Another girl problem/advice thread

[frankmatthews]

So I broke up with my girl of 4 years about 2 months ago.  Long story short, the trust was gone on both sides and we had been doing the long distance thing for about 9 months prior.  Most people in a serious relationship will understand when I say she always acted like it wasn't enough.  No matter what I did she always acted like I didn't care about her and constantly started arguments with that as the premise.  I really wanted things to work out but I decided things would never change and ended it after the last argument.  I just wasn't happy but cared about her a lot despite what she thought.

So anyway, like I said it has been 2 months since we broke up and she still texts me like once a week saying random stuff.  I pretty much have ignored every one of those texts, no response at all.  But I broke down the other day and replied with a long %+# text about why I don't respond and how I was feeling.  She says she's not asking to get back with me but that she would like to be friends.

Now I thought about it but I just have no desire to be friends with this chick.  I loved her less than 3 months ago but I don't really know why I don't wanna be friends now.
I can't really explain my reasoning but I just wanna be done with her.  I don't want to tell her off or change my number because I keep thinking I might regret it plus I have no reason to act like that with her.

So who here remains friends with their ex?  Any similar situations?  Just looking for some advice on how to proceed with her.  I need an outside perspective on all this.


Cliffs:
-broke off a 4 year relationship
-upset that her insecurities destroyed our relationship
-she wants to just be friends now. I don't really want to deal with her anymore but have no reason to completely cut her off.
-Comments, advice, similar situations?

 

[SHERLOCK87]

pics.. and ages..


and pics

 

[feedtheego1982]

I was in a similar situation bro. Best thing to do is to cut it off. It hurts now, but the pain will go away with time. The longer you hold on, the more painful it will be. Esp. when she thinks its cool to start talking about the other guys that are probably attacking that womb... Don't do it man. Treat it like a band-aid.. One motion, RIGHT OFF!!!!!

 

[shatterkneesinc]

no being friends with ex...screw all that political correctness BS.

 

[boi]

Reads thread title..

 

[flacobey]

Originally Posted by Boi

Reads thread title..

but OP, trying to remain friends with her will only make things worse in the long run

 

[thatpersianguy]

Only be friends with exs if there are benefits involved. Otherwise, disregard them and acquire currency.

 

[6 Rings G.O.A.T.]

Originally Posted by FrankMatthews

She says she's not asking to get back with me but that she would like to be friends.
  

Ignore..

She want to be "just friends" with you until she hook up with somebody else..

 

[wisepharoah]

9 times out of ten females only want to be "friends" to keep tabs on you. When she meets another dude she really likes that provides all of the things your "friendly" relationship provides plus more she will all but dip on you. Don't date for awhile and just use the time to fall in love with yourself. You will be amazed at how the world changes around you.

 

[Gill Baka Esq. LLC.]

tell her you won't be friends with her cuz you've already taken it to another level so you can't go from a general to a lieutenant. Tell her you guys can be acquaintances, but you'd rather not put a label on what you and this girls "status" is.

Don't call, don't text, delete from FB and any other social device.

Drives them *%%%%+% nutz

 

[sneakerking757]

I like the part where you posted pics.

 

[rawex5]

Me and my ex of two years broke up in 2009 and we haven't spoken since. The funny thing is it wasn't a bad break-up. I told her never to contact me and she respected that.

I'm sure you have friends, so you don't need one more.

If you don't want her back then you won't regret not being friends with her. It's weird that you don't talk to someone anymore who was a big part of your life, but you get over it and move on quickly.

 

[frankmatthews]

Originally Posted by WISEPHAROAH

9 times out of ten females only want to be "friends" to keep tabs on you. When she meets another dude she really likes that provides all of the things your "friendly" relationship provides plus more she will all but dip on you. Don't date for awhile and just use the time to fall in love with yourself. You will be amazed at how the world changes around you.

That's obvious, right?  I knew I wasn't trippin.

Thanks for the comments tho, good to see everyone is seeing it how i'm seeing it.

 

[josednk1068]

Tell her you just tryin to hit that and your not tryin to hear no bull from her. Tell her that she needs to make you something to eat everytime you roll over the crib too, let us know what type of response you get from that. She may accept that and it will be a win for you or she won't accept and never want to talk to you which will be a win for you.

 

[frostythepoptart]

yall should %#%! with the pics. I hope no NT'er is dumb enough to post pics on here. People stay linking peoples facebook to threads, snitching in 1001 ways for some lulz.

my advice you gotta dead her you should have never responded. you caved once don't do it again just focus on moving on. get some rebound vaj in the meantime

 

[mytmouse76]

i would hold of on being friends until you're completely over it...

if you want to be real friends after that cool but more than likely you'll see its not really necessary

 

[that kid daniel]

friends shouldn't even be an option. She only wants to be friends with you because she misses that security of having you. If it wasn't a healthy relationship OP, then just move on.

 

[degenerate423]

Originally Posted by WISEPHAROAH

9 times out of ten females only want to be "friends" to keep tabs on you. When she meets another dude she really likes that provides all of the things your "friendly" relationship provides plus more she will all but dip on you. Don't date for awhile and just use the time to fall in love with yourself. You will be amazed at how the world changes around you.

Always with the good advice

.  Bold for emphasis, only reason I would keep an ex around is if she benefited me somehow...

 

[frankmatthews]

Originally Posted by mytmouse76

i would hold of on being friends until you're completely over it...

if you want to be real friends after that cool but more than likely you'll see its not really necessary

Yeah I kinda already feel it's unnecessary but shes acting like I think I'm too good.  But you're right. Thanks

 

[ins]

Walked in then...

Listen to kim by Em and keep it moving. My girl deaded me at the beginning of the month. 

 She was talking aout how it will kill her if she sees me with another girl, then $%%!% why the ##%# did you end !!%*. *@+#%*% hate !!*%++%

 

[ogmikey]

Tell her you're not ready.

 

[offbad]

WIO