right now and I'm still scared as **** that I will fail eventually, but I know that these basic things aren't going to decide whether or not I have the right or will to live.

Now i'm aware that I am in control of my emotions, and I am not dependent on other people's opinions of me to live. Everyone has emotions and I can't change the way people feel. It has lessened my anxiety a bit of what I have control over, and I am slowly trying to do that by reaching out to people. For years I've been pretty depressed but I'm starting to do a lot better, and I want to challenge the way I think about people and my thoughts of my own self. It's a lot of work to do, but I am choosing to be positive about it. Time to go face the world!