Sir San Diego
formerly brolic scholar
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The homie just put me onto game and without saying too much, I'll say this, in my experience it is true. With no further ado, may I present to you the 20/30 Rule of Women In Relationships.
Women in relationships (marriages or otherwise) who are not happy will NEVER be happy because they are looking for a man that does not exist.
If you put a panel of women together who are all in realtionships and asked them to write a list of 30 things that make the ideal man and asked them to describe the man they're with by checking off all the things on that list that apply to their own man, they would only check off about 20 of the items listed. The best man you know MAY only fit about 24 of those characteristics, which means no man can ever fill thay list completely.
Here is where cheating comes in for women. When they creep and YES men, they creep more often and with more stealth than you can even comprehend, they go out to find a man who can meet NOT 30 of those characteristics, but only the 6 to 10 that their man can't provide.
There's a few things to take from this, but I'll share with you two:
1. A man who is filling the 6-10 slot will never be able to make that woman happy on a long term basis because she will always be looking for an idealistic version of a man who can make her "happy".
2. If you try to step your side/JO role up into the full-time slot you not only have to provide what her last man provided (financially, emotionally, etc.), you have to step your game up at least 3 times, but more than likely four times (4 x 6 = 24) and guess what? You're still not that dude she really wants. Oh, you'll fill the slot for a while, but sooner or later, she'll be out looking for someone to make up for your 6-10 short comings.
Take that and run with it men. Oh yeah, discuss...
Women in relationships (marriages or otherwise) who are not happy will NEVER be happy because they are looking for a man that does not exist.
If you put a panel of women together who are all in realtionships and asked them to write a list of 30 things that make the ideal man and asked them to describe the man they're with by checking off all the things on that list that apply to their own man, they would only check off about 20 of the items listed. The best man you know MAY only fit about 24 of those characteristics, which means no man can ever fill thay list completely.
Here is where cheating comes in for women. When they creep and YES men, they creep more often and with more stealth than you can even comprehend, they go out to find a man who can meet NOT 30 of those characteristics, but only the 6 to 10 that their man can't provide.
There's a few things to take from this, but I'll share with you two:
1. A man who is filling the 6-10 slot will never be able to make that woman happy on a long term basis because she will always be looking for an idealistic version of a man who can make her "happy".
2. If you try to step your side/JO role up into the full-time slot you not only have to provide what her last man provided (financially, emotionally, etc.), you have to step your game up at least 3 times, but more than likely four times (4 x 6 = 24) and guess what? You're still not that dude she really wants. Oh, you'll fill the slot for a while, but sooner or later, she'll be out looking for someone to make up for your 6-10 short comings.
Take that and run with it men. Oh yeah, discuss...
