Originally Posted by krazy88s
Seems like there's different definitions of soft spoken here. Most are seeing it as scared to approach women or having some doubts. Is that the case OP?
Well, it's more so how I speak. I'm not your average alpha male. Basically, I speak proper and don't tend to be loud. In all words, I'm not the "life of the party type" like most males tend to be now a days. So, with me being soft spoken, it becomes a shock because of my stature(6'4") and was told I give an intimidating presence when I walk, so I'm perceived as a "Gentle Giant". Like, I got a lot of stuff going for me now, but just by the things I've been going through, I'm just not even going to worry about these women and lay low on approaching them. I get disappointed everytime I "approach" them and things seem to be going in a decent route, I get the "360 of doom" out of no where. It's always, "I'm soft spoken", "I'm too reserved", "I'm too quiet", "I'm antisocial","My life is too structured/routine" it's just things that i hear that boggles my brain to shreds. What makes this so sad on my part is, I'm learning all of these social turn offs so late in life. It's like, growing up until now, I was so stuck in a box and my mom instilled in my mind that you have to be careful who you mingle around with, but she didn't really let us mingle in the neighborhood, so now I see its caught up with me in the biggest way in regards to social life...SMDH! All these things are being thrown at me and it's tough to handle. I blame myself for having fear of exposing myself to the outside elements by staying in the house all the time. I'm 28 and it appears that I'm what you call a "late bloomer". Now you guys see why I'm a loss cause?Edited by FDUB - 10/9/15 at 9:45pm