iiceman83
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Death is not the end. Religious or not, eventually you will come to realize what an essence, spirit and soul is.....
The separation of self and infinity....
Journaling/Life Review/Making Amends
Onceyou have come to accept your upcoming death, you may want to begin alife review or journaling process in order to get your thoughts out onpaper or to share your history with family for future generations.You may also wish to repair broken relationships or resolve previousconflicts. This process may include contacting people that you may havehurt in some way, whether by words or actions. You may feel the need toresolve issues, as a way of tying up "loose ends." Many dying peoplefeel that it is time to put affairs in order and enjoy relationshipsduring the time that is remaining.
Saying Goodbyes
In addition to repairingbroken relationships or making amends, it is also a time to say goodbyeto family members and friends. This can be done verbally or by writingspecial letters to be opened after your death has occurred. This periodoften involves people gathering in larger groups and celebrating yourlife. Family and friends that live outside of the area may also try tomake final visits to see you, to share what your relationship has meantto them over the years, and/or offer support and help during your timeof dying.
Keeping Active
Dying is also a time to continue daily activities (as much as possible)and live each day to the fullest, rather than becoming withdrawn andisolated. You may have a list of things that you wish to do beforedeath occurs, including traveling to special places, spending time withfamily and friends, reading, etc. Even though death is imminent, youcan work to keep active in mind and body and enjoy the days that youhave remaining.
Keeping active does not necessarily mean beingwith others constantly. It is important to remember that you have theright to be alone and process your thoughts and emotions privately.Family and friends may want to be with you constantly and offer theirsupport in order to distract you (and themselves) from what is coming.It is okay to say that you need to be alone if you desire or need some"down time."
It is also important for you to remember that during this time it's okay (and quite normal) for you to want to:
The separation of self and infinity....
Journaling/Life Review/Making Amends
Onceyou have come to accept your upcoming death, you may want to begin alife review or journaling process in order to get your thoughts out onpaper or to share your history with family for future generations.You may also wish to repair broken relationships or resolve previousconflicts. This process may include contacting people that you may havehurt in some way, whether by words or actions. You may feel the need toresolve issues, as a way of tying up "loose ends." Many dying peoplefeel that it is time to put affairs in order and enjoy relationshipsduring the time that is remaining.
Saying Goodbyes
In addition to repairingbroken relationships or making amends, it is also a time to say goodbyeto family members and friends. This can be done verbally or by writingspecial letters to be opened after your death has occurred. This periodoften involves people gathering in larger groups and celebrating yourlife. Family and friends that live outside of the area may also try tomake final visits to see you, to share what your relationship has meantto them over the years, and/or offer support and help during your timeof dying.
Keeping Active
Dying is also a time to continue daily activities (as much as possible)and live each day to the fullest, rather than becoming withdrawn andisolated. You may have a list of things that you wish to do beforedeath occurs, including traveling to special places, spending time withfamily and friends, reading, etc. Even though death is imminent, youcan work to keep active in mind and body and enjoy the days that youhave remaining.
Keeping active does not necessarily mean beingwith others constantly. It is important to remember that you have theright to be alone and process your thoughts and emotions privately.Family and friends may want to be with you constantly and offer theirsupport in order to distract you (and themselves) from what is coming.It is okay to say that you need to be alone if you desire or need some"down time."
It is also important for you to remember that during this time it's okay (and quite normal) for you to want to:
- Be assertive in communicating with health care providers and family/friends
- Ask for more pain medication (or other medicines that keep you comfortable)
- Watch television (even if it's "trashy" tv)
- Ask for a particular food or drink (even if it's unhealthy or unusual)
- Take a nap
- Laugh or be silly
- Cry
- Be afraid
- Scream/Shout
- Do nothing for a while
- Do what feels right to you, even if it doesn't make sense to others
