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Originally Posted by KenJi714
Originally Posted by whywesteppin
Didn't know you rolled like that, ska. You free this weekend? I'm an arrogant jerk.
There are NO benefits for men to get married.
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@Andrea
1. How is your relationship of 5 years? Are you happy or comfortable? Do you have enough faith in yourself and him (as a man) to think that you two could take this to the next step?
2. If not ^, are you willing to just being "together" for the rest of your lives and not get married?
1. How is your relationship of 5 years? Are you happy or comfortable? Do you have enough faith in yourself and him (as a man) to think that you two could take this to the next step?
2. If not ^, are you willing to just being "together" for the rest of your lives and not get married?
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@Andrea
1. How is your relationship of 5 years? Are you happy or comfortable? Do you have enough faith in yourself and him (as a man) to think that you two could take this to the next step?
2. If not ^, are you willing to just being "together" for the rest of your lives and not get married?
1. How is your relationship of 5 years? Are you happy or comfortable? Do you have enough faith in yourself and him (as a man) to think that you two could take this to the next step?
2. If not ^, are you willing to just being "together" for the rest of your lives and not get married?
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I am happy and I think that everyone who gets married is happy but yet there is such a high divorce rate... so its still would be a decision based on hope.... I think he wants to get married and have a family down the line... I'm not married yet so I think its a decision i have to make for myself. We are no where near making that type of commitment to each other... so we dont talk about it much.
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I am happy and I think that everyone who gets married is happy but yet there is such a high divorce rate... so its still would be a decision based on hope.... I think he wants to get married and have a family down the line... I'm not married yet so I think its a decision i have to make for myself. We are no where near making that type of commitment to each other... so we dont talk about it much.
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One of the reasons I think some of you have such a distaste of marriage is maybe because your parents are divorced. What about the marriages that do work out? There are some good marriages out there. Example, my parents and many other marriages I have seen in my community.
Like I said, maybe it is a cultural thing, because in my culture, marriage is serious business. At times, I do think it is too much when in fact divorces are needed. So LDJ, yes people in my culture do take marriage literally to remain together forever. By the way, I am not religious, I am agnostic. So if I want to get married, it is for beneficial reasons and to get rewards from the state. But back to religion, culture, and marriage.
For example, my cousin that married some distant relative of hers (yes, I know *barf* but it is culturally and socially acceptable in some cultures unfortunately) that moved from Jordan to Saudi Arabia to be with him. Remember that in Saudi Arabia there are barely any civil rights for women. This husband of hers would beat her while she was pregnant and even knocked her face, put it on the floor, and put his foot of her face to hold her down. Her nose was bleeding and remember that she was pregnant.
So at times she has been wanting to leave him due to his controlling,possessive and abusive behavior, her parents went against it. What did my aunt say? Oh, well, who will want to marry her again if she becomes divorced, what will people say about her and us? -_- Disgusting. They are worried more about the stigma and reputation of their daughter being divorced rather than her being abused and her well-being. But then again, over there in those countries, the woman is heavily dependent on the husband for finances. He is the breadwinner. Plus, if a divorce happens, most of the time the state gives the child to the FATHER, for custody, not the mom.
Like I said, maybe it is a cultural thing, because in my culture, marriage is serious business. At times, I do think it is too much when in fact divorces are needed. So LDJ, yes people in my culture do take marriage literally to remain together forever. By the way, I am not religious, I am agnostic. So if I want to get married, it is for beneficial reasons and to get rewards from the state. But back to religion, culture, and marriage.
For example, my cousin that married some distant relative of hers (yes, I know *barf* but it is culturally and socially acceptable in some cultures unfortunately) that moved from Jordan to Saudi Arabia to be with him. Remember that in Saudi Arabia there are barely any civil rights for women. This husband of hers would beat her while she was pregnant and even knocked her face, put it on the floor, and put his foot of her face to hold her down. Her nose was bleeding and remember that she was pregnant.
So at times she has been wanting to leave him due to his controlling,possessive and abusive behavior, her parents went against it. What did my aunt say? Oh, well, who will want to marry her again if she becomes divorced, what will people say about her and us? -_- Disgusting. They are worried more about the stigma and reputation of their daughter being divorced rather than her being abused and her well-being. But then again, over there in those countries, the woman is heavily dependent on the husband for finances. He is the breadwinner. Plus, if a divorce happens, most of the time the state gives the child to the FATHER, for custody, not the mom.
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One of the reasons I think some of you have such a distaste of marriage is maybe because your parents are divorced. What about the marriages that do work out? There are some good marriages out there. Example, my parents and many other marriages I have seen in my community.
Like I said, maybe it is a cultural thing, because in my culture, marriage is serious business. At times, I do think it is too much when in fact divorces are needed. So LDJ, yes people in my culture do take marriage literally to remain together forever. By the way, I am not religious, I am agnostic. So if I want to get married, it is for beneficial reasons and to get rewards from the state. But back to religion, culture, and marriage.
For example, my cousin that married some distant relative of hers (yes, I know *barf* but it is culturally and socially acceptable in some cultures unfortunately) that moved from Jordan to Saudi Arabia to be with him. Remember that in Saudi Arabia there are barely any civil rights for women. This husband of hers would beat her while she was pregnant and even knocked her face, put it on the floor, and put his foot of her face to hold her down. Her nose was bleeding and remember that she was pregnant.
So at times she has been wanting to leave him due to his controlling,possessive and abusive behavior, her parents went against it. What did my aunt say? Oh, well, who will want to marry her again if she becomes divorced, what will people say about her and us? -_- Disgusting. They are worried more about the stigma and reputation of their daughter being divorced rather than her being abused and her well-being. But then again, over there in those countries, the woman is heavily dependent on the husband for finances. He is the breadwinner. Plus, if a divorce happens, most of the time the state gives the child to the FATHER, for custody, not the mom.
Like I said, maybe it is a cultural thing, because in my culture, marriage is serious business. At times, I do think it is too much when in fact divorces are needed. So LDJ, yes people in my culture do take marriage literally to remain together forever. By the way, I am not religious, I am agnostic. So if I want to get married, it is for beneficial reasons and to get rewards from the state. But back to religion, culture, and marriage.
For example, my cousin that married some distant relative of hers (yes, I know *barf* but it is culturally and socially acceptable in some cultures unfortunately) that moved from Jordan to Saudi Arabia to be with him. Remember that in Saudi Arabia there are barely any civil rights for women. This husband of hers would beat her while she was pregnant and even knocked her face, put it on the floor, and put his foot of her face to hold her down. Her nose was bleeding and remember that she was pregnant.
So at times she has been wanting to leave him due to his controlling,possessive and abusive behavior, her parents went against it. What did my aunt say? Oh, well, who will want to marry her again if she becomes divorced, what will people say about her and us? -_- Disgusting. They are worried more about the stigma and reputation of their daughter being divorced rather than her being abused and her well-being. But then again, over there in those countries, the woman is heavily dependent on the husband for finances. He is the breadwinner. Plus, if a divorce happens, most of the time the state gives the child to the FATHER, for custody, not the mom.
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For those in here that aren't married, ya'll have to stop letting fear or other people's failures dictate your life and your life decisions. Not just with the concept of marriage but just any aspect of life in general.
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For those in here that aren't married, ya'll have to stop letting fear or other people's failures dictate your life and your life decisions. Not just with the concept of marriage but just any aspect of life in general.
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anyone else here engaged besides me? ...
lotta future george clooney's in here, haha jk. everyone has their own view and opinion on things and will act accordingly, marriage is no different. if it's not for you then don't do it, if it is actually something you wanna get into then go for it. simple as that
lotta future george clooney's in here, haha jk. everyone has their own view and opinion on things and will act accordingly, marriage is no different. if it's not for you then don't do it, if it is actually something you wanna get into then go for it. simple as that
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anyone else here engaged besides me? ...
lotta future george clooney's in here, haha jk. everyone has their own view and opinion on things and will act accordingly, marriage is no different. if it's not for you then don't do it, if it is actually something you wanna get into then go for it. simple as that
lotta future george clooney's in here, haha jk. everyone has their own view and opinion on things and will act accordingly, marriage is no different. if it's not for you then don't do it, if it is actually something you wanna get into then go for it. simple as that
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I can respect this.
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I can respect this.
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How is a pre-nup a sign that you expect the marriage to fail? I have life insurance but I don't expect to get shot in the head tomorrow
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How is a pre-nup a sign that you expect the marriage to fail? I have life insurance but I don't expect to get shot in the head tomorrow
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With or without children? Looking on the outside in I think husbands seem happier without children.
Anyway Partnership, unless you have genuinely experienced it you won't understand how imperative an authentically solid partnership is.
Anyway Partnership, unless you have genuinely experienced it you won't understand how imperative an authentically solid partnership is.
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With or without children? Looking on the outside in I think husbands seem happier without children.
Anyway Partnership, unless you have genuinely experienced it you won't understand how imperative an authentically solid partnership is.
Anyway Partnership, unless you have genuinely experienced it you won't understand how imperative an authentically solid partnership is.
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We might want to start adopting this format here in the USA.
What for? Can a father breast feed an infant? Babies and children need there mothers. It's like that in the animal kingdom. The reason why fathers would get custody and not the mothers in that kind of culture is because it's laced with property.
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We might want to start adopting this format here in the USA.
What for? Can a father breast feed an infant? Babies and children need there mothers. It's like that in the animal kingdom. The reason why fathers would get custody and not the mothers in that kind of culture is because it's laced with property.
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We might want to start adopting this format here in the USA.
MANY mothers a extremely incompetent, we don't necessarily need to adopt this format but the system needs to be a little more fair about who they assign custody to.
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We might want to start adopting this format here in the USA.
MANY mothers a extremely incompetent, we don't necessarily need to adopt this format but the system needs to be a little more fair about who they assign custody to.
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Don't even get me started on this subject. Courts have raped me as a father you have no rights.
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Don't even get me started on this subject. Courts have raped me as a father you have no rights.
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If its not too much to type I would like to hear what happened.
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If its not too much to type I would like to hear what happened.
