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I should've ended it in August after the first time
The Solo Dolo Thread: Vol. Cancel That *** Like Nino.
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Can't tell if I'm meeting the wrong girls or am too jaded to feel what I used to
I feel that!!!
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"And in conclusion, you're all ugly. I make money."
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Everyone does the same. You just gotta look past the relationship and more importantly the P. I dragged a 6 year relationship for too damn long and nothing to show for it. My last relationship I got smarter and learned to cut **** off before I dug my own grave.
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Just ended it with my gf of 3 years. She couldn't hold a job and even though she would always qualify for unemployment and contribute financially, I'm not trying to live that kind of lifestyle.
I tried to be an adult about the breakup and figure out a way to split amicably, but she kept begging and pleading rather than accepting and figuring out a way to move forward with no drama. So, of course, things got ugly.
I'm done with relationships. Too much stress, time and energy.
I tried to be an adult about the breakup and figure out a way to split amicably, but she kept begging and pleading rather than accepting and figuring out a way to move forward with no drama. So, of course, things got ugly.
I'm done with relationships. Too much stress, time and energy.
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Went through close to the same thing recently.
Its complacency man....they get complacent and some what dependent....lack of work ethic is a killer of ANYONES character in my book.
Its complacency man....they get complacent and some what dependent....lack of work ethic is a killer of ANYONES character in my book.
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The sad part was she always got good jobs and would **** them up by calling out or just having a bad attitude when she was there. She talked all this "partner" stuff, but if we can never move up because you can't pull your weight, then you're not a partner, you're a damn saboteur.
And had the nerve to wanna get engaged and pregnant. When I told her that was off the table a few months ago, things started going downhill.
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I was only dating my girl for 8 months but this already sounds the exact same as my relationship.
my girl graduated with a 4.1 from High school, went to the best college out here. double majored with a 3.9
didnt want to go to school anymore so she didn't go for her masters or law degree like she wanted got complacent in a bank job she hated, was on track for manager but because she was in house already and not coming from the outside they were going to short change like 15k.
she quit, and took a job that pays 5k less than what she was getting. All because the schedule was easier.
We got together right as she was in transition from jobs. so I had no place then to tell her don't.
I was in the middle of possibly moving to a new town, but i decided to stay for her .. she wanted me to get a place closer than where I was moving, but only wanted to contribute 300$ which was not guranteed, Minimum rent here in VA without utilities is 1000 for a place thats decent. i was looking at renting a townhouse, but i didn't need all that space fror myself.
but same thing as you she didn't want to better her situation. she came with the excuse she didnt want to keep jumping jobs... (although she had already been at the bank job for 5 years...) I was like no one is going to look at the job you have now and be like wow you racked up experience.
on top of not wanting to progress for us. she didnt want me to progress. told her i was goign to go back get my masters... she wasn't having it..
Moral of my story (sorry I took away from yours) If she isn't improving your life in anyway then you dont need that. (same goes vice versa also) my girl got way too comfortable and complacent way too easily. and at that point i knew anything over a year wasnt going to be pretty.
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Sir San Diego
Yo wasn't shorty one of the reasons why you were contemplating on staying or leaving to az for that job opportunity? So her out the equation, you gonna snag up that opportunity now?
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Yo wasn't shorty one of the reasons why you were contemplating on staying or leaving to az for that job opportunity? So her out the equation, you gonna snag up that opportunity now?
I was gonna go regardless. I tried considering her feelings but my brother and my cousin that I consider a brother are both stuck because they picked a loser female and stayed with her. They both make decent bread but their women spend like they have an infinite supply. I refuse to be the third of us in that boat.
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It's like we mold each other to destroy. For what? ***** a waste of time. Good move on your part.
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Agree.
Once you sense a little bit of bs from your significant other I think it's time to go. People just try to stick it out too many times to no avail.
But yeah latinas got that crazy in their blood.
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so true
i think as a full-grown adult, you ultimately look for someone who will contribute only positive things to your life -- someone who won't drain you emotionally, mentally, and financially.
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Crazy I really broke up with my chick about a month ago because honestly the long term chemistry just wasn't there to me though she loves me dearly. At the same time I've never been with a chick that understands my moods as much and rides as hard, just did a week in the hospital and she was there 100. My mind can't process why I'm not all in with her.
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Does she keep you interested? Have your past exes been more adventurous/exciting?
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Not so much and she's a bit religious. I feel like I'm too old to be out here looking for adventure again but she doesn't stimulate me. Same time we have cool convos, she doesn't stress me out and is supportive.
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Yall speaking on breaking up with chicks in here meanwhile i aint even talking to no one
Pissed off & lonely af smh
Pissed off & lonely af smh
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Haven't had buns since March
I legit spilled my popcorn from laughing [emoji]128514[/emoji][emoji]128514[/emoji][emoji]128514[/emoji]
"Buns"?
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Yall speaking on breaking up with chicks in here meanwhile i aint even talking to no one
Pissed off & lonely af smh
Just make a tinder/POF or start hoping in chick's mentions and eventually DMs on twitter. Be careful in the DMs though, or you'll be celebrating your son's first birthday a year later.
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It's getting colder. My heart got this warmth. Let me give it to u girl.
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Feel like i tried all that before. Never end up with any chick interesting. I may be too picky
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Keep being picky. Don't settle for whatever unless she's just a smash and go. Even with that don't settle for just anything. Gonna regret smashing them beast.
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Yall speaking on breaking up with chicks in here meanwhile i aint even talking to no one
Pissed off & lonely af smh
I think that's one of the great things about the ladies.
They innately dissipate that negative energy that can arise from testosterone.
You gotta get out there and spit, my g.
Be real. How many ladies have told you "no" in the past 3 months? If the answer isn't over ten, you're not out here trying to get it.
I was struggling like you... But I had to make sure I had my **** in line first. You not gonna get chicks off GP unless you handsome or they just really feeling you... And we really aint got time to be waiting on these yambs to make the first move.
Get told "no" a few times... Practice makes perfect, and the more you fail, the better you know how to navigate the initial conversation w/ the yambs.
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Hell yea. Yepppp.
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That's one thing you really need before going after most females, your **** together.