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Originally Posted by Josednk1068
Silly not even going to quote because that was a whole lot of nothing. What I am saying is this, yes you can ask anyone for input on something. How valid is it if you have never been in that situation or even close to it?
I mean to each their own but like I said...that 10+g's on doing a normal wedding in your home state...and i'm being very conservative with that price i'd rather go to hawaii and like I said...PAY for my peoples plane tickets out there and most likely accommodation and do a nice wedding on a beach or something of the sort and enjoy something new. You want to keep it simple but oversimplification never gets remembered it embraces regret.Originally Posted by kdawg
I hate it. If you want to have a day when you can invite friends to enjoy it with you you need to make sure that it's accessible - not having a stupid theme that makes them buy an outfit (that they maybe can't afford) or go somewhere a million miles away. Keep it simple.Originally Posted by GrimlocK
I like this...spend money on a small destination wedding...pay for the flight of those you really want to attend...let the rest figure it out.Originally Posted by SoleWoman
destination wedding...invite everyone. those who can show...coo if they cant. oh well
If your gonna have a wedding, atleast have one you'll remember.
You know what?Originally Posted by GrimlocK
Silly shut the hell up son...you think your gonna just swoop in a change decades of doing things a certain way...weddings, religion, discourses between man and woman
good luck buddy...sad to say that the world we live in right now wasn't meant for you...time to hop in that dolorean and head to the future...but guys like you will always find something to pick on...it's just part of your nature.
Originally Posted by Grizzlyboy
I got married Feb 2011. PLEASE LISTEN TO ME!
If you do not set the tone of your marriage now, you can forget about it.
Women have no sense of saving, money, long-term. They want it now. It is your job to be the MAN and set boundaries.
I expressed to my wife that she has a budget. That was it. Anything over I canceled. Write the checks yourself and look at receipts.
I figured you would pull that card out...your predictable and one-dimensional at best hommie...your like that poster who raps all his postsOriginally Posted by sillyputty
You know what?Originally Posted by GrimlocK
Silly shut the hell up son...you think your gonna just swoop in a change decades of doing things a certain way...weddings, religion, discourses between man and woman
good luck buddy...sad to say that the world we live in right now wasn't meant for you...time to hop in that dolorean and head to the future...but guys like you will always find something to pick on...it's just part of your nature.
Yeah... I do actually.
You're damn right I think I can.
OP is a man who loves his woman enough to want to spend the rest of his life with her, but yet struggles with upholding the ridiculously high and equally pointless standard set before him of providing a wedding and all the accoutrements.
I wasn't aware that finding faults with the system at large and seeking to enact your own changes and improvements the way you see fit, was a problem.
Once again, you all clearly have a problem with the status quo; you just dont have the fortitude to address it.
Stand aside and keep drinking the kool-aid of "standards" and "expectations" while I will do things that I can actually justify beyond the utterly vapid explanations of "tradition" and "its just what we've always done"
According to you, we should go back to stoning non-virgins, having arranged marriages, making our wives come with dowries, force men with property only to marry, and prevent women from working outside of the home. Remember, its not a good idea to change how we USED to do things.
You know whats funny? Yesterday you asked me a basic biology question about evolution a high schooler would have been able to answer but yet I used the kid gloves on you and used it as a teaching moment.
...NOW you want to deride me for trying to address certain strains on the inefficiency of society.
http://niketalk.com/topic/325170
The irony.
Go read a science book first before you comment on anything else.
Originally Posted by Big J 33
Originally Posted by Grizzlyboy
I got married Feb 2011. PLEASE LISTEN TO ME!
If you do not set the tone of your marriage now, you can forget about it.
Women have no sense of saving, money, long-term. They want it now. It is your job to be the MAN and set boundaries.
I expressed to my wife that she has a budget. That was it. Anything over I canceled. Write the checks yourself and look at receipts.
What an outrageously ignorant statement.
Originally Posted by GrimlocK
I figured you would pull that card out...your predictable and one-dimensional at best hommie...your like that poster who raps all his postsOriginally Posted by sillyputty
You know what?Originally Posted by GrimlocK
Silly shut the hell up son...you think your gonna just swoop in a change decades of doing things a certain way...weddings, religion, discourses between man and woman
good luck buddy...sad to say that the world we live in right now wasn't meant for you...time to hop in that dolorean and head to the future...but guys like you will always find something to pick on...it's just part of your nature.
Yeah... I do actually.
You're damn right I think I can.
OP is a man who loves his woman enough to want to spend the rest of his life with her, but yet struggles with upholding the ridiculously high and equally pointless standard set before him of providing a wedding and all the accoutrements.
I wasn't aware that finding faults with the system at large and seeking to enact your own changes and improvements the way you see fit, was a problem.
Once again, you all clearly have a problem with the status quo; you just dont have the fortitude to address it.
Stand aside and keep drinking the kool-aid of "standards" and "expectations" while I will do things that I can actually justify beyond the utterly vapid explanations of "tradition" and "its just what we've always done"
According to you, we should go back to stoning non-virgins, having arranged marriages, making our wives come with dowries, force men with property only to marry, and prevent women from working outside of the home. Remember, its not a good idea to change how we USED to do things.
You know whats funny? Yesterday you asked me a basic biology question about evolution a high schooler would have been able to answer but yet I used the kid gloves on you and used it as a teaching moment.
...NOW you want to deride me for trying to address certain strains on the inefficiency of society.
http://niketalk.com/topic/325170
The irony.
Go read a science book first before you comment on anything else.
I have a problem with many things about our society and I do take up arms for them but this is marriage....if OP can't compromise with his s.o. and come up with a plan that appeases the both of them how in gods () name are you gonna do anything for him besides for a separation between them. Dude your a snake in disguise, you try and "help" others but you don't really...you force your opinion on them.
In the end your not gonna accomplish a damb thing sitting behind the computer and spitting out new school rhetoric. You add nothing to the content of NT besides bashing on religion...nothing...but thanks for the reply in that thread though.
Now let me let silly try and make a rebuttal to which i'll probably not respond too because in my head I already won...check and mate. Get mad son
OP I feel you when you say you don't understand the need for a big wedding...but like I said before it's about communication and compromise...don't let an issue like this undermine the years of developing a relationship with someone...I've seen first hand relationships crumble due to weddings. I'm not saying do everything her way but make her understand where your coming from. If she can't then you have to readjust where you stand with this girl and if it's even worth getting mad over. Silly is partially right when he says that women fantasize about this day for a long time....step into those shoes and understand that even though their expectations are almost far-fetched sometimes and they get unruly for this kinda thing...is this the only time she's really getting outta hand? If so then your still a lucky dude...and if you don't have the type of money to get her to his dream wedding...do your best with what you have...can't be mad at yourself for that. She should know she has to shell out her share as well.
Like grizzly said set boundaries...it's necessary but if she's been a great girl to you don't just !%%$ on her parade...let her know where you stand with the money you have and what you can do with it that you feel comfortable doing.
Like another poster said before me...a lot of these pseudo alpha's are gonna tell you to put your foot down on everything but if you get outta hand with it, she will bring this !%%$ back up after your married blee dat.
thats too dope...good for you man.Originally Posted by illphillip
When you love someone, [color= rgb(255, 0, 0)]you compromise.[/color] THAT is something that someone who hasn't really been in a strong relationship might not understand.
(Keep that in mind when you're taking advice about relationships and marriage from SillyPutty on a message board who hasn't even told you they have a girlfriend/boyfriend and might be sitting alone in his/her bedroom with a Nasa-style setup of 9 computer screens and 1 enormous box of Kleenex).
But SHE paid for it. My wife wouldn't even accept any money from me for it. She knew she was putting together what SHE wanted. And wasn't trying to project that onto me or force me into anything.
I used some connections to keep costs down on DJ and few other things. I paid for the honeymoon.
50 guest destination wedding. Close friends and family. Inviting every co-worker, everyone you went to college or high school with etc. is just ridiculous. Think of how many people you were close to once that you barely see anymore. Why invite all those types to your wedding?
Honestly, I had a blast. And I didn't expect to.
To this day everyone calls it "just one big %%$@#%! party".
GrimlocK wrote:
illphillip wrote:
When you love someone, you compromise. THAT is something that someone who hasn't really been in a strong relationship might not understand.
(Keep that in mind when you're taking advice about relationships and marriage from SillyPutty on a message board who hasn't even told you they have a girlfriend/boyfriend and might be sitting alone in his/her bedroom with a Nasa-style setup of 9 computer screens and 1 enormous box of Kleenex).
But SHE paid for it. My wife wouldn't even accept any money from me for it. She knew she was putting together what SHE wanted. And wasn't trying to project that onto me or force me into anything.
I used some connections to keep costs down on DJ and few other things. I paid for the honeymoon.
50 guest destination wedding. Close friends and family. Inviting every co-worker, everyone you went to college or high school with etc. is just ridiculous. Think of how many people you were close to once that you barely see anymore. Why invite all those types to your wedding?
Honestly, I had a blast. And I didn't expect to.
To this day everyone calls it "just one big %%$@#%! party".
thats too dope...good for you man.
Originally Posted by illphillip
Thank you sir.
What I did there...you seent it! And here I am thinking I'm being subtle......HA!
Do either of you actually make points and address the central topic OR do you all find solace in making personal jokes, of which neither of you can substantiate anything you've said?
EDIT:
Again, i can't imagine you all trading goats for your wives or traditionally kidnapping them and forcing them to marry you which are both very real things people STILL do...so why go through the pain of plopping down a bunch of dough just so other people know how much you love someone?
Its funny how you all treat someone who just does not understand WHY you do the things you do...and when you ask why, they start calling you names and getting defensive.
Thus the system reinforces itself. You're doing the bidding of the very bridal shows and industries you've grown to loathe.
Originally Posted by toast1985
If I could add my two sense/ cents, keep it personal and practical. We have to focus on this bachelor party.
thats too dope...good for you man.Originally Posted by sillyputty
GrimlocK wrote:
illphillip wrote:
When you love someone, you compromise. THAT is something that someone who hasn't really been in a strong relationship might not understand.
(Keep that in mind when you're taking advice about relationships and marriage from SillyPutty on a message board who hasn't even told you they have a girlfriend/boyfriend and might be sitting alone in his/her bedroom with a Nasa-style setup of 9 computer screens and 1 enormous box of Kleenex).
But SHE paid for it. My wife wouldn't even accept any money from me for it. She knew she was putting together what SHE wanted. And wasn't trying to project that onto me or force me into anything.
I used some connections to keep costs down on DJ and few other things. I paid for the honeymoon.
50 guest destination wedding. Close friends and family. Inviting every co-worker, everyone you went to college or high school with etc. is just ridiculous. Think of how many people you were close to once that you barely see anymore. Why invite all those types to your wedding?
Honestly, I had a blast. And I didn't expect to.
To this day everyone calls it "just one big %%$@#%! party".
Originally Posted by illphillip
Thank you sir.
What I did there...you seent it! And here I am thinking I'm being subtle......HA!
Originally Posted by SoleWoman
destination wedding...invite everyone. those who can show...coo if they cant. oh well
Originally Posted by illphillip
One thing I forgot to mention before. I talked to a lot of cats right before I got married.
One thing I was always amazed by is the fact that many couple can seem so happy for so long, just to have their marriages end in divorce.
How are you dating for 10 years, but married for 2? My now wife and I were always happy as a couple. So I wondered what it was about marriage that derails things.
Obviously children can complicate things. Or any number of other issues. But my boy made a great point.
So many people spend so much money that they don't have on their wedding, that they are now starting this new phase of their lives together in DEBT. And that can certainly complicate things.
Don't be that guy/girl.