Ever been in a relationship with someone with a mental health issue?

I pretty much come to the conclusion they all got mental issues of some sort.

Just depends on what degree of crazy is acceptable and tolerable to you

My girl has anxiety.

Tough to deal with sometimes, but it's definitely not the worst I could have ended up with.

DonRe said:

Seems like every girl I ever dated. **** don't they all have those traits on occasions.

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You should probably pay closer attention to people's behavior.

Women

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Nothing too severe but my girl has hella allergies:

Allergic to gluten
Lactose intolerant
Allergic to shellfish

It's a very limited number of items that she can eat when wet go out.
I get all the bread though

See maybe I'm wrong or wired different but the crazy girlfriends I have I loved or thought I did, but when all that crazy **** seemed like it would never end or was overwhelming I had to cut it off.

How can I give the my best to someone if they are mentally and emotionally and even physically draining me, leaving me to deal with all these things that make me a shell of myself.

Hence, the question of did I ever love them like that? People tend to lose the instinctual trait of self-preservation when In a relationship, which is counter-intuitive.

take if from me brethren, if you know going in they have a mental health issues, tread carefully cause it affects people differently. If **** starts to go south, cut it off or itll ruin your life. people with mental issues dont think rationally as much as you or i, they generally have low self esteem and they can be very manipulative as they do not understand how their actions affect other people. i did not know the extent of her mental issues when i first met her as she was on her meds at the time and was very loving and caring but i should have known better when she started sharing almost right away all the terrible things men in her life have done to her but i loved her and wanted to change things for her. she broke it off cause she said i deserved better and someone who could give me as much as i could give them. It was really hard to deal with but she was right because i was the only one putting in effort to make things work and it was draining me and affecting every aspect of my life trying to be there for her and trying to take care of all of her problems cause she stopped taking her meds and couldnt function. a few months after she went back to her ex..who is the father of her kids and who had treated her like **** and i knew it wasnt going to end well with him but wanted to get bavk together "for the kids"...same **** started happening again and she eventually tried to take her own life and ended up in a mental institution for two months and the judge let her out to take care of her kids provided she take her meds and get professional help. since that day we still talk because i know she needs good people around her, but she isnt the same. they should have never let her out because she came out worse than she came in. she doesnt take care of her kids,she always lieing to people, started doing drugs, child services trying to get her on the straight and narrow but she still doing the same **** and she dragging her kids through **** relationships and blaming everybody else for her problems.bipolar is a terrible ******* thing cause its just an endless cycle of depression and sadness and hurt for everyone involved.

friscostylez said:

jw how old are you two?

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32 years old. That's the concerning thing, at this age, it's hard to say that there would be a chance to overcome this. 

StanFan said:

I've been there man, I should have gotten out of there way before I actually did but I was blinded by how I felt about her and how I felt she could be if she got it all straightened out.
It isn't your responsibility to fix her, that's what I thought but by the end I was so emotionally drained I couldn't even begin to think where to start.
If you already feel yourself starting to lose your self and vision then it's time to leave.

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Yea 100% it isn't the responsibility of the partner to fix. It take a lot of balls to look at someone you cared about who has severe issues and say to yourself "you are a lost cause, you're hopeless with me and I wish you the best." 

Caliphthegiant said:

You'd be surprised how many people you engage with daily who have some form of a mental health issue. The stigma keeps most from talking about it, but it's way more common than you think. I've dated women with mental health issues, and as long as they stay medicated, all is well. You have to be their accountability buddy to keep them from stopping medication when they feel they are doing well.

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Yeah, especially in this day and age where a lot of children experience trauma, abondment, and lack of affection in broken households growing up. These factors during the formative years seem to play a huge role in sense of self. I admittedly am a bit of a Narcissist, I think a lot of us are on NT to be honest, and part of my narcissiscm stems from a lack of affection growing up, which has manifested into an obsessive work ethic which has worked for me, but a never ending desire for perfection because I never felt satisfied/loved through my childhood. The more broken down families we see, the more people will grow up with personality disorders. 

paulprince3730 said:

 
sounds fake, like you read a book of someones life living with bpd for your term paper so you know a little more than the average bear

and youre passing the original authors experiences off as your own

in turn trollin NT

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I wish it was fake man, I really do. I wish I didn't meet someone who I'd spend an entire day with, be intimate at night, and then wake up at 3 AM in the morning with her suicidal/crying with no warning. I wish I didn't have to make sense of a perforated septum due to years of cocaine abuse. I wish I didn't fall in love with someone who would be good one moment and crazy the next, with no empathy or self awareness at all. I wish I wasn't dealing with a girl who is impulsive, acts out, and could leave and runaway from her problems in a second, much like she has her whole life.  I'm making this thread because I'm tryng to cope with my own experience and move on. 

lamekilla said:

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Nah. I mean we all have our issues don't get me wrong. Admittedly, has probably most on NT are, we are all a bit of narcissists. It takes a unique person to own 20+ pairs of shoes worth over $5k. But a lot of us can manage it, or are self aware. I can function on a day to day with my narcissm, and generally navigate through life with it. There are levels and extremes to it.

I've dated relatively "normal," balanced women my whole life, who are self aware, well adjusted, and have a healthy amount of confidence. I didn't get the high/lows I got with this crazy, more of a smooth transition, and the breakups were always rationale and easy. This woman is different.

Some people are crippled by it, like this girl. It sucks when you get caught up in it. 

DonRe said:

Seems like every girl I ever dated. **** don't they all have those traits on occasions.

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I now right

smh