To the dudes out there that are/were players

6 rings MJ said:

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OH **** HE GOT A GUN!

I always been a player of relationships

And cuz of that, i thibk me and my chick might be havin a girl. Will find out next week

Huh

Karma? Nothing wrong with becoming monogamous. The problem is some men became full on lames. My best friend is no longer the same, he's gone. He moved in with his chick in April. Chick is older and running things. Men get it confused they are being responsible, by catering to the woman. Naaaahhhhh...

I think it hit me when I was going through some personal **** and I needed someone to talk to, but didn't really wanna talk to the homies about my problems. None of the females that I was smashing would have given a damn. In fact, I hit one up and started talking about some of my problems and she tried to make light of it and put a laughing emoticon after what I said and I wanted her to slip in the bath tub and break her nose.

Having multiple women made me feel lonely honestly. It was almost like the me who was gaming them, wasn't really me. I had to be smooth and charming all the time and everything was about getting some. There were no real conversations, just a bunch of calculated responses and witty banter to get the coochie wet. So after conquering a female, there was nothing else there. I never let them spend the night and I was real cold as far as accommodating them.

When I decided to lock in my current gf, I still got calls from other females and one day my gf decided it was time for me to change my phone number. I did. But some of them still hit me up on fb. They would find me and start conversations. I told them the deal and for the most part ignored future messages.

Thinking back, there was only one female that I developed feelings for when I was just smashing, so I distanced myself. She had two kids and I wasn't trying to be anyone's step-dad. She wasn't even the best looking female. She was cute, but nothing too fancy. But her personality and mine clicked. We would have each other dying laughing for hours. In fact her sex was meh, but her personality was so on point. I used to take a viagra or cialus and KILL her all night. I'm talking legendary sessions, but it was almost like I was just putting on a show to stunt, because like I said, the sex was just aight. Last time I hit her up (a while back) it was out of the blue and she asked me why I dissed her. Man, that kind of stung. I told her I was going through some things and she understood.

I'm happier now than I was when I was playing. I have a good woman. She's not perfect and can annoy me sometimes, but overall things are too good for me to **** them up over some side P. I have everything I need and am not trying to be greedy and **** that up.

Gentrification said:

Nothing wrong with becoming monogamous. The problem is some men became full on lames. My best friend is no longer the same, he's gone. He moved in with his chick in April. Chick is older and running things. Men get it confused they are being responsible, by catering to the woman. Naaaahhhhh...

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That's something I learned with age. SET EXPECTATIONS AND BOUNDARIES EARLY! If they don't like it from the jump, it just ain't gonna work. Don't be fake to get your gf. You can do that with a JO, but not someone you want to have a future with, because that fake, super accommodating you that you dated her with, is the you she'll expect to be with forever. Man on the real, I barely budge when it comes to compromising and it may sound wrong, but that's how she met me and that's how she knows me now. I'm not about that "you do what I say or else" life. My gf says I think I'm a king or something and I say you're damn right. Your homey set himself up for failure because at some point he's going to break and the real him is going to come out. I don't even let my girl slide on being short on her half of the rent. NOTHING gets a pass. Not about to set wack standards that are gonna make my life hell.

From the age of 13 to 24, I cheated on every single girlfriend I ever had. Wasnt until I met my wife at 25 when I felt the need to chill.

Maybe it was some sort of psychological issue I had, or maybe I just felt like I was put here on earth to annihilate as many squish mittens as possible.

Either way, I usually stayed with a girlfriend as a teen through my early 20s, but I'd beat countless side joints and after the club joints. Zero guilt.

Solid response Sir San Diego . I definitely understand the idea of feeling alone despite having multiple women in your life. Man, I felt as if the only thing they wanted me for was a good lay since that's what the relationship was based off of. Granted, whe I was younger, it's all I wanted from them as well. But it sucked when I had stuff going on in my life and I couldn't turn to any of them. The sexual gratification was cool, but I always imagined it would be dope to be able to open up and explore the mind of another person as they did the same with me. For a while I was the go to guy for a lot of girls when it came to the physical, but in retrospect we never had real conversations.

I had a great time in my heyday. Like I said, I can fill a book with the **** I've done. But these days I just want something substantial. Luckily I've found someone I can see that happening with. It's almost liberating to have severed ties with the girls I dealt with before. I feel like I have more time for me. The drawback is, of course, I'm having far less sex than I'm accustomed to... But ol' girl seems like she's worth it.

Brolic Scholar said:

I think it hit me when I was going through some personal **** and I needed someone to talk to, but didn't really wanna talk to the homies about my problems. None of the females that I was smashing would have given a damn. In fact, I hit one up and started talking about some of my problems and she tried to make light of it and put a laughing emoticon after what I said and I wanted her to slip in the bath tub and break her nose.

Having multiple women made me feel lonely honestly. It was almost like the me who was gaming them, wasn't really me. I had to be smooth and charming all the time and everything was about getting some. There were no real conversations, just a bunch of calculated responses and witty banter to get the coochie wet. So after conquering a female, there was nothing else there. I never let them spend the night and I was real cold as far as accommodating them.

When I decided to lock in my current gf, I still got calls from other females and one day my gf decided it was time for me to change my phone number. I did. But some of them still hit me up on fb. They would find me and start conversations. I told them the deal and for the most part ignored future messages.

Thinking back, there was only one female that I developed feelings for when I was just smashing, so I distanced myself. She had two kids and I wasn't trying to be anyone's step-dad. She wasn't even the best looking female. She was cute, but nothing too fancy. But her personality and mine clicked. We would have each other dying laughing for hours. In fact her sex was meh, but her personality was so on point. I used to take a viagra or cialus and KILL her all night. I'm talking legendary sessions, but it was almost like I was just putting on a show to stunt, because like I said, the sex was just aight. Last time I hit her up (a while back) it was out of the blue and she asked me why I dissed her. Man, that kind of stung. I told her I was going through some things and she understood.

I'm happier now than I was when I was playing. I have a good woman. She's not perfect and can annoy me sometimes, but overall things are too good for me to **** them up over some side P. I have everything I need and am not trying to be greedy and **** that up.
That's something I learned with age. SET EXPECTATIONS AND BOUNDARIES EARLY! If they don't like it from the jump, it just ain't gonna work. Don't be fake to get your gf. You can do that with a JO, but not someone you want to have a future with, because that fake, super accommodating you that you dated her with, is the you she'll expect to be with forever. Man on the real, I barely budge when it comes to compromising and it may sound wrong, but that's how she met me and that's how she knows me now. I'm not about that "you do what I say or else" life. My gf says I think I'm a king or something and I say you're damn right. Your homey set himself up for failure because at some point he's going to break and the real him is going to come out.

I don't even let my girl slide on being short on her half of the rent. NOTHING gets a pass. Not about to set wack standards that are gonna make my life hell.

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EXACTLY. 100 percent. The truth eventually comes out and it will be too late, when it does. Not hating on his situation, but it wreaks of that... 

dont be a player, just crush a lot

eiddyfouw said:

In for the fabricated stories that are about to arise...

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So you wouldn't believe my rotation of girls last year was 75 deep and I had to cut them all off in order to settle down with the woman of my dreams?

75 seems a bit excessive. Not eem gonna front like I wouldn't be skeptical of someone came in here with that story.

Stop listening to Abel, listen to John Legend fam.

HAWAII 5O said:

They moved on just like I moved on The World doesn't stop spinning.

Yeah sometimes, I reminisce and wanna share my stories and try to fit in with the single guys or players at work/gym... ect.

But then I go home and see my chick and all the things we've accomplished together.

Having a chick waiting for you at home, food made, house cleaned.... ect >>>>>>>>> Forever Alone.

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Were not alone, our time is just too valuable to spend with one set of legs.

Keep those sparklers coming b.

Guzzy said:

Stop listening to Abel, listen to John Legend fam.

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She will just have to appreciate the fact that I choose to be with her instead of going back to the life of savagery.

my brother told me a story...

A couple months ago he said he had been thinking maybe it's time to start looking for a girl and settling down on going out and chasing girls (He's 26). He told me he was driving one day and at a redlight next to him was a really fine girl who waved to him in a really cute/stupid way

At that point he realized he still had some in him

Brolic Scholar said:

I think it hit me when I was going through some personal **** and I needed someone to talk to, but didn't really wanna talk to the homies about my problems. None of the females that I was smashing would have given a damn. In fact, I hit one up and started talking about some of my problems and she tried to make light of it and put a laughing emoticon after what I said and I wanted her to slip in the bath tub and break her nose.

Having multiple women made me feel lonely honestly. It was almost like the me who was gaming them, wasn't really me. I had to be smooth and charming all the time and everything was about getting some. There were no real conversations, just a bunch of calculated responses and witty banter to get the coochie wet. So after conquering a female, there was nothing else there. I never let them spend the night and I was real cold as far as accommodating them.

When I decided to lock in my current gf, I still got calls from other females and one day my gf decided it was time for me to change my phone number. I did. But some of them still hit me up on fb. They would find me and start conversations. I told them the deal and for the most part ignored future messages.

Thinking back, there was only one female that I developed feelings for when I was just smashing, so I distanced myself. She had two kids and I wasn't trying to be anyone's step-dad. She wasn't even the best looking female. She was cute, but nothing too fancy. But her personality and mine clicked. We would have each other dying laughing for hours. In fact her sex was meh, but her personality was so on point. I used to take a viagra or cialus and KILL her all night. I'm talking legendary sessions, but it was almost like I was just putting on a show to stunt, because like I said, the sex was just aight. Last time I hit her up (a while back) it was out of the blue and she asked me why I dissed her. Man, that kind of stung. I told her I was going through some things and she understood.

I'm happier now than I was when I was playing. I have a good woman. She's not perfect and can annoy me sometimes, but overall things are too good for me to **** them up over some side P. I have everything I need and am not trying to be greedy and **** that up.
That's something I learned with age. SET EXPECTATIONS AND BOUNDARIES EARLY! If they don't like it from the jump, it just ain't gonna work. Don't be fake to get your gf. You can do that with a JO, but not someone you want to have a future with, because that fake, super accommodating you that you dated her with, is the you she'll expect to be with forever. Man on the real, I barely budge when it comes to compromising and it may sound wrong, but that's how she met me and that's how she knows me now. I'm not about that "you do what I say or else" life. My gf says I think I'm a king or something and I say you're damn right. Your homey set himself up for failure because at some point he's going to break and the real him is going to come out.

I don't even let my girl slide on being short on her half of the rent. NOTHING gets a pass. Not about to set wack standards that are gonna make my life hell.

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I feel you big time..

im 24 turning 25..I haven't been in a "relationship" since high school....I dont see myself getting into one for a while..I like meeting new girls..young & old

Brolic Scholar said:

I think it hit me when I was going through some personal **** and I needed someone to talk to, but didn't really wanna talk to the homies about my problems. None of the females that I was smashing would have given a damn. In fact, I hit one up and started talking about some of my problems and she tried to make light of it and put a laughing emoticon after what I said and I wanted her to slip in the bath tub and break her nose.

Having multiple women made me feel lonely honestly. It was almost like the me who was gaming them, wasn't really me. I had to be smooth and charming all the time and everything was about getting some. There were no real conversations, just a bunch of calculated responses and witty banter to get the coochie wet. So after conquering a female, there was nothing else there. I never let them spend the night and I was real cold as far as accommodating them.

When I decided to lock in my current gf, I still got calls from other females and one day my gf decided it was time for me to change my phone number. I did. But some of them still hit me up on fb. They would find me and start conversations. I told them the deal and for the most part ignored future messages.

Thinking back, there was only one female that I developed feelings for when I was just smashing, so I distanced myself. She had two kids and I wasn't trying to be anyone's step-dad. She wasn't even the best looking female. She was cute, but nothing too fancy. But her personality and mine clicked. We would have each other dying laughing for hours. In fact her sex was meh, but her personality was so on point. I used to take a viagra or cialus and KILL her all night. I'm talking legendary sessions, but it was almost like I was just putting on a show to stunt, because like I said, the sex was just aight. Last time I hit her up (a while back) it was out of the blue and she asked me why I dissed her. Man, that kind of stung. I told her I was going through some things and she understood.

I'm happier now than I was when I was playing. I have a good woman. She's not perfect and can annoy me sometimes, but overall things are too good for me to **** them up over some side P. I have everything I need and am not trying to be greedy and **** that up.

Gentrification said:

Nothing wrong with becoming monogamous. The problem is some men became full on lames. My best friend is no longer the same, he's gone. He moved in with his chick in April. Chick is older and running things. Men get it confused they are being responsible, by catering to the woman. Naaaahhhhh...

Click to expand...

That's something I learned with age. SET EXPECTATIONS AND BOUNDARIES EARLY! If they don't like it from the jump, it just ain't gonna work. Don't be fake to get your gf. You can do that with a JO, but not someone you want to have a future with, because that fake, super accommodating you that you dated her with, is the you she'll expect to be with forever. Man on the real, I barely budge when it comes to compromising and it may sound wrong, but that's how she met me and that's how she knows me now. I'm not about that "you do what I say or else" life. My gf says I think I'm a king or something and I say you're damn right. Your homey set himself up for failure because at some point he's going to break and the real him is going to come out. I don't even let my girl slide on being short on her half of the rent. NOTHING gets a pass. Not about to set wack standards that are gonna make my life hell.

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Xochitl... is that you?