Anyone parents have dementia or super bad short term memory?

[Beruseruku Desu]

My mom is in the hospital recovering from open heart surgery and her short term memory is terrible right now.

its been bad before but its even worse now that shes done with the surgery.

she keeps thinking forgetting shes in the hospital and imagines other situations (ie. she thinks shes at our house, or someone elses house, etc)

its sad seeing my mom's mental state being unstable esp since shes still young (60).

anyone have any tips or experiences?

 

[Beruseruku Desu]

Going Under Anesthesia May Impact Your Memory

Researchers conclude that middle-aged people have a higher risk of memory loss and cognition decline after undergoing surgical anesthesia.

https://www.healthline.com/health-news/going-under-anesthesia-may-impact-memory#1

 

[Top Boy]

My long term memory* is poop. Been under anesthesia.......................... twice I think but it was in my late teens/early twenties.

*Wouldn't say its trash its just hella selective. I think I just don't pay attention to things/people if im not interested even if I am actively listening.

Hope your mom recovers quickly, hold your head.

 

[Extrait de Minimalisme]

Yes. It can be brought on/get worse due to infections or hospitalization. Tell the doc your observations and ask for her to see a neurologist if it gets any worse.

60 is young but still in range. Has she had any major head injuries ? Hope she gets to felling better, it’s rough.

 

[va757va]

Hope ma dukes recover well fam... that’s a very serious medical procedure

 

[ksteezy]

Hope your mom recovers man, you sure is not Alzheimer’s onset? I know that’s not something you want to hear, my mother was misdiagnosed for years and because of that we had no clue how to deal with her and she fell into depression, turns out all along she had Parkinson’s that went untreated.

Stay on top of these doctors, is the best advice I can give you.

 

[ahat]

Hope your mom recovers bro

Mine has short term memory problems, as well as a number of other ailments.

It's tough, but that's the woman that raised me, took care of me when I was sick, changed my ****** diapers. I'll do anything for her. I won't lie it does get irritating at times having to repeat things again and again but just remember they honestly cannot remember (or in my mother's case, she can't hear that well either). Your patience will definitely improve.

Best of luck man.

 

[Beruseruku Desu]

Thanks for the comments guys, really appreciate it. I’m really hoping when she comes home she’ll get better.

 

[nawghtyhare]

Only gets worse man
But stay strong
Don’t put her in a home
So many folks resort to that
Do everything in ur power not to let that happen
Stay strong bruh

 

[User 15002]

Only gets worse man
But stay strong
Don’t put her in a home
So many folks resort to that
Do everything in ur power not to let that happen
Stay strong bruh

This is only good advice if you are in a position to give her the care and amount of attention she needs. Otherwise she could be in danger living with you. Better for them to be safe than being in a situation where she can cause harm to herself.

 

[SlunderKingpin]

My grandfather had dementia towards the end of his life and my grandmother left him so I had to take care of him because he didn’t want to go in a home. One of the worst experiences of my life. I say that to say this...

My grandmother has early Alzheimer’s and horrible short term memory but she has a great sense of humor and is a sport about it. So it really isn’t that bad after the initial realization she has a problem. She has been plagued with health problems the last ten years. Heart attack, pancreatic cancer (beat it), diabetes, asthma, heart failure.

So it’s all in the attitude the person has as well as yourself. It’s rough to watch your loved ones health diminish but stand by them and remember to have patience because most of the time that’s the hardest part. I wish you and your mother the best.

 

[nawghtyhare]

My grandfather had dementia towards the end of his life and my grandmother left him so I had to take care of him because he didn’t want to go in a home. One of the worst experiences of my life. I say that to say this...

My grandmother has early Alzheimer’s and horrible short term memory but she has a great sense of humor and is a sport about it. So it really isn’t that bad after the initial realization she has a problem. She has been plagued with health problems the last ten years. Heart attack, pancreatic cancer (beat it), diabetes, asthma, heart failure.

So it’s all in the attitude the person has as well as yourself. It’s rough to watch your loved ones health diminish but stand by them and remember to have patience because at times that’s the hardest part. I wish you and your mother the best.

Wait
He got dementia
She left him because if it
Then she developed Alzheimer’s????

 

[SlunderKingpin]

Wait
He got dementia
She left him because if it
Then she developed Alzheimer’s????

She left because she was having health problems and she and my grandfather had really became toxic towards each other.
I still think it was cold but she did what she had to do. Doctor even told her to leave him or she would have another heart attack.
But yeah life is crazy she has developed similar issues but has a way better disposition. My grandfather was calling me and other family members demons, going out naked, fighting neighbors. It was insane.

 

[nawghtyhare]

She left because she was having health problems and she and my grandfather had really became toxic towards each other.
I still think it was cold but she did what she had to do. Doctor even told her to leave him or she would have another heart attack.
But yeah life is crazy she has developed similar issues but has a way better disposition. My grandfather was calling me and other family members demons, going out naked, fighting neighbors. It was insane.

Ooooh ok
Yeah I get it
Were they still married
Just not together
or did they get a divorce

 

[6 Rings G.O.A.T.]

I'm wishing your mother the absolute best.

 

[htg designs]

I'd talk to her doctor about taking supplements to ensure they don't clash with any medication on treatment she's on.

But I'd look into Ginko Biloba and Fish Oil Omega 3s.

Gotta try to fight to reverse this or slow it down. My grandma has alzheimers, it suck bro. Like nawty said, it'll only get worse. Wish her and you the best. Blessings.

 

[Beruseruku Desu]

Only gets worse man
But stay strong
Don’t put her in a home
So many folks resort to that
Do everything in ur power not to let that happen
Stay strong bruh

This is only good advice if you are in a position to give her the care and amount of attention she needs. Otherwise she could be in danger living with you. Better for them to be safe than being in a situation where she can cause harm to herself.

You guys are recommending me to not put her in a retirement home?

im assuming you guys had bad experiences?

 

[iamdef]

Both my great-grandparents had dementia but all of it was happening while I was out of state so I don't have much first hand experience but did encounter intimately a married couple who both had dementia.
Husband was cool, very docile but the wife was the opposite very hostile at times. Was tough to deal with her not listening, making threats, and basic self care.

I won't make any recommendations, but you do learn a lot about yourself and how much you can mentally deal with when helping out those who can't.

 

[User 15002]

You guys are recommending me to not put her in a retirement home?

im assuming you guys had bad experiences?

I'm totally FOR a retirement home if it is a good one.
My parents had my grandmother for several years at home. She got to where her struggles were not just mental, but she was in danger of causing injury to herself trying to do things in the house. There just happened to be a brand new retirement home being built down the street from my folks. They got her in and it was great. My father could visit her every day and pick her up whenever he wanted. But at the same time she had the care she needed and was in a place that could keep an eye on her all day.

 

[Liquid Swords]

My grandpa had dementia and it was tough but he's in a better place now.

Praying for the best for your ma and the family