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Girlfriend just broke up with me last week. Pain has been unbearable but I have been trying to do my own thing and bring my life back to being just one.
The Solo Dolo Thread: Vol. Cancel That *** Like Nino.
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Those feels when your heart hurts
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Sorry famb. We can say all the right things, but the only thing that's going to make it feel better is the number of times the sun comes up.
All about time. It sucks now, but It sucked even more 4 days ago.... and even more 6 days ago.
I'm all for writing letters to yourself. Really speeds the healing process.
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500 days of summer is one of my all time favorite movies because it helped me get over a bad break up.
Made me see the bad things about the relationship and really recount the full relationship. And not just the smiles hugs and sex.
It will still take time homie. But you will be able to move on and shone with another
Made me see the bad things about the relationship and really recount the full relationship. And not just the smiles hugs and sex.
It will still take time homie. But you will be able to move on and shone with another
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That movie is a fav of mine too. When I first saw it, I was like "yoo that chick is a female dog". Then I saw it years later and I had a different perspective. It made him push himself to get into grind mode and pursue his dream.
Sorry, my man. We've all been there. To be one hundred, I'm a hopeless romantic so it hurts when this happens.
Keep busy. You have time now and plenty of it. Time is a luxury no one can buy. Pursue your interests. Better yourself. Control the factors you can control.
Keep in touch with friends to vent and keep busy. Go out and meet new people.
Keep us updated.
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I appreciate all the support from everyone!
Yeah, I've been doing my own thing and definitely trying to do everything for 1 now.
handullz
I am going to take your word on writing letters. I have been scribbling notes at work and putting everything down in a journal would surely help me.
The worst thing is we were supposed to go to a basketball game on Black Friday but I'm just going to go by myself. Sometimes, it's better that way and I can just be with my thoughts and also to take my mind off of things.
Yeah, I've been doing my own thing and definitely trying to do everything for 1 now.
handullz
I am going to take your word on writing letters. I have been scribbling notes at work and putting everything down in a journal would surely help me.The worst thing is we were supposed to go to a basketball game on Black Friday but I'm just going to go by myself. Sometimes, it's better that way and I can just be with my thoughts and also to take my mind off of things.
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I used to be like this: afraid/embarrassed to do things on my own.
I've embraced it a lot lately and actually prefer it over doing everything with my girl.
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Delete and block her from everything. **** those "hey, how are you?" & "I was thinking about you" text.
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Yep. Already did that to that ****** I was ******* with.
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I dont exactly believe in completely cutting off . permanently. Like we dont have to be friends. But youwere still apart of my life
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With a baby mother/father I get it. Other than that why keep any type of communication open with said person?
Maybe that's just me. I really don't think males and females can be just friends. Slowly though, I'm changing that and trying to be friends with chicks. Why? I've noticed a lot of relationships start off as friends.
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Let's not be mean.
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in my experience, completely cutting someone off after breaking up is the only way for me to healthily move on.
i tried the "i'll always care for you, we can still be friends" thing. we were still smashing when we saw each other. it ended up being a nasty cycle between "i still love you, lets give it another try" and "we are no good for each other, we can't let this continue" and it unnecessarily dragged the relationship longer for years.
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Different types of breakups. If you're truly hurt, no contact is best. Otherwise every simple "hey" will seem like it's back on in your head. You don't have to dismiss it completely, but get you together first. By that point you probably won't even want to.
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Usher said it best... Let that ish burn bruh. A broken relationship that you were previously heavily vested in emotionally is going to have a debilitating impact but ya gotta fight through it. You'll be better for it. Just don't turn cold.
I was always that guy who felt like they would never fall head over heels for a woman. I met my match one day and this female I was catching feelings for suddenly cut off communication with me in favor of some other cat that swooped into the picture. Hell he probably was in the picture the whole time for all I knew. Until this day, when it comes to significant others... love don't live here. Got that ice box where my heart used to be.
Sorry. As a music junkie I use a lot of song and lyric references.
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Bruh I offered that from the gate, but she hit the self-destruct button after her begging *** couldn't accept that I was done. She begged for a solid week and then did everything from threaten to tell the cops I had a gun to actually calling 911 and lying about me assaulting her. F all that keeping in touch.
Then she was on FB slandering me too? A family member asked if I wanted to know what she was saying and I said I'm not interested i knowing. (I don't have FB) So after all of that and me trying to be an adult about our breakup, but getting treated with zero respect, why would I want to be friends or keep in touch? I'm good.
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Funny that you said that because she texted me yesterday and I quote"
"Missed you a lot today. I know I'm not supposed to reach out to you. Please don't respond. Just having a hard time today with our break up. I still love you so much"
BLOCKED. I can't deal with that right now in my life. I have so much going on and it's not just her but also an arrest that happened to me last month as well. Once that happened, everything just crumbled for me. I swear bad luck comes in 3's as well.
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Your strong bro, good stuff.Funny that you said that because she texted me yesterday and I quote"
"Missed you a lot today. I know I'm not supposed to reach out to you. Please don't respond. Just having a hard time today with our break up. I still love you so much"
BLOCKED. I can't deal with that right now in my life. I have so much going on and it's not just her but also an arrest that happened to me last month as well. Once that happened, everything just crumbled for me. I swear bad luck comes in 3's as well.
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I guarantee if u don't talk to her for like a month shes gonna want to get back with u
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@Solemate96 shouldn't give her the time of the day or his long pipe.
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been single for a minute now.
so long to the point that i dont even kno if i can operate within the confines of a relationship.
as it is, i dont much patience for anything but i operate on my own time/agenda so its not THAT big of an issue but once some one else comes into the picture, I would hafta make a MAJOR adjustment. not to mention, i can be selfish with my time.
also, i have reached a point in my life where i hate having to answer to someone. with the exception of a "superior" @ work, i aint really with it. questions like, where are you, who are you with, what are you doing, have become quite irritating.
relationships come with a great deal of weight if you know what im sayin. just hoping to meet that person thats worth carrying that load.
so long to the point that i dont even kno if i can operate within the confines of a relationship.
as it is, i dont much patience for anything but i operate on my own time/agenda so its not THAT big of an issue but once some one else comes into the picture, I would hafta make a MAJOR adjustment. not to mention, i can be selfish with my time.
also, i have reached a point in my life where i hate having to answer to someone. with the exception of a "superior" @ work, i aint really with it. questions like, where are you, who are you with, what are you doing, have become quite irritating.
relationships come with a great deal of weight if you know what im sayin. just hoping to meet that person thats worth carrying that load.
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You say this like it's a bad thing. It's actually good that you've established what you won't waver on. It's part of the process of growing up.been single for a minute now.
so long to the point that i dont even kno if i can operate within the confines of a relationship.
as it is, i dont much patience for anything but i operate on my own time/agenda so its not THAT big of an issue but once some one else comes into the picture, I would hafta make a MAJOR adjustment. not to mention, i can be selfish with my time.
also, i have reached a point in my life where i hate having to answer to someone. with the exception of a "superior" @ work, i aint really with it. questions like, where are you, who are you with, what are you doing, have become quite irritating.
relationships come with a great deal of weight if you know what im sayin. just hoping to meet that person thats worth carrying that load.
Your significant other should add to your life, not take from it or add more stress/worry/drama.
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been single for a minute now.
so long to the point that i dont even kno if i can operate within the confines of a relationship.
as it is, i dont much patience for anything but i operate on my own time/agenda so its not THAT big of an issue but once some one else comes into the picture, I would hafta make a MAJOR adjustment. not to mention, i can be selfish with my time.
also, i have reached a point in my life where i hate having to answer to someone. with the exception of a "superior" @ work, i aint really with it. questions like, where are you, who are you with, what are you doing, have become quite irritating.
relationships come with a great deal of weight if you know what im sayin. just hoping to meet that person thats worth carrying that load.
Right on. I've found that when I just conduct daily routine business as usual activities things seem to fall in place, and by business as usual, I mean just following through with your goals and aspirations while trying be as productive an individual as possible.
This adds to a persons attractiveness, shows ambition and the suitors will come to you through the laws of propinquity alone. I find it better this way when women solicit the first inclination of interest versus men displaying the immediate initial "thirst" that we are known for. When the other person shows initial interest it gives you somewhat more of the leverage in your favor. Crazy it has to be this way but when it comes to protecting your stability, well-being and happiness having leverage or at least a highly influential voice in a situation is necessary.
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Funny that you said that because she texted me yesterday and I quote"
"Missed you a lot today. I know I'm not supposed to reach out to you. Please don't respond. Just having a hard time today with our break up. I still love you so much"
BLOCKED. I can't deal with that right now in my life. I have so much going on and it's not just her but also an arrest that happened to me last month as well. Once that happened, everything just crumbled for me. I swear bad luck comes in 3's as well.
One of my friends gets caught up in this **** all the time with his girl when they have their fall outs/break ups. Gets him every time and I just wonder how he doesn't blatantly see what she's doing.
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I'm single but this chick who I'm feeling and is feeling me still has a dude that she's been with for years. It seems like she's tired of ol boy and wants to play for a new team, but I'm cautious with pursuing her because I don't want to waste time hollering at the next man's chick. Should I try to pursue or let her break up with her dude and Holla at me?